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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!
- Thread starter Adz-O-Rama
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i'll agree with Cosmic Mist that this thread is very overwhelming.
u cant put things like relationships into categories. as for me....i'm single but i'm happy cos i'm one of those ppl that r single more often than not. ive found that in past relationships i havent been able to handle myself. that might sound bad but ive never had anything u could consider serious and ive never been in love.
its really hard to explain, but i expect a lot from someone if theyre my b/f. but cos theres two of me (i swear!), i contradict myself by thinking, 'why should i settle for less?' *sigh* i wont go into it cos then i'll b here forever.
hmm....to put it simply, i always stress too much about making the other person happy and i completely forget about myself and thats where it all goes wrong. thats why its easier being single right now.
besides, i got way wikid friends now that i can be myself around so its all good.
u cant put things like relationships into categories. as for me....i'm single but i'm happy cos i'm one of those ppl that r single more often than not. ive found that in past relationships i havent been able to handle myself. that might sound bad but ive never had anything u could consider serious and ive never been in love.
its really hard to explain, but i expect a lot from someone if theyre my b/f. but cos theres two of me (i swear!), i contradict myself by thinking, 'why should i settle for less?' *sigh* i wont go into it cos then i'll b here forever.
hmm....to put it simply, i always stress too much about making the other person happy and i completely forget about myself and thats where it all goes wrong. thats why its easier being single right now.
besides, i got way wikid friends now that i can be myself around so its all good.
Cosmic Mist
Bluelighter
^^^
but if you find the right person, then you shouldn't need to stress about making the other person happy, because it should just naturally happen.![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
SHouldn't it???
but if you find the right person, then you shouldn't need to stress about making the other person happy, because it should just naturally happen.
SHouldn't it???
Queen Beat
Bluelighter
Ha. Things don't always come naturally.
onetwothreefour
Bluelight Crew
Fetish Jester said:
aw come on, that's just too easy. i really doubt that many people have trouble getting some action when they *know* another person is attracted to them. i'm like the shyest person ever when it comes to the opposite sex, but even i'd be able to muster up the courage to ask someone on a date if i knew they already liked me - the problem is, no one thinks i'm cute, no one thinks i'm cool! and i'm not whingeing about it btw, just justifying my argument
onetwothreefour
Bluelight Crew
blatant flirting 0wnz this thread!
*looks at pictures thread*
*grins*
*sidles up to syntech and says "how you doin'?"*
syntech said:
*looks at pictures thread*
*grins*
*sidles up to syntech and says "how you doin'?"*
Cosmic Mist
Bluelighter
^^^ there are way too many ways to take that comment, so i will just keep my mouth shut 
I'd just like to note that since backo's return to the thread things have gone back down hill again... 
Smile people - yours is a beautiful world.
I'd just like to note that since backo's return to the thread things have gone back down hill again...
Smile people - yours is a beautiful world.
doofqueen
Bluelighter
i had 2 boys interested in me in the last few weeks (both i met at a party) ...one i knew about because he made it obvious to me and was waiting for me to make the first move (as bloody usual) and i thought that was all really sweet and gentlemenly though this time round because hes a really shy guy etc ...
i didn't know how to take it really....i'm not used to guys who are actually interested in me not flirting ....its weird! anyway i've been going out with this dude to places and events because he sms'ed me and asked him to let me know etc ....guess what? after a few nights here and there with him he's fucking boring 8(
i tried and tried to give him a go knowing that he was interested and sweet etc etc etc all the things i would love in a boy BUT he can't hold a conversation...i mean anyone who knows me at all knows i would have to have someone to bounce info and convo back off me ....there was no spark there at all...so what happens? i end up spending the weekend with his friend 8) (who liked me aswell but was holding back for his friend) i dont know what i'm supposed to be feeling at thei point
the guy i did end up with started freaking me out saying stuff like "well he's gonna find out about us" and just little things basically saying that we are all of a suddne in a rlationship or something
*runs away*
*screams*
for fuck sake!!! i wine about not finding a boy who appreciates me and crap and i find 2 who do and i dont want either
i dont even know what the point of this post actually was 8( *sigh*
maybe it is true...mayeb i dont want a nice boy after all...maybe im a rejection junkie and i like to please more then be pleased, maybe i feel like i'm not worth pleasing...fucked if i know anymore
*scattered* ?
