• 🇳🇿 🇲🇲 🇯🇵 🇨🇳 🇦🇺 🇦🇶 🇮🇳
    Australian & Asian
    Drug Discussion

    Welcome Guest!
    Posting Rules Bluelight Rules
  • AADD Moderators: Tronica

Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

I'm single and happy :D

Well ... I've got my eye on someone, but he doesn't know how I feel about him ... this is the fun part! Once you get them, the funs over ...
 
well im not too sure how to say this. the girl that i am with at the moment is very hot. and she is such a nice person with all the good wholesome values that i want in a girl. but she also has that streak of wild that fascinates me, and sometimes makes me a bit jealous.

last night we went to ****'s ****** which is uber posh. i bought 3 martinis and a glass of wine for $58.00!!) just mingling with all the rich and beautiful people, the flirting of success. Although i loved every second of the place, i felt right at home, and enjoyed the overclass and sophistaciton it provies - she didnt. she puts me up on this pedastool of someone who she struggles to be with at the same level. I suppose i bring that upon myself with my choice of lifestyle.

slighty but surely the ''link'' between us has been severed. i really wish that she like the sort of places that i like. i love just hanging at the pub casual drunkeness, but i love getting dressed up and immersing myself in that superstar lifestyle.

she says im nice her firends say im super nice and hot. they think im the perfect package, but she feels she cant live up to me. and that makes me think that she is not right for me, because i dont have the energy to constantly re-assure her that she is more than ok.

there is also a bit of an intellectual difference, she is not super smart and conversations about world politics or any other semi-important issues are not well addressed.

what should i do? nothing...just take it as it comes? should i not lead her anywhere emotionally and just leave it as a mostly physcial relationship? should i try and spend more time with her and see if the love grows?

i dont know, but i think im going to head back to ****'s ****** next week and pick up and stupid hot uber chick.
 
^^^ Maybe she felt uncomfortable at the ritzy place because she might not earn as much as you. She might feel like she doesn't fit in ?? Did you stop to think how she would have felt ??

I know if I went out with some guy who took me to a full on fancy club and spent a fortune on 3 drinks I'd feel uncomfortable too. I guess its just what your used to and she obviously isn't used to places like that.

In regards to what to do about being with her ... give it time. You don't have to rush to any conclusion/decision. At the same time, if you guys aren't that full on, have fun with other people until you've made up your mind.

Don't settle with any one person until you know they are the one you want. Just because your seeing someone, it doesn't mean its exclusive. Once you've decided who you want to be with, thats when it becomes exclusive :D
 
^^ find out what she likes and take her somewhere she is comfortable. Ofcourse she isnt going to open up to you coversation-wise if she is somewhere where she feels out of place. just because she chooses not to talk about politics dosnt mean she dosnt care about politics.. see opening up to someone takes time, and maybe she needs time to get used to your taste in social venues and conversation.. come to some sorta deal with her like.. u know, one weekend u go somewhere she likes, then u go somewhere u like.. good luck
 
Originally posted by BopGirl
^^^ Maybe she felt uncomfortable at the ritzy place because she might not earn as much as you. She might feel like she doesn't fit in ?? Did you stop to think how she would have felt ??


i didnt take here there to impress. I had a friends birthday there. I have never been there before, but had a idea it was super dooper classy. I let her know and the whole situation was casual. well..... except the venue.

Originally posted by endlesseulogy
^^ find out what she likes and take her somewhere she is comfortable.


i've known her for about 2 weeks now, and we have been out a couple of timess casually and had a good time. but it has been the romantic 2 week period - which seems to be based on physcial attraction. I would be lying if i said it wasnt. She doesnt make me feel special, and as callous as it sounds the only reason that I'm associating with her is because i find her attractive. Body more than mind unfortunately. Not totally, but more or less.

i think its going to be best if i keep it as friends, (benifits still possible). Because i do like spending time with her as a friend, just romantically it feels like im trying to support something that might not be there.
 
up all night said:
Originally posted by doofqueen
^^ absolutely! Our imperfections are what makes us beautiful :)

Nah. Our imprefections make us unbearable. Finding a partner is just a matter of finding the person who gets least pissed off with our failings. ;)

Trying to decide whether I can continue dating someone whose preferred Turtle is Donatello. Donatello was such a nerd Turtle.
Click to expand...

