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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

DJC* said:
^^^ Down girl, down. =D

A discussion i had with some friends lately was how much easier it was for a girl to pick-up than a guy. Thoughts??

DJC*
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Im all good hehe ;) i guess i just dont want a pretty boy wanker, and i guess its why i am 20 and have never had a long term relationship!!!!


DJC hook line n sinker i can pick up easy as if i want... sux 2BU =D hehe nah jokes!!! Not my slice of cake... the just sex thing, but if i wanted it i recon i could get it easily 8) But id never want it :)
 
Of course it's easier for girls to pick up!

All a girl has to do is decide that she wants sex and some guy will probably catch the vibe.

Guys always want sex. Therefore, they are more prone to disappointment. :\
 
^^^ But thats the thing...lately since i became single i've had more "flings" for want of a better word than ever before. Like i said previously, i'm not the sorta guy that picks up just like that, but in the past 10 months, when i've gone out and wanted to, i've been able to pickup. *shrugs* Not that i'm complaining. :D
But i'm over that, like you, its not my thing. So i stopped even trying.

DJC*
 
funki said:
, im not into hippys or scrubbas, just your av guy.....
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scrubbas no but fuck man the hottest guys i have seen are "hippies" like holy fuck! 8o They are just sex on legs with their big smiles, open minds and free spirits...mmmmmmm hippy boys mmmmmmm =D why do you think i go doofing? for the music? pffftttt it's the boys i tell ya! the boys! hehehe ;) =D

i don't particulary go for the "average' guys. I like the ones that are a little (or alot moreso) =D different and not in the norm. The ones that stand out and you can just tell they have their own sense of style and aren't worried about dressing and being like everyone else because they want to fit in.

Give me a dirty 'ferral" hippy boy any day over them clean cut pansies :p
 
I have a very simplistic look at relationships. Maybe someone will agree with me.

Going out socialising and meeting new people one way or another is a must otherwise you're already cutting your world and choices short.

Next, chemicals in your body tell you whether you are emotionally, physically, dependantly, etc. attracted to someone so it all comes down to following your feelings, or your heart.

The people you meet in life and end up forming a relationship with are there because there has a been a connection made between you on some level. It can be just sexual, just emotional (like a good friend), just a mutual dependancy (i need someone), a mix of all...If you just take a relationship for what it offers you don't get down on not having that next level of depth that you crave for. The next level is not something you can forcefully look for, just cruise around and meet people and see what happens!!

I have been in and out of some pretty shady relationships and they've all helped me learn about myself and the sort of girl that I connect with most. I've also been single for a while and in this time I've realised that you just have to take a relationship as a gift. Just recently I met this girl who is absolutely amazing!! I could talk about her for hours but I don't want to bore anyone but all I'll say is things just happened so quickly and so easily there was not a single thought about any of it. The connection was there from word go and the rest just fell into place. This is how a good relationship comes and how it should be so if you're all getting frustrated with yourself and everyone else then just be used to being your own person and be patient. One day someone will fall on your lap and you'll get more out of it if you're not just filling a void.

I may have gone too deep but all I'm trying to say is, just relax and go with the flow. Listen to your feelings and don't let yourself look for a relationship for the wrong reasons. Become your own person first, then you can truly enjoy a relationship, even for what its worth (casual coffee and sex? close and intense? close and confiding but not sexual? anything! Its all out there, you just have to listen to yourself)
 
^ I agree with all of that. If you're out desperately looking for someone you'll latch onto the first person who presents themself even if they're not exactly what you're looking for. If you're not looking and someone catches your eye you know there must be something pretty special about them [all of this is much easier said than done though].

But I also think the 'deeper connection' relationships rely heavily on timing. I've met some awesome people in my time who have absolutely blown my mind but timing and circumstance have come in the way of developing something more. It's such a tricky game... almost like the planets need to be aligned or something!

As for the 'picking up' thing. As I've said before I never pick up, and the only guys that ever talk to me say things like, "I've got a girlfriend but you're damn cute." Seriously, one night at Sublime I had that happen about six times. I guess in general girls get approached much more often than guys and so, consequently, can pick up much more often. It's all a matter of standards though...
 
#INCLUDE Girlfriend.c

If only it were that easy...

I've been single since December 2001. Up until recently I was more than happy to be single. I've spent 2 years doing what I want, when I want, who I want. The past few months I've been feeling pretty lonely, but I'm lucky that I have an incredible circle of friends, so company is never more than a phone call away.

But really, I don't expect to find a girl who could deal with my lifestyle at the moment... I work midnight-8am Monday-Friday, train for hockey 8pm-10:30pm Tuedays and Thursdays, coach hockey 8:30pm-10:30pm Wednesdays and play one game/coach one game on the weekends. On the weekendd I'm either at hockey, asleep or in the city (Melbs). Lately I've been lucky to find more than 10 hours a week for myself.

Show me a girl who can put up with all that and I'll show you a girl who deserves Sainthood. I know she's out there, I just don't have time to look!!

Kid_Cisco.
 