i didn't know how to take it really....i'm not used to guys who are actually interested in me not flirting ....its weird!
anyway i've been going out with this dude to places and events because he sms'ed me and asked him to let me know etc ....guess what? after a few nights here and there with him he's fucking boring 8( i tried and tried to give him a go knowing that he was interested and sweet etc etc etc all the things i would love in a boy BUT he can't hold a conversation...i mean anyone who knows me at all knows i would have to have someone to bounce info and convo back off me ....there was no spark there at all...so what happens? i end up spending the weekend with his friend 8) (who liked me aswell but was holding back for his friend) i dont know what i'm supposed to be feeling at thei point
the guy i did end up with started freaking me out saying stuff like "well he's gonna find out about us" and just little things basically saying that we are all of a suddne in a rlationship or something
*runs away*
*screams*
for fuck sake!!! i wine about not finding a boy who appreciates me and crap and i find 2 who do and i dont want either
i dont even know what the point of this post actually was 8( *sigh*
maybe it is true...mayeb i dont want a nice boy after all...maybe im a rejection junkie and i like to please more then be pleased, maybe i feel like i'm not worth pleasing...fucked if i know anymore
*scattered* ?
onetwothreefour said:I'm like the shyest person ever when it comes to the opposite sex, but even i'd be able to muster up the courage to ask someone on a date if i knew they already liked me - the problem is, no one thinks i'm cute, no one thinks i'm cool! and i'm not whingeing about it btw, just justifying my argument
Ill duel you with sharpened arm stumps for the shiest-person-in-front-of-opposite-sex title
deal is:
Slice off hands above the wrist
sharpen stumps of arms into very pointy points
stab each other until theres a clear winner, or we both die
I'll get a trophy made if you like the sound of the deal
winner gets the others smoking utensils as a consolation for losing their hands
neverwas
Bluelighter
cosmic mist: hun...u rnt single now love... *kicks u out the door...AND STAY OUT!
onetwothreefour: ur so not shy at all... was a pleasure to finally meeting you...and dont worry...our 'secret love child' is getting lots of attention now
i was talking to my dad yesterday while in melbourne *via phone* and we got into a debate about settling down, *this debate happens everytime we talk*we debated kids, relationships...it ended up we just ran round in circles...when he was my age, he had two kids, and typical life of a committed person. i contsantly get lectures and an unbearable mount of pressure from him to settle down. find love. get serious with some one. have kids and think of the future.
anyone who has been near me when my dad and me talk know how heated the convo gets and how it makes me feel.
im the only only one in my family of sisters and brothers that either doesnt have a kid or isnt committed in some form. dont get me wrong, its not that i dont want it...all in due time. but how can i make him understand where i am coming from? how can i make him see that right now i dont want to settle. i mean if something comes my way, sure, i will give it a chance. but how can i explain to someone that right now...i am happy to wait till i find the right person.
someone who makes my heart go weird.
someone who i feel butterflys when i think of em.
someone i am happy with.
someone i would give my all for.
*sighs*
i dont know...theres that lil part of me that is happy with the state of relationship i am in. coz not having the ties has allowed me to be able to move states...spend time on my own life and do other stuff. but there is that section of me that misses the security...
*sighs*
*opens a vodka bottle and pours a drink for onetwothreefour* cheers hun
...dam mood swings...sorry for the long windedness...
onetwothreefour: ur so not shy at all...
was a pleasure to finally meeting you...and dont worry...our 'secret love child' is getting lots of attention now i was talking to my dad yesterday while in melbourne *via phone* and we got into a debate about settling down, *this debate happens everytime we talk*we debated kids, relationships...it ended up we just ran round in circles...when he was my age, he had two kids, and typical life of a committed person. i contsantly get lectures and an unbearable mount of pressure from him to settle down. find love. get serious with some one. have kids and think of the future.
anyone who has been near me when my dad and me talk know how heated the convo gets and how it makes me feel.
im the only only one in my family of sisters and brothers that either doesnt have a kid or isnt committed in some form