rasberrywatergirl
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No apologies needed, IMO, as your advice is always sound. Thanks man! 
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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2
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onetwothreefour
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*volunteers in this time of need*
look at the chivalry!!
look at the chivalry!!
onetwothreefour
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oh i do my research. elementary my dear moe, elementary
so um anyway, to keep this on topic.
i don't know what to do. valentine's day left me with a couple of options: one i definitely don't want to pursue, and one i should but have gotten cold feet on.
it's someone that i used to be interested in, but the longer it's gone on, the more i've analysed the situation and semi-walked away from it. i don't think most people would though: we're good friends, she's very attractive, she's very intelligent. she's a little intense though (most people who know me would probably say that i'm, ah, a 'little' laid back), and i'm wondering what to do.
this is all too hard. i probably should date her, but why bother if the odds of it actually working are only fifty-fifty at best anyway? i hate this shit.
so um anyway, to keep this on topic.
i don't know what to do. valentine's day left me with a couple of options: one i definitely don't want to pursue, and one i should but have gotten cold feet on.
it's someone that i used to be interested in, but the longer it's gone on, the more i've analysed the situation and semi-walked away from it. i don't think most people would though: we're good friends, she's very attractive, she's very intelligent. she's a little intense though (most people who know me would probably say that i'm, ah, a 'little' laid back), and i'm wondering what to do.
this is all too hard. i probably should date her, but why bother if the odds of it actually working are only fifty-fifty at best anyway? i hate this shit.
onetwothreefour said:oh i do my research. elementary my dear moe, elementary
so um anyway, to keep this on topic.
i don't know what to do. valentine's day left me with a couple of options: one i definitely don't want to pursue, and one i should but have gotten cold feet on.
it's someone that i used to be interested in, but the longer it's gone on, the more i've analysed the situation and semi-walked away from it. i don't think most people would though: we're good friends, she's very attractive, she's very intelligent. she's a little intense though (most people who know me would probably say that i'm, ah, a 'little' laid back), and i'm wondering what to do.
this is all too hard. i probably should date her, but why bother if the odds of it actually working are only fifty-fifty at best anyway? i hate this shit.
you suck bradley!
that's the biggest loser post I've ever seen anyone ever write and you thoroughly deserve a good glove slapping
My advice is a) never use the words 'analysed the situation' with respect to dating/relationships ever again! Think less, act more! Embrace intuition and spontaneity. The more you turn it over in your mind the more you bog yourself down in analysis paralysis.
b) if the odds of something working out were 50/50 then why the hell wouldn't you give it a go! There's a concept I use in my working life known as the risk/return correlation. Anything that comes without risk also comes with fuck all return... the more you risk though the greater the potential payoff. And I mean when it comes to dating, odds of things going smoothly and establishing real compatibility are probably 20 to 30% at best, so if you were to go into something with an even chance you should be pretty buoyed.
c) Even if it doesn't work in the medium term, maybe it only works in the short term for a few months. Who cares!? That's more than enough time for plenty of fun to be had and plenty of lessons to be learned.
Why bother with it?! Because you've been posting the same vacillating, despondent and self-deprecating singles posts since I can remember. And if you dont take a punt on something then you're never going to find happiness, and you definitely deserve to find it man.
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silvia saint
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littleone said:
sex is so fucking overrated. you'll live.
kazza_baby
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you don't need men for sex.. that's why vibrators were invented!
joannie_mhm
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^^^^ speaking of which, it's my birthday next week. *hint hint nudge nudge amy*
dancefifi
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I like the way Macksta thinks.....
I agree with this.. The phrase 'always trust your instincts' has got through a lot of different areas in life. Being spontaneous can be very fun, the venture into the unknown, the thrill of something new, something different, though at times, things might not turn out as planned, but to me, you only live once, so why not take chances.. This also goes into the statement
To me, as long as there's a 50% chance that things will work out.. Why not take it, mayb try things so that it moves towards the positive 50, but then life's full of ups and downs, if you go down, take it as an experience, something that you can learn something from.... but...you'll never know what that road will lead you to, if you dont try it.. it might be a pleasant surprise...
well, none of my relationships have really gone medium term, much less long term. It's taken me a while to finally realise that a cpl of months isnt the 'average' relationship cycle. 8( However, in saying that, I don't regret any of the relationsip I've had. Maybe we didnt' try hard enough, maybe we were too different and things really didn't work out.. Maybe it just wasn't meant to be.. But what I got out of all of them were memories, those sweet memories (especially in the beginning of the relationship-'honeymoon period'). To me, as long as I know I've tried.. that's wat matters the most....
Well, that's my $0.02. We learn different things from every relationship, so why not embrace something if you think that there is a chance of it workin... learn from wat ever experience it brings you...
Macksta said:
I agree with this.. The phrase 'always trust your instincts' has got through a lot of different areas in life. Being spontaneous can be very fun, the venture into the unknown, the thrill of something new, something different, though at times, things might not turn out as planned, but to me, you only live once, so why not take chances.. This also goes into the statement
To me, as long as there's a 50% chance that things will work out.. Why not take it, mayb try things so that it moves towards the positive 50, but then life's full of ups and downs, if you go down, take it as an experience, something that you can learn something from.... but...you'll never know what that road will lead you to, if you dont try it.. it might be a pleasant surprise...
well, none of my relationships have really gone medium term, much less long term. It's taken me a while to finally realise that a cpl of months isnt the 'average' relationship cycle. 8( However, in saying that, I don't regret any of the relationsip I've had. Maybe we didnt' try hard enough, maybe we were too different and things really didn't work out.. Maybe it just wasn't meant to be.. But what I got out of all of them were memories, those sweet memories (especially in the beginning of the relationship-'honeymoon period'). To me, as long as I know I've tried.. that's wat matters the most....
