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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

I can relate on the feeling suffocated thing, my first proper boyfriend who i was with for only 3-4 months, totally doted on me all the time, very touchy feely, always messaging, saying nice things always, wanted to see me ALL the time, blah blah blah, i felt cmpletely overwhelmed cuz im so independent...

i always have to this day half put it down to me only being 18 though and not ready for that kind of a relationshipo. but i still think if i had that today id be like... uh... TOO MUCH.

space invaders arent nice. TOO nice guys are just annoying. maybe its cuz im not girly girly tho, so i laugh at a lot of nice stuff. feel stupid getting it. i dunno.

/me shuts up8o
 
Mary Poppins said:
finally, after muchos deliberation, got the guts to text pseudo an invite to dinner on v.day. 3 hours later and i'm still awaiting a reply.
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originally posted by 1234three hours isn't that long. he's probably just nervous and trying to think of what to say
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bloody hell brad would you just text the girl
nun of this bloody hey if i text you back your luck
she put her hart out there bloody stop being lazy and text back

lmao
 
^ =)

well i finally got a message back. a message that did nothing in either dispelling any negative thoughts, nor answered any of my questions...

fantastic.

:(
 
Mary Poppins said:
^ =)

well i finally got a message back. a message that did nothing in either dispelling any negative thoughts, nor answered any of my questions...

fantastic.

:(
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Weren't you listening to Adikkal at all? You got sucked into the SMS trap :(

That shit will take your heart, chew it up and spit it back out on the sidewalk if you're not careful babe.

In the delicate courting stages such as these it so so so pays to be a little upfront and call people, to save yourself the emotional agony of having to wait for an SMS reply if nothing else.
 
yes!
god i would be rich now if i had a dollar for every friend i had to console after their sms's got no response.
the worst he can say is no, and at least then you can move on instead of wondering.
 
Pop Popavich said:
Thats one of the parts where I have trouble. I'm REALLY bad at telling if someone is interested in me, and as a result, I'm probably not that good at reciprocating the interest and letting the girl know that I'm keen.
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For some weird reason, whenever I find out someone IS interested in me, I automatically shut down a bit and go all weird on them. I seem to panic whenever it seems that things might actually be going right... like I'm waiting for the catch to come! *sigh* It's days like today to be cynical!

Actually in a bitter mood right now purely coz I just got home from dinner with my sister and literally we were the only people in the restaurant that weren't a couple. We usually go out for dinner every Monday, damn that Valentines day fell on Mon! (Actually the waiters might have thought that we were actually a couple, we still got serenaded with a love song - giggled like kids through it tho) :/
 
I'm quite annoyed at how few people are online tonight :p:\ Valentines day blows.
 
*Shrugs*
Its Valentines day, and single I am. I still did have fun and a warm fuzzy moment sending a message and getting its reply. :)

<3
 
^^man that's gotta suck. was it in person or a less personable method (like over msn...that really hurt).

i got lindt from my mummy and my best friend for v-day. a far better effort than any male could have made anyway. single is the best thing for me. im trying not to do my head in anymore over this boy who is the greatest thing since sliced bread and is so cute in little jeans and stripey shirts and cons and *sigh*

must not think about him!
 
over the phone while he was on a break at work. haha ouch. i feel suprisingly good though. aww and thats nice ur mum did that. my dad got me roses hehe :)
 
he was an asshole anyway by the sounds of it, so you're better off without him!

i got a single red rose & this little card from one of my friends (so cute!):
 
littleone said:
im now single!! i got dumped on valentines day. i say that that takes every cake.
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That's awful. You deserve someone who has the courage to deal with a situation in person anyway.

Remedy for Valentine's Day: I finished holidaying in America with a friend on Sunday 13th and landed back in Australia this morning, Tuesday 15th so we managed to skip the day altogether thanks to the international dateline. Perfect solution =D
 
Doofqueen, you're not a bitch, you don't want an asshole and you don't have abuse issues. The reason you aren't feeling that spark is because he is acting like a WUSS! He is 'nice' but he's not causing attraction. He's supplicating and being a little bitch by doing everything you want and therefore any interest you have in him quickly diminishes. When you don't pose a bit of a challenge or mystery to someone then they will NOT be attracted to you. Seriously, this is something everyone needs to learn.

It WILL help you if you apply the concept. Guys, stop being wusses. If a girl is being a bitch then let her know, don't put her on a pedestal - she's not a queen. Don't be a sucker for beauty. Just cos a girl is lucky enough to be beautiful doesn't mean she should be treated like a Goddess... they will tire of that very quickly.

Be a challenge.

Alot of guys out there are genuinely really good people but are just fucking clueless about how to cause attraction in a woman. It's not their fault, it's the way society has framed the role of males in modern society. I think alot of the feminist movement and similar concepts may have backfired on women as they now find it increasingly difficult to find a real man. They'll find plenty of guys they like, but within a week or so the guy becomes to clingy and drives them away. We all seem to be expected to have the natural ability to attract and develop successful relationships (in every sense) and essentially we do, it's just that our instincts have been clouded by all the bullshit we've learned. This results in people failing time after time and heading into depressed states of mind feeling sorry for themselves. It shouldn't be taboo to LEARN about how to attract the opposite sex. People don't seem to like asking for advice in such an area, but suck up your pride and admit that you can learn alot if you're willing.

Without any knowledge of how it works tt's not good for either party and results in women getting frustrated that they aren't attracted to these really great guys and the guys wondering why the girl doesnt like them even when they treat them so well.

There is a difference between fondness and attraction. Learn it. Live it.

Adikkal
 
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yeah, sorry.. i'll try and shut up. I have a habit of giving advice even when it's not asked for, it's just that some things i really feel the need to comment on. Bleh, anyway
 
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