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Bluelight Singles thread "Living without justification" Part 2

^^^ I had to help my housemate out with a situaiton where he discovered his gf was cheating on him, and trying to play it both ways with both him and her 'dark horse from Melbourne'.

He managed to get hold of some private emails she had written (yes moral minefield I know), and it's absolutely devastating and gut wrenching to see a breakup and the effect on someone because of the devious machinations between one of the parties and a third person.

Sometimes pple stay in failing relations cos the don't have the guts, sometimes they also establish new relationships and try and play it both ways. I wish the best for you mate, but I really hope that she breaks up with him first before really hooking up with you if that's the way it goes.

And if it does.. then comes the hard part.. having to actually take and act on the 'don't care about anything and act cool' advice that you and I have been so generously dolling out in the thread :)

It's the way to go, but I sure as hell know it's a lot easier telling other pple to do it than actually having to do it myself hehe :)
 
Macksta said:
It's the way to go, but I sure as hell know it's a lot easier telling other pple to do it than actually having to do it myself hehe :)
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Those who cant do .. teach ...

same theory applies?
 
I'm single, I've been single since early Dec when I dumped my boyfriend and girlfriend due to some really horrible circumstances. We'd only officially been going out a week :-/

Before that I was in a long-term relationship that ended at the start of July 04.

Right now I'd like another relationship but I have a feeling that a break would be healthy.
 
nephron said:
I'm single, I've been single since early Dec when I dumped my boyfriend and girlfriend due to some really horrible circumstances.
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I dont get it...did you have one of each? Was it like a three way relationship? Leecie is confused...
 
iamtha1 said:
^^^I feel EXACTLY the same. Besides the swinging thing. At the place I am, guys don't really affect me at all right now. It's horrible, I feel like I've lost the ability to feel about guys. I had a really bad run for a while and now I don't even let guys in, so of course they don't hurt me. I hope I get over it soon, it's not a great way to live. :(
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I am exactly the same. You explained how i am perfectly.

But the thing is... sure its not the best way to be, but i am kinda glad i am finally like this.... i wont get upset anymore.

I am sure when time comes and we are ready again, our guards will come down naturally.. :)
 
Yeah, I'm in a strange state vis-a-vis women right now. Been meeting quite a few, most of which are really lovely, but I just can't be arsed with pushing for anything 'meaningful' anymore. No more pretences and consciously trying to say the right things to remain interesting or attractive.
But I do find myself oscillating between loving being single (and totally in command because I live by myself) and craving company, which stretches on for weeks at a time.
I guess I can't have it both ways... .mmmm but remembers that I still have to date a nice young man some time ;)
 
People in general should learn not to over analyse everything so much. Just live and see were it takes you.
 
followup.

*aghast*

Un-fucking-believable.

Saturday night - got number and chatted with cute girl (see previous post)
Monday night - I sms a "want to catch up" warning shot...

"oh hey thought you had forgotten about me, yeah that sounds great how have you been?"

SMS on tuesday about doing something wednesday night...

"Sounds great call me tonight xx"


So i call on Tuesday and no one answers. Fine. Cool. 1 missed call. Leave it.
Don't hear back so I try calling again this (Wed) morning... phone is off.

Send a SMS saying if she is "still keen let me know, I was thinking of Universal Bar to check out a band at 8.30pm".

....so that when her phone is switched back on - she gets it.



8.30pm just passed with no reply. No call back. Nothing.

Like what the fuck? Why even respond in the first place if there are intentions to blow off the date? Why invite a phone call only to ignore it?

It just really eats at me. I would have really preferred an outright "no" to begin with, rather than getting led on only to be ignored.

Sent a final SMS "guess you changed your mind because I never heard anything back. Sucks, because I think we could have had a fun time. Seeya"


what a really fucking mean move.
 
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^^^ :\

and people wonder why all us single fuckers are so bitter and twisted about the fucking dating world. seriously if there's a nicer, hotter, smarter, more thoughtful single guy out there than this ^^^ one, i'll eat my fucking shoes.

the mind fucking boggles.

sorry to hear anyway man, continue to keep pimping that shit when you're out though, someone will be smart enough to call back :)
 
Whos bitter and twisted? :)
I'm single.
Have been for too long.
Doesn't bother me in the least :)

A little jaded maybe ;)
 
schnouzerpuff: at the risk of sounding like i'm just trying to make you feel better. That situ totally sounds like some phone fuck up or something. There is NO way someone in their right mind would text you that if they didn't have anything but the best intentions of going on a date with you.

:(

i'm sorry though - i know how horrible it is to not know either way and just be waiting for a call. whatever happens - it's out of your hands now - and hopefully it sorts itself out.
 
I have to write in this thread before it gets locked down for having more than 2000 replies.

Still happily with my girlfriend of over 3 years. Just spend a year travelling around the world together and we don't even look like spending a day apart from each other.
 
Anyone else ever been on like a really bad blind date?

I went on one on sunday. Now we arranged to meet in the city for coffee. I ate before I went to meet him but he hadnt so I let him choose where to go.

Where did he take me?

MACCAS!!!!!!!!!!!!

I mean seriously! Im nearly 27 not 14!

And to top it off he was pretty rude, he didnt even offer to buy me a coffee or a drink when we went next door to the bar.

He told me he hadnt had a gf for quiet sometime - obviously!

I'm not dissing maccas but thats a bad first impression to be making. If he was broke, there are plenty of pubs in the city we could of gone to for a $5 steak meal.
 
Re: followup.

Shnouzerpuff said:
*aghast*

Un-fucking-believable.

Saturday night - got number and chatted with cute girl (see previous post)
Monday night - I sms a "want to catch up" warning shot...

"oh hey thought you had forgotten about me, yeah that sounds great how have you been?"

SMS on tuesday about doing something wednesday night...

"Sounds great call me tonight xx"


So i call on Tuesday and no one answers. Fine. Cool. 1 missed call. Leave it.
Don't hear back so I try calling again this (Wed) morning... phone is off.

Send a SMS saying if she is "still keen let me know, I was thinking of Universal Bar to check out a band at 8.30pm".

....so that when her phone is switched back on - she gets it.



8.30pm just passed with no reply. No call back. Nothing.

Like what the fuck? Why even respond in the first place if there are intentions to blow off the date? Why invite a phone call only to ignore it?

It just really eats at me. I would have really preferred an outright "no" to begin with, rather than getting led on only to be ignored.

Sent a final SMS "guess you changed your mind because I never heard anything back. Sucks, because I think we could have had a fun time. Seeya"


what a really fucking mean move.
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So sorry to hear man :( .

At least you are going for what you want and it's this bitches loss.


Women(and any guys that do this), that do this type of things are gutless pieces of shit ;).

No wonder,I'm NOT looking for any relationship at the moment.I'm so much better off currently, then being led on by crap people(Most people seem to be crap these days :( ) :lol ;) .

And some women :p wonder why some guys don't bother to ask them out anymore.Having to experience this crap over again can piss you right off.Maybe some girls have to get off there arse and ask guys out.
 
Awww schnouzerpuff...... sounds like she maybe has a boyfriend and got the guilts. But either way, she could have atleast told you straight.... you seem like the kinda guy who likes to be told straight.

***NOTE TO ALL MEN***

Please dont let things like this kill your confidence and stop you from asking girls out in the future.... i know it knocks the ego, but it wont happen all the time. Some girls are just bitches like that and love the attention but then they turn around and crush guys hearts into pieces. We are not all like that, just remember that.
 
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