Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

[punch e punch]

I want someone to tell me to shut the fuck up and someone who is smart(highly intelligent) without being arrogant. I dont think that this is even possible.

Sure, it's possible. Breakabeat, shut the fuck up.

And I say it with love



Some of my best friends, IMO, are the ones who don't let me get away with saying stupid things.

 

[BREAKaBEAT]

^ but your hot..... and that was shallow of me to say
Mel baby good things come to bellas that wait

Waits for rich business man with mansion on the harbour to shower her with gifts and buy her plastic surgery then leave her with an unlimited credit card to "play" while he goes O/s on business.. alot

*dreamer*

Honey you dont need plastic surgery.

You are just as hot as I am.

j/king !

HOTTER

 

[BREAKaBEAT]

what is the mood of your post onetwothreefour? could you please add an emoticon! i was about to say you looked cute in the post a recent pic thread, and wondered why you'd be single too, but then got a little paranoid about what you were really trying to say. but i'll take a chance...
call me some time bigboy 040220!43.

Please keep it to PM

 

[Cpt.Caveman]

My point is that a relationship shouldnt be an emotional strain, it should all come easily and naturally. I have been in and out of a few long term relationships..Ive had a relationship of 3 years already and I'm only 20! I've never really had a casual relationship but I have had flings here and there.

I honestly think that when the right sort of person comes along everything comes very easily and without effort or thought. They are just who they are and you love that person and the rest falls into place. Its like you don't have to care for someone in a relationship, you love them and you just end up caring.

Sure being lonely can be hard and can turn your thoughts on yourself of why you don't have someone but being by yourself makes you stronger. So having said that, grow until theres someone to take along with the ride!

I'm sure theres someone out there for all of use who will make the sun shine brighter but its no use forcing it and each person you are with, no matter how long, helps you learn what it is exactly that you need in someone to have the best relationship. BREAKaBEAT, that perfect hot guy might just be around the corner, at your work tomorrow or the random gurner you next chat to at a club

 

[DJC*]

Single. Not happy with it, but content. Life goes on, so i may as well make the most of it. In the past 10 months i've been single, i've had some of the best times of my life. Made some amazing great new friends and learnt a lot about myself and others.

I've never met anyone at a club/pub/rave. Always through work or mutual friends.

Friends are a great basis for a good relationship, but its a catch 22, coz if it doesn't work you've not only lost a relationship, but possibly a friendship. Kinda sux really.

Meh, my signature says it all really.

DJC*

 

[onetwothreefour]

the amount of hot women in this thread is hugely depressing.

PITY THEY'RE ALL IN FUCKING SYDNEY.

and trip'n: fair enough, i probably deserved that

 

[Adikkal]

In response to up all nights questions, i'd say that approaching a girl and telling her she's hot is a stupid way to do it. a) because she's prolly heard this a million times and b) because it will put her on the defensive.

The best pick-up line is "hi"
My advice would be to find an 'angle' into conversation. Say you spot someone u want to talk to in a shop, looking at clothing, comment on the clothing. Or at a bus stop, you could ask them where they're headed. Basically, strike up a conversation based on your surroundings so its not such an obvious 'i'm trying to pick you up' - that is bound to be met with natural resistance even if they are attracted.

If you do compliment, do it sparingly. It is awkward to be showered with compliments, especially by someone you don't know. Compliment then continue in the flow of the conversation. Don't make a big deal of it.

Breakabeat - those relationships are possible but i guess both people have gotta be in the same mindset. Fun lighthearted, casual relationships should start on that basis and both parties should be aware of what the nature of the relationship will be. If both are cool with it then thats perfect. If one person is looking for something different then its not gonna work out - its best to clear these things up straight away to avoid confusion and emotional engtanglement.

To what DJC said about friends being a basis for a relationship - That is true, theres always that risk of losing the friendship which is why its probably better to try and make your move BEFORE you become friends. If it doesn't work out, you can still be friends after - knowing that you at least gave it a shot. It will save alot of emotional anguish in the long run.

Adikkal

 

[Macksta]

Yeah I gotta say the Sydney crew is full of hot babes!

 

[DJC*]

Adikkal: But i'm the sort of guy who doesn't get the girls straight away. All my relationships bar 1 have been with girls i've been friends with for a certain amount of time beforehand. I don't have the initial WOW factor that a lot of people have, i win girls over with my personality, and being a fairly quiet person, that takes time. I also don't make moves on girls, again with the exception of one, unless they have clearly shown an interest back. This stems from previous bad relationships, and a total lack of trust for the female kind.

I'd rather have a friendship with someone and get to know them, and let them get to know the real me, then move into a relationship. As you said, it is a risk. *shrugs* I'm lucky, with the exception of 2 i've managed to remain friends with all my ex's.

DJC*

 

[shal]

I want someone to tell me to shut the fuck up and someone who is smart(highly intelligent) without being arrogant. I dont think that this is even possible.

