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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

funluvingurl said:
The thing is though, at the beginning they treat me lovely, then I get attached, then they don't treat me so good.
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I think that may have summed it up. Things are going well at first and then you may become a bit too attached, or at least seem to become to attached and he loses interest. The challenge/chase dies down as now he knows he can have you. This type of thing happens all the time and before you cry how men suck, realise that this is just a concept of attraction. We want what we can't have and like more what we have to work for.

The sooner you show your cards and display a definite interest the sooner you will lose your power.

It's a game.

The question is, do you want to play?

Adikkal
 
muzby said:
yeah.. with a dodgy skank sex is assured.. with a girlfriend, well, it always depends on what mood she's in.... ;) ;)
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One night stands with randoms, i dunno, it's like you're just going through the motions....nothing is really gained, and then the next morning you need to get the hell out of there and think up an excuse as to why she's never gonna see/hear from you again.

It's all just a big hassle....i'd rather go home alone and get a good night's sleep...
 
Originally posted by funluvingurl
I wanna know I keep on being attracted to boys who just don't treat me good enough. The thing is though, at the beginning they treat me lovely, then I get attached, then they don't treat me so good.


yeah.

boys are like that. not so good :(

hope it's not so bad though because it sounded more positive the other day. well, sort of ;)
 
Why is it that if I really want to go full out, dress trendy and go clubbing, I can get a girl that just wants a one night thing but when I want a gf I can't get one?

I hardly go out, due to lack of social life and because I don't just some one night thing.

Man why is it hard to find a good girl out there?
 
it's a matter of context, i think.

all the girls i ever seem to get interest from are my friends. which is often disconcerting ;)

but seriously, i'm socially retarded (which you may or may not be), and regardless find it difficult to connect with any random (perhaps depending on my drug or alcohol intake) at a club or pub.

but in a situation where i can become friends - say at uni, or through another friend - i seem to fare much better. it's worth thinking about: try to meet more people, perhaps, that you're likely to have more regular and comfortable contact with, without the pressure of potential relationships, even if that is what you're looking for (it's not like you have to tell them right away :D).
 
Zandesh i'd say you're more likely to meet a gf material girl through friends. Going out to clubs and looking smooth will attract girls for sure, but it's sort of a shot in the dark in terms of finding someone you really click with (sometimes literally... anyone else had a 'wow they looked alot better in the dark' moment?)

Having a larger social circle is probably the best way to meet new people on a regular basis. Lot's of different friends for different occasions. I always find that meeting a new person through a friend is easier as there's some common ground. It can start on a chilled 'get to know each other' vibe if thats what you want. In a club, the vibe is different. It's party, have fun, enjoy the nite. So if you ain't down for one night stands, clubs might not be the best place to go (they're usually too loud to talk anyway)

Maybe try some more chilled environments like relaxed bars, cafes etc.

I agree though, it's hard to find someone worthy of girlfriend material. In the meantime, stop looking and enjoy the ride :)

EDIT - HAHA, damn 1234 beat me to it

Adikkal
 
expectations are too high these days, plain and simple. people are too selfish. what happened to the good old days when people would get together and stay together out of the fear of being alone ?
 
^^^ the first three sentences are so true, but i don't see it as a problem for me. i'd rather be selfish and sometimes happy, sometimes sad, than unselfish and always annoyed.

fear of loneliness is what makes me sadder, but it's the former which keeps me awake to life, really.
 
onetwothreefour said:
Originally posted by funluvingurl
I wanna know I keep on being attracted to boys who just don't treat me good enough. The thing is though, at the beginning they treat me lovely, then I get attached, then they don't treat me so good.


yeah.

boys are like that. not so good :(

hope it's not so bad though because it sounded more positive the other day. well, sort of ;)
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Yeah it's ok - it's just not what I want. I am however just basically being irrational at the moment because I lowered the dose of my meds and I don't think it was a good idea. Last night he was just sleeping - messaged me at midnight, but I was asleep because when I flip out the only way to control myself is to sleep through it. Now he's going away today overnight. I guess I just want someone to put me first and to not treat me like I'm indespensible. (is that the right word?? I get confused). I still have my barriers up with him, and I've told him so - he's pretty far from *having* me, but the thing is, I want to let my barriers down, I'm really over being an ice queen, but I know that at the moment, that would be a really bad thing to do. But I don't particularly like the situation I've got myself into. Basically the main activity we seem to partake in is making out - whereas I just want something normal like dinner or movies - but both of us work a lot and we always seem to be meeting up at 11pm.
Fuck it. yeah I know. It really isnt peachy. And I know I deserve better, I really do, I just don't know where to find it.

