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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2
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Thanks guys
hugs to you both. Wacky I'm sorry I didnt get a chance to have a better chat to you at the BL meet-up. You seem very sweet.
Yeah it was ok. We had dinner at the Bondi Hotel. He was difficult to understand since hes only been in Australia for a few days. We had a good time but no spark or chemistry I doubt I will see him again.
It felt nice to talk to someone new though and finally start getting out and meeting new people. I think I need to get out of my shell a bit more and start living life to the fullest.
Thanks guys
hugs to you both. Wacky I'm sorry I didnt get a chance to have a better chat to you at the BL meet-up. You seem very sweet.Yeah it was ok. We had dinner at the Bondi Hotel. He was difficult to understand since hes only been in Australia for a few days. We had a good time but no spark or chemistry I doubt I will see him again.
It felt nice to talk to someone new though and finally start getting out and meeting new people. I think I need to get out of my shell a bit more and start living life to the fullest.
Acturally I kinda have a funny story that happened. I was pretty drunk when I met the guy I was going on the date with so I didnt really remember what he looked like. I knew he wasn't hideous and I knew he was Irish and thats about it. So I was waiting for him out the front of the restaurant and a guy came up to me and said 'Hi" I said hi back and we started chatting then it dawns on me that the guy im talking to doesn't have an irish accent. So I ask him if hes the guy I was supposed to be meeting and he says yes but then I question him about the accent and he comes clean that he just wanted to talk to me and he wasnt the guy I was waiting for....
ian_strong
Bluelighter
nice one smart e... glad to hear you had a good time.
Shnouzerpuff
Bluelighter
Going off my theory that on the weekend preceding Valentine's Day it is 1000 times easier to pickup I was proven right.
Had a chat to a pretty girl who recognised me from Uni:
"Hey you go my Uni - we call you the Red Hot Chili Peppers guy. Been wanting to talk to you all year"
She was pretty and seemed nice, but there was no real spark there so I doubt I will call.
Though she gets massive points for calling me The Red Hot Chili Peppers guy. That shit is awesome.
Either way, bugger it. I am off to a pool party today - who knows what will happen.
BTW single people, go out tonight to a Sunday session.
Had a chat to a pretty girl who recognised me from Uni:
"Hey you go my Uni - we call you the Red Hot Chili Peppers guy. Been wanting to talk to you all year"
She was pretty and seemed nice, but there was no real spark there so I doubt I will call.
Though she gets massive points for calling me The Red Hot Chili Peppers guy. That shit is awesome.
Either way, bugger it. I am off to a pool party today - who knows what will happen.
BTW single people, go out tonight to a Sunday session.
doofqueen
Bluelighter
pffft thanks for your thoughts and advice on my situation everyone! *sooks*
a continuation of it is that on friday we spent the day together when i took my little sister and her friend to the free "good charlotte" show in sydney and we had that first kiss and all that...
He sleapt over my place (nothing actually happened - it's weird cos i actually didn't want to do anything sexual with him) and went to his place saturday for a bbq with hs mates and stayed till sunday morning when i had to go to dress rehersal.
Anyway ... he's super sweet, thoughtful, would do anything i asked him to, attentive etc
But he's a little too clingy for my liking. Like he's very accomadating buit so much so that i look at him like he's a doormat![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
I can so understand why men say "women dont know what they want! They say one thing and do another!" because here i have the 'perfect' guy (as in if you had a check list he gets all ticks) and there is no spark there at all for me. AT ALL!
He's always wanting to hold my hand and be close to me (and yes i want adoraration - in fact he even looks at me like he's fallen for me) but i feel like i can't breathe or something.
I am always going on about the fact that i DO want a "nice guy" as opposed to an arsehole. constantly defending that argument and look at what i'm doing?????
I think maybe he's just moving too fast or something (not in the sex department, theres even no pressure and what not) but just the things he says like he's talking like we are already a couple and speaking about things a long way off the track.
I'm so fucking confused as to how i'm feeling, why i'm feeling it, if i should be feeling this, if i'm being a bitch or something.... fuck i just don't know
a continuation of it is that on friday we spent the day together when i took my little sister and her friend to the free "good charlotte" show in sydney and we had that first kiss and all that...
He sleapt over my place (nothing actually happened - it's weird cos i actually didn't want to do anything sexual with him) and went to his place saturday for a bbq with hs mates and stayed till sunday morning when i had to go to dress rehersal.
Anyway ... he's super sweet, thoughtful, would do anything i asked him to, attentive etc
But he's a little too clingy for my liking. Like he's very accomadating buit so much so that i look at him like he's a doormat
I can so understand why men say "women dont know what they want! They say one thing and do another!" because here i have the 'perfect' guy (as in if you had a check list he gets all ticks) and there is no spark there at all for me. AT ALL!
He's always wanting to hold my hand and be close to me (and yes i want adoraration - in fact he even looks at me like he's fallen for me) but i feel like i can't breathe or something.
I am always going on about the fact that i DO want a "nice guy" as opposed to an arsehole. constantly defending that argument and look at what i'm doing?????
I think maybe he's just moving too fast or something (not in the sex department, theres even no pressure and what not) but just the things he says like he's talking like we are already a couple and speaking about things a long way off the track.
