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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

My story of feeling lonely at Kryal... *note* that I was not trying to pick up. The same story just panned out several times...

deeCee sitting by himself somewhere...

Random girl comes over sit down and starts chatting.

Random girl introduces herself.

Start talking about life stories.

deeCee has thoughts about what could eventuate??

Random guy comes over and sits down.

deeCee meet my boyfriend *name here*...

Rinse and repeat about 4 times.

iamtha1 said:
I have to look into whether I'm actually happy to be 'taken'
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Well it seemed that way with you and Hugh Hoff! ;)
 
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^ I think that screams 3 way. Anyone else agree ? =D

Someone come to Adelaide so I can set you up with one of my girly friends; they're soo hot and simply gagging for some man love.

*bites nails, eyes darting left n right*
 
Mary Poppins said:
Here's a topic for discussion. It's semi-serious.

What do we all feel about 'announcing' for lack of a better word, that you are taken.

Like i know it seems unreasonable to have to caveat your relations with anyone by letting them know you're taken - but really it presents so many problems.
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After my work Christmas party in 2003, I started chatting with this guy in a bar afterwards. It seemed to be going quite well, so when my friends were heading home, I decided to stay. About six hours later, after sitting and talking about everything under the sun (including the possibility of getting a hotel room - hey I was pilled up and freshly single), I moved to kiss him and he says: I wonder what my wife would think of this.

Err, thanks buddy.

I think that if you are having contact with someone and it's obviously getting a little flirtatious and you are attached, you should let the other person know. You don't have to make a big fanfare, but I think it saves alot of frustration for the other party.
 
I think its time for everyone to cue it up and press play :


We've got to hold on to what we've got
'Cause it doesn't make a difference if we make it or not.
We've got each other and that's a lot for love -
We'll give it a shot.

ohh ohh We're half way there - ohhh ohhh Livin' on a prayer

Take my hand and we'll make it
I swear - ohh ohh livin' on a prayer.



ohhh yeahh :)

80's is music you love to hate :|
 
^ lol.

I think endless LOVES that song. It's his favourite. That's definately why he posted it in the singles thread.

Is it to be your wedding song? ;) Solace in fantasy, while lonely n' single?
 
I was driving a friend of mine to work at 6:30 this morning. It was on the radio. We started singing it. It was a great finale to a great weekend, i'll admit.. :)

Theres nothing like a good bit of cheesy music to make you feel that bit more alive ;)
 
^ Was that a very late night 6:30 or *shudder* the other kind?
Bon Jovi? never heard of him. can we talk about something else now ... please ? :(

Ive a question, when would you consider it bad form (or unfaithful) to pickup?
For example, if someone hot hit on you and wanted to take you home but:

a. you were starting to see someone (no sex), but there was nothing official said
b. if you had a bonk buddy, but you'd not officially agreed on the 'rules'
c. you've recently broken up (amicably) with a long term partner

for myself, i consider all of the above bad form. clean separation means noone gets unnecessary hurtage ... even if its technically their own damn fault.
 
would 'c' constitute a clean seperation and then mean it's ok?

it's all very subjective. i think in 'c' they can't claim you're doing anything wrong, but yes, they probably wouldn't be a huge fan of you picking up so soon (regardless of whether they have - yay for double standards).

the other 2 are grey areas.

ad hoc judgements w00t! :D
 
Maddog... In my opinion all of them are A-OK.

Unless you are officially in a relationship with someone then you are technically free to do whatever the hell you want. I mean it all comes down to how YOU see it. If you feel guilty for doing it then you probably shouldn't be. But if, on the other hand, the other things are pretty casual then essentially, it's your reality, do what you want. Unless you were planning on a possible LTR with any of them then.... do what you want to do.

IMO a) is perfectly fine. b) is a little more hazy but if it's pretty set that you aren't emotionally involved you should be cool. Not to say they won't be upset but you could definitely justify it.

anyway

Adikkal
 
Horribly co-dependent....

Still in here [believe me now Miss P? ;)]

Since breaking up I've seen him twice and we've had sex twice. I really miss having lots of sex.

After last night he has said that he doesn't want to talk to me at all any more, which I agreed to, but in reality I don't like it. The thing I miss the most is having someone who cares about the little shit. Like someone to whinge to when you stub your toe or eat a really bad lunch. Your friends don't care about that shit and there's no way I'd call them with such pointless dribble. I'm slowly getting used to not calling him but the thought of not talking to him at all is kinda scary...
 
Im seeing this chic, but meh... she doesnt really do it for me. She is cute and all, but I dunno.. something isnt drawing me in...

I want my em back! God dammmnit... hehe
 
up all night said:
Still in here [believe me now Miss P? ;)]

Since breaking up I've seen him twice and we've had sex twice. I really miss having lots of sex.

After last night he has said that he doesn't want to talk to me at all any more, which I agreed to, but in reality I don't like it. The thing I miss the most is having someone who cares about the little shit. Like someone to whinge to when you stub your toe or eat a really bad lunch. Your friends don't care about that shit and there's no way I'd call them with such pointless dribble. I'm slowly getting used to not calling him but the thought of not talking to him at all is kinda scary...
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Ive never quite got the whole notion of "never talking again". I find it really scary and unfortunate. Going from being close to someone then having them totally deleated?

I think people who realise they dont work should atleast try to solve their differences on a more reasonable mature level and be close friends. Infact, when it all boils down, the only difference between a relationship and friendship in my books, is sex.

I have been in the position where i have not wanted to talk to gals before but i soon enough end up communicating them months or even years down the track once our petty differences faded away.

You know at some point another one will come along. You may also eventually enjoy being single for awhile. So cheer up and not all is lost! I know its easier said then done, but honestly.. being single for awhile lets you take stock of your life without relying anyone. The independance of it all its great :)
 
Thanks ee. :)

In a way I'm looking forward to being single. At the moment it's just a matter of keeping myself busy and distracted but it does mean I'm doing all the things I should have done when I was with him ie catching up with old friends.

As for the no talking thing, I can understand it in that it's really hard to let go and move on when you still have contact with the other person. He doesn't think we can be friends and he's probably right because we're really different people. I just don't really want to think that far ahead...

Anyway, breakyaself suggested I get a fuck-buddy. You know what they say... get under someone to get over someone, so maybe I should take her advice... ;)
 
An amazing thing happened today. I was at my family Christmas party for no less than 7 hours and not one person asked me whether I had a boyfriend yet.

I think the conservative Christian side of the family were too gobsmacked about the fact that 2 of the females from the other families now have girlfriends ;)
 
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