P.S. Brad I totally got away with it - power of a fantastic outfit. Although I'm starting to think I should've told him - might've kept him on his toes.

P.P.S. Youre hot ;)
 
^ dispensible is the word you're looking for. indispensible is what you want to be ;):)

if someone is a 23 year old virgin who pretty much has never had a "proper" girlfriend and the last person they kissed [and almost lost their virginity to] was you [me] which was over a year ago.

and you didn't speak to each other for 9 months but as soon as you start being friends again the sexual tension is back and you spend heaps of time together and flirt like crazy and occasionally hold hands when you're out and drunk.

then what does it mean?????

to all intents and purposes we are a couple, but i have NO IDEA what the fucker thinks. He's so emotionally stunted and is relaly underconfident [even though he's a golden boy].

i don't get it :(:(:(:(

i'm too scared to bust moves becuase there's so much at stake and i don't want to get rejected.
 
Are my members seats in the grand stand still here?
And what about the tent pumping out drum and bass?

Guess I'm the old old fart around these parts then. Everyone else ran off and got married, or a life.
 
wow... here we are on page 69 of the singles thread...

i'm assuming that many people in this thread would not get a childish giggle out of the number 69, as it would have lost all sexual innuendo to them....


;)
 
sllip: don't worry, i definitely didn't get a life, but i guess i am still here, so that makes sense.

sad to see you back here again though man :(

(also, i think my pm inbox is empty atm ;)).

Originally posted by funluvingurl
P.S. Brad I totally got away with it - power of a fantastic outfit. Although I'm starting to think I should've told him - might've kept him on his toes.

P.P.S. Youre hot ;)


nah, i still don't think you should have told him, but i can't fucking *believe* you got away with it. that's crazy and impossible.

also, i'm not hot: remember, you're the one getting all the boys chasing after you, not me ;)=D
 
^^^ You want boys chasing after you?? I'm sure I can arrange a few if you'd like ;)

Yeah competely gone on mon morning. I was so proud of myself 8)

Yes you are, I have veto power/stuff/thing/ ok?

la la la, I love this thread. I gonna mention it in my eulogy.
 
Mary Poppins said:
^ dispensible is the word you're looking for. indispensible is what you want to be ;):)

if someone is a 23 year old virgin who pretty much has never had a "proper" girlfriend and the last person they kissed [and almost lost their virginity to] was you [me] which was over a year ago.

and you didn't speak to each other for 9 months but as soon as you start being friends again the sexual tension is back and you spend heaps of time together and flirt like crazy and occasionally hold hands when you're out and drunk.

then what does it mean?????

to all intents and purposes we are a couple, but i have NO IDEA what the fucker thinks. He's so emotionally stunted and is relaly underconfident [even though he's a golden boy].

i don't get it :(:(:(:(

i'm too scared to bust moves becuase there's so much at stake and i don't want to get rejected.
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you might just have to "bust moves" to get what you want! it sounds like there is something there, and if he's really inexperienced, then theres every possibility that he's too afraid to make the move!
 
Macksta said:
Yes you two looked quite cosey together arm in arm hehe....
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what you talking 'bout willis??


ok so the storry of my sad life part 123
the close friend who things were starting to heat up with sudenly moved ot perth after she gets into the uni in fremantel

i know its just the laws of nature telling me its not time et but fuck that shit if the laws of nature get in the way of my love life any more i'm going to kick some right royal arse (not you can only push a hipy so far efore e will break out the baseball bats and whop your arse)

now i'm eft with either losing her
keeping her and waiting 10 to 12 months efore we see each other again or moving to perth

personaly im thinking of giving it all up and becoming a nun (id become a monk but i look better in a nuns habbit)
 
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