I'm so fucking confused as to how i'm feeling, why i'm feeling it, if i should be feeling this, if i'm being a bitch or something.... fuck i just don't know
Riot Grrrl
Bluelighter
^ if you come out with anything, it should be that theres someone out there who really likes you, is attracted to you and wants to care for you.
Fuck, i wish i had someone like that. Why can't i find a guy who wants to hold hands, be close to me, stroke my hair and give me random kisses!! tis fucked. The thought of getting back with my ex is playing on my mind a bit. Though if i get back with him i'd only do out of convinience which is not a good enough reason for me to get back with him.
Fuck, i wish i had someone like that. Why can't i find a guy who wants to hold hands, be close to me, stroke my hair and give me random kisses!! tis fucked. The thought of getting back with my ex is playing on my mind a bit. Though if i get back with him i'd only do out of convinience which is not a good enough reason for me to get back with him.
doofqueen
Bluelighter
I know I feel like a right and proper ungrateful brat or something because it' something most people (including me) want out of a relationship with someone but there is just no spark on my side and i always give advice that if it's not there to start with it probably won't grow but how the hell do i break this off wth him without hurting his feelings and wondering he's done anything wrong? because he really hasn't
I feel like a right and proper ungrateful brat or something because it' something most people (including me) want out of a relationship with someone but there is just no spark on my side and i always give advice that if it's not there to start with it probably won't grow but how the hell do i break this off wth him without hurting his feelings and wondering he's done anything wrong? because he really hasn't 
LahLahGatecrasher
Bluelighter
*hugz*^^^^^^^^^^^^ and cumforts you.. and listen's*
Mary Poppins
Bluelighter
right - managed to work this into my posts in every other thread
yay for me and self pity.
finally, after muchos deliberation, got the guts to text pseudo an invite to dinner on v.day. 3 hours later and i'm still awaiting a reply.
he has to speak to me some time
yay for me and self pity.
finally, after muchos deliberation, got the guts to text pseudo an invite to dinner on v.day. 3 hours later and i'm still awaiting a reply.
he has to speak to me some time
onetwothreefour
Bluelight Crew
^^^ three hours isn't that long. he's probably just nervous and trying to think of what to say
and even if he says no...well, you're no worse off than all of us (that probably doesn't help 
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and even if he says no...well, you're no worse off than all of us
(that probably doesn't help ).
Mary Poppins
Bluelighter
it does a little bit
what's nerve-wracking about writing "yes" ?
i just wish i'd here one way or the other
happy valentine's day bl single thread participants!!!! :D
what's nerve-wracking about writing "yes" ?
i just wish i'd here one way or the other
happy valentine's day bl single thread participants!!!! :D
Shnouzerpuff
Bluelighter
it begins.
http://www.meish.org/vd/
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sorry... i love those cards...hehehehe
doofy- just lettin u know, if your feeling that way in the beginning, just let it go, no point it dragging, he will just get hurt. i been in that position SO mnay times, very very few guys i have spark with...
apart from my current man. but i wont talk about him here since i aint single
anyway. im still very anti V Day, too many years of being single have made me hate this day. at least i got some cute sweet messages tho. but still.
and
sorry... i love those cards...hehehehe
doofy- just lettin u know, if your feeling that way in the beginning, just let it go, no point it dragging, he will just get hurt. i been in that position SO mnay times, very very few guys i have spark with...
apart from my current man. but i wont talk about him here since i aint single
anyway. im still very anti V Day, too many years of being single have made me hate this day. at least i got some cute sweet messages tho. but still.
doofqueen
Bluelighter
thanks lala Does anyone not relate to what i'm saying though? ie the whole feeling like i can't breathe thing? anyone?
Would it be really gutless of me to break things off (seeing as he's acting that we are a couple already after three dates) by email? :/
I'm thinking of saying something along the lines of "i don't think i'm the right one for you, you want marrige and kids and we are very different " blah blah blah
rather then saying "your suffocating me, i think your boring and you act like a doormat and i have no desire to sleep with you whatsoever"
^^ I really want to be honest but i don't think in this case i can because i'll give the boy a complex and i will just make him feel bad
He even rang me this morning because it was valentines day (i have already discussed with him that i think it's a crock of shit) and mentioned something about it and said "Don't you want to be adored?" to which i replied "NO, certainly not!" but really i do just not by him.
I feel like a complete bitch Maybe i do want an arsehole. I think i have abuse issues or something (well i must.... i dunno) *sigh*
Does anyone not relate to what i'm saying though? ie the whole feeling like i can't breathe thing? anyone? Would it be really gutless of me to break things off (seeing as he's acting that we are a couple already after three dates) by email? :/
I'm thinking of saying something along the lines of "i don't think i'm the right one for you, you want marrige and kids and we are very different " blah blah blah
rather then saying "your suffocating me, i think your boring and you act like a doormat and i have no desire to sleep with you whatsoever"
^^ I really want to be honest but i don't think in this case i can because i'll give the boy a complex and i will just make him feel bad
He even rang me this morning because it was valentines day (i have already discussed with him that i think it's a crock of shit) and mentioned something about it and said "Don't you want to be adored?" to which i replied "NO, certainly not!" but really i do just not by him.
I feel like a complete bitch
Maybe i do want an arsehole. I think i have abuse issues or something (well i must.... i dunno) *sigh*