^^^ Agreed, and there is always a token ugly chcik to make the other more "attractive" girls feel more comfortable about themselves, it's disgusting.

In answer to biggerbear, I choose no to because even if it may be just one night of one, it could turn into more, and relationships terrify me that much that I won't go anywhere near what may end up in one.
 
ButrosButros_Grantos said:

In answer to biggerbear, I choose no to because even if it may be just one night of one, it could turn into more, and relationships terrify me that much that I won't go anywhere near what may end up in one.
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follow my (somewhat odd) routine :). i never take girls back to my house, and i don't do the "i'll call sometime next week".

at the same time, you have to be open when you start that you are not after a relationship. though that might get you some immediate rejections, it's better that way than heartaches down the track...

like i said earlier. i am somewhat odd.

(and i am in no way a stereotypical "hot guy" :), though i am sure callie will say otherwise)
 
Up All Night:

When checking out men, I seem to go for the same look as you! When in a club I am automatically attracted to the guys who look like typical "wankers".. big muscles, tanned skin, confident stance etc.. but in reality most of these guys have their heads so far up their ass' it's not funny. I don't like arrogant people at all... it doesn't matter how good looking a guy is, if he doesn't have the personality to go with it then it's not going to go anywhere & the initial attraction will be dispelled.
 
^^ Doesn't seem odd to me biggerbear, makes a whole lot of sense. If you aren't looking for a relationship don't pretend you are just to get some sex. If you just want sex devoid of emotional attachment, then make sure they know straight up, so theres no confusion - but, perhaps come up with a better way of saying it than "i wanna fuck you, but thats about it". =D
Doesn't tend to go down to well,

Adikkal
 
I cannot believe people as good looking and smart as Up All Night and Breakabeat are single.

It astonishes me :)
 
I go for beauty, beauty is not about phisical looks.
Its about being happy with who you are are and being sure of yourself.
If you honestlly think your hot - then im sure fans will flock to you.
 
I reckon being single while your housemate is attached sux.. We used to be like buddies, we're always together, but since she got a guy, they're like attached by the hip and i'm just stuck here at home. Can't go out much because I live in the country! :(

regarding which guys are considered hot.. I tink if a guy's got a great personality, it'll overshadow his physical traits... ;)
 
If this Guy has a GREAT Personality.

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Doe's that overshadow his physical traits?

And Be honest! ...

shals :)

- Image is first impressions!

Everyone basis things on image. People who say they don't are lying. - But I agree there is much more to a person then looks. Personality and character is what really stimulates! :)
 
shal said:
If this Guy has a GREAT Personality.
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Point taken with the picture showed....





- Image is first impressions!

Everyone basis things on image. People who say they don't are lying. - But I agree there is much more to a person then looks. Personality and character is what really stimulates! :)
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And, I do agree wif on how first impressions always have something to do with the image of the person.. It is true.. But, like Shals said, personality and character stimulates as well, for example, this guy/gurl can b really hot, but if he's/her personality stinct, then there's not really much stimulation there...
 
It is one thing to be disgusted by someone, and another to place personality over looks. If I meet a guy that I dont think is 'the physical Package' yet he is intelligent, insightful, social, witty and makes me laugh
That equates to the perfect personality package - which make me attracted to him. And how can you go past that ?

At the moment I am feeling very rejected. I cant help it, but breaking up sucks (this has been a continuous breakup for the last 6 months) but now its finally happened, I dunno.... its strange not having that person their anymore. I do not believe in spiritual connections between people, but I do think that people meet for a purpose in their lives... even those strangers you speak to for 5 minutes change your day, maybe a few words of conversation change a thought that you might have had.

I guess what I am trying to say is that I dont feel like I could have a connection with someone ever that I felt like I could be apart of. I am a strong believer in egoism - ie: everything we do is for our own purpose and this makes me believe that we only use people to better ourselves. Once we have got what we need, that person will move on. This is only sad if you dont see the evolutionary benefits in it. I guess you can say that I have lost faith in any the 'magic' or specialness of love. I guess its not even a loss of faith -more like an enlightenment to the truer purpose of it.

I guess the best way to sum up how I feel at the moment was something I wrote in my Livejournal a few months back. The more I experience life, the more I believe it.

Some one forgot to mention that love, in its most exquisite state, is just that, exquisite. And that love, in its most painful state, is also just that. Painful. Love is never an emotion that stands by itself. Love, I am convinced is not even an emotion. Fear and Hate and sadness and Happiness are emotions because they are unequivocal to us the state they induce us to. Love on the other hand can cause rage and pain and jealousy and lust and happiness. It can create subliminal and regrettable moments. Love is certainly no emotion. Love is a binding tool to help us humans create relationships in which we teach and learn about ourselves and each other.


Sorry for the ranting but I really needed to get this out

:)
 
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Mr. Horse said:
I cannot believe people as good looking and smart as Up All Night and Breakabeat are single.

It astonishes me :)
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So the rest of us single bluers are stupid and ugly? I take offence to that comment ;)
 
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