Well, that's my $0.02. We learn different things from every relationship, so why not embrace something if you think that there is a chance of it workin... learn from wat ever experience it brings you...
Adikkal
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Good post Macksta, i whole heartedly agree. I especially dig the phrase 'analysis paralysis'. I'm going to steal it! Haha
1234 - "we're good friends, she's very attractive, she's very intelligent."
Read that again.
Now one more time.
Just GO FOR IT. Expect it to work and act accordingly. If it doesn't work then who gives a fuck, at least you know for sure. 50% odds are a great level to start at, as Macksta said, usually it's less than that. I don't really know what your looking for, maybe she's not 'together forever' material but for the interim she could be great fun!
Let us know what happens.
Adikkal
1234 - "we're good friends, she's very attractive, she's very intelligent."
Read that again.
Now one more time.
Just GO FOR IT. Expect it to work and act accordingly. If it doesn't work then who gives a fuck, at least you know for sure. 50% odds are a great level to start at, as Macksta said, usually it's less than that. I don't really know what your looking for, maybe she's not 'together forever' material but for the interim she could be great fun!
Let us know what happens.
Adikkal
onetwothreefour
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Originally posted by littleone
hehe you gentleman you..
come to brisbane!
hehe you gentleman you..
come to brisbane!
so harsh. come on, i'm being so giving and making the offer, surely the trip to melbourne is worthwhile
Originally posted by Macksta
you suck bradley!
you suck bradley!
this is true :D
My advice is a) never use the words 'analysed the situation' with respect to dating/relationships ever again! Think less, act more! Embrace intuition and spontaneity.
i know this. it's silly, and i think that's sorta what i was saying: if i'd not bothered to go over the situation a million times in my head then i would have gone for it. but i have, and thus things became all the more complicated - it's something i do constantly, and i need to fix
Even if it doesn't work in the medium term, maybe it only works in the short term for a few months. Who cares!? That's more than enough time for plenty of fun to be had and plenty of lessons to be learned.
i guess that doesn't really bother me too much - it's more that i'm so picky and touchy that i might end up in a bad situation from the beginning. but that is probably even more cynical than i should allow myself to be; unrealistic in the end. it's more likely to be okay for a short period than shit, and if it turns bad there's nothing to say i can't end it...
Why bother with it?! Because you've been posting the same vacillating, despondent and self-deprecating singles posts since I can remember. And if you dont take a punt on something then you're never going to find happiness
this is possibly true, also
okay, fine. i'll take her out on a date, if only to shut you guys up (note: untrue :D). but yes, i will. and i'll report back to see how things are going. this could be very 'interesting'. i'm gonna do moonlight cinemas with her...any film reccomendations?
Originally posted by Adikkal
1234 - "we're good friends, she's very attractive, she's very intelligent."
Read that again.
Now one more time.
Just GO FOR IT. Expect it to work and act accordingly. If it doesn't work then who gives a fuck, at least you know for sure. 50% odds are a great level to start at, as Macksta said, usually it's less than that. I don't really know what your looking for, maybe she's not 'together forever' material but for the interim she could be great fun!
1234 - "we're good friends, she's very attractive, she's very intelligent."
Read that again.
Now one more time.
Just GO FOR IT. Expect it to work and act accordingly. If it doesn't work then who gives a fuck, at least you know for sure. 50% odds are a great level to start at, as Macksta said, usually it's less than that. I don't really know what your looking for, maybe she's not 'together forever' material but for the interim she could be great fun!
i know i know i know i know. i think it's the fact that - despite craving that intimacy that an s/o provides - i am fairly comfortable being single that stops me from going for it right away. it doesn't bother me enough to just throw myself at any situation that might lead to a relationship. but you're right in saying that no one neccessarily needs to look for 'together forever' material: even if she's not then it doesn't have to end badly.
we'll see. i'll be back
onetwothreefour
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garden state's finished its run at melbourne's moonlight 
i was thinking perhaps hero ('cause we were s'posed to see that already but timetables conflicted), grease ('cause it's so cute! :D), or i
huckabees...there's not much in the way of subtle romance left, except for lost in translation and if i saw that all i'd do is rant and rave about the actual movie
beer in sydney is going to be late, if it happens, sadly. my plane doesn't get in till about eleven pm
i was thinking perhaps hero ('cause we were s'posed to see that already but timetables conflicted), grease ('cause it's so cute! :D), or i
huckabees...there's not much in the way of subtle romance left, except for lost in translation and if i saw that all i'd do is rant and rave about the actual movie beer in sydney is going to be late, if it happens, sadly. my plane doesn't get in till about eleven pm
Shnouzerpuff
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woot. Ended up SMS'ing the girl I met on weekend before Valentine's Day saying see ya later, as I never heard back from the voicemail I left on her phone 2 days ago.
Get a concerned SMS back.. a small rally of SMSing occurs in which is is suddenly obvious she just didnt know I called and hadnt checked her voicemail.
Final result? A date when she returns from Sydney in a week or so.
Well Wicked.
Get a concerned SMS back.. a small rally of SMSing occurs in which is is suddenly obvious she just didnt know I called and hadnt checked her voicemail.
Final result? A date when she returns from Sydney in a week or so.
Well Wicked.
Mary Poppins
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^ yay
when sms goes right!
when sms goes right!