I dont want a realtionship, quite frankly I am very bitter at the moment and hate the thought of sharing time with someone that could get potenially close and pull away.

I want that friend thing. Yeah that casual thing. God I miss those days of juts being with someone cus it was fun and there was nothing better to do. It seems that if you are with someone these days.. maybe its sydney.. maybe its my age... everyone just seems so seriously entwined in their situations. Me included.

Did everyone forget how old they are ? I certainly have, I forgot that relationships dont have to be all work... they dont have to be a constant emotional strain. They can be fun and lighthearted and most importantly.. pointless. That is what I am after ... but only if it finds me.

I am not actively seeking anything, I feel weird even typing out this post

Mel - You are so right about the age thing. It seems these days that being 21 means acting 35. I've noticed that within myself so often and recently started thinking if my youth is some what escaping me.

Then again, todays day and age is changing so quickly. It seems that life more revolves around young people, but in saying that, it's turning us old quickly.

More responsibilities, Higher Expectations, Bigger Consequences!



shals...

 

[new_piller]

hi all single people.

first time ive looked in this thread

jus tlike to say im single as well.... it aint to bad. but its so hard when u want to have those "quiet" weekends and ur home alon eby yourself thats when it really sucks!

 

[new_piller]

I am so single right now it is not funny and have been my whole life, and i am.... 20 year of age and im not ugly.. well i dont think, its the way it goes for me, i do want something soon i hope!!!! but i aint looking for it, im having way to much fuc just going out and having an absolute ball, yeah i am sexually deprived and probably touch myself... alot, but thats all behind closed doors and only i know the truth
And i didnt post in here cause im looking, just cause i felt like it
hello keej my BIG girl woah :O

your not ugly

 

[Shnouzerpuff]

I am loving being single at the moment. Seriously.

I know it can be lonely, and I have done the hard yards and long stretches of celibacy..

But right now I am single, with two casual sex partners.

Seriously? It is fantastic.

I do not want an exclusive relationship with either girl, I know it takes someone special for me to commit 100% to, but until I find her (and I am allowed to keep looking) I still get the satisfaction and obvious benefits of having 2 women minus commitment.

 

[up all night]

Originally posted by funki
yeah i am sexually deprived and probably touch myself... alot, but thats all behind closed doors and only i know the truth

LMFAO. I love you so much Loz.

BREAKa: I know exactly what you mean. If you meet a guy who is everything you've described can you please refer me to his equally hot brother.

Adikkal: See that sort of approach I would appreciate. Compliments just scream of insincerity. But like I said, never get approached... it may have something to do with the fact I'm always scowling or raising my eyebrow at something. Note to self: practice pleasant demeanour.

 

[BopGirl]

good things come to bellas that wait

Uhuh!

I've been waiting 23 years ... so it's not gonna be a good thing, it's gonna be f*cking fanbloodytastic :D

 

[che_melbourne]

hmmm i can just see wot will happen in about a week...
www.bluelightmatchmaker.com.au

back to the topic... waiting doesnt work, you have to do something, fill your life with action, its only then that changes in your life will occur. in my time single, ive noticed that the more you try to go for a girl, the further away she will seem.

oh btw 1234... i agree... we either gotta go up to syd or get them to come down here with *incentives*

-dee

 

[BloSs0m]

Bloss is single.

Bloss is bored. 8)

Bloss enjoys cuddles and long walks along the beach.

Bloss likes fun.

 

[muzby]

update on the lovelife of muzby -

got asked out for a coffee by this friend of a friend...

jesus, once you get the girl in a one on one conversation, she has NO sense of humour...

anyone who knows me knows that i like to get people laughing, and this girl was just like a wall....

anyway, got rid of her "working early tomorrow, gotta run..."

get a message this morning... apparantly i'm intelligent and interesting, and she'd like to see me again...

happy to pass this one off to any of the single guys out there.....

she's a bit STRANGE....

 

[doofqueen]

I kinda go for the strange ones But they can't be *freaky* strange hehehe I always end up with partners that need be and people i want to "rescue" from something...i'm sick of that really. I want to be rescued from time to time *sigh* although i will always look after my partner though anyway.

Hmmm well i've been on a few dates lately and no one has really sparked my interest, also have a few guys interested in me but that 'click' or 'connection' just isn't there (or maybe just not yet? i'll give it some time. I don't want to start seeing someone ONLY because they like me and just see what happens in case things don't work out and i end up hurting them and i don't want to do that On another note someone who i am really keen in has just started going out with someone AGAIN fucken hell...i think i'm over it and am just not going to bother anymore and maybe when the time comes one will just fall in my lap...you reckon ?

 

[josh_nexus]

doofqueen; Yeah, the strange ones always get me

I think I might be too picky. I've been out on 3 dates recently and I wouldnt bother to go out with any of them again. Blah..... dating is too hard......

I often wonder what would happen if I didnt make any moves at all for a long period of time. Not even if they showed an interest. It would be interesting to see how long it would take before somone came up to me an just asked me out straight up.