Im trying to guess what Up All Nights favourite TMNT would have been.

Leonardo was a leader... but was a show pony glory boy... so she would have hated him
Donny... nerd... so yea... but apparently she likes her nerdy boys :)
Michallangello... was stupid, party animal... but was everyones favourite.
Raphel... sarcastic, cold, bitchy, apathetic, was the biggest individual... also probably the most real life person out of the ninja turtles.

I dunno as much as I wanna say Mich... Up all nights was probably Raphel.
 
papermate said:
i think its going to be best if i keep it as friends, (benifits still possible). Because i do like spending time with her as a friend, just romantically it feels like im trying to support something that might not be there. [/B]
Click to expand...

^^^ Good idea. And think of it this way, if you keep it mates for now, down the track things might develop into something more serious and by that time you'll have some idea where you stand with things and how you feel about her :D
 
arrgh!!! i need advice!!!

okay...

carrying on from my "workplace relations" incident of a couple of weeks ago...

i've started seeing both of the girls... one is purely physical, but the other is on more of an emotional thing....

i've got them to keep it all quiet, using the "workplace gossip thing" to not say anything to anyone...

but i wanna know.. which one should i break it off with? or should i break it off with both of them...

cause i know that if i keep this up, i will have my testicles served up to me on a silver platter before too long....
 
^^ no, if i was gloating about the situation, you would certainly know it...

i'd be going on about how hot/sexy/fantastic both girls were etc etc...


i'm in the situation where i need to decide whether to go for a physical attraction or an emotional attraction.. or neither...


and if i was making it up, i'd post it in SLR... thats the best place to talk about all the sex you are (not) actually getting...

:)
 
To be honest, I think you should cut it off with both of them and start afresh somewhere else. It really sounds like the kind of deal which could lead to shit hitting the fan - or going thru the airconditioning in an office situation ;)
 
Ah, but to be truly stalking someone, they mustn't know that youare stalking them. If you tell them you are intending to stalk them, it will put them on their guard and make it harder for you to successfully stalk.
 
^^ Muzby, getting involved with one girl whom u work with is not good... 2 is just craziness :)

I understand it is easy to like someone that u work with, i have many times.. i spend more time with ppl at work then i do with anyone else.

My son is actually a product of a one night stand with a guy i was pretty close to at work. Not good. Because now he goes out of his way to stay out of my way. And there is workplace gossip. It can never stay a secret...
 
Originally posted by Backo
Im trying to guess what Up All Nights favourite TMNT would have been.

Leonardo was a leader... but was a show pony glory boy... so she would have hated him
Donny... nerd... so yea... but apparently she likes her nerdy boys :)
Michallangello... was stupid, party animal... but was everyones favourite.
Raphel... sarcastic, cold, bitchy, apathetic, was the biggest individual... also probably the most real life person out of the ninja turtles.

I dunno as much as I wanna say Mich... Up all nights was probably Raphel.

LMAO =D If TMNT came out today I would probably be a Raphael fan but in my younger years I liked dopey party boys so no... it was Michelangelo.
<3 Cowabunga dudes.

papermate: Those sorts of bars would be very intimidating for someone who isn't used to that environment. The more she goes to them the more comofortable she would feel until eventually she could start enjoying herself. I don't think that's too much of a problem. The intellectual thing could be a bit of an issue though. I think you may get frustrated with someone who couldn't discuss things on your level and it doesn't matter how much physical attraction there is it's nearly impossible to maintain a relationship when you don't respect the other person. That being said, hve you really been in an environment condusive to in-depth discussions? A classy bar isn't generally where people like to start discussing the serious things in life.

muzby: You're a smart guy. How can you even considering bypassing a possible emotional connection with a girl for someone who is simply attractive? The girl you could have an emotional connection with obviously isn't heinously ugly because you've already fucked her... so go for her.

Trip-N-Pussy: I'll mud wrestle you for 1234 stalking rights. I'm already a repeat offender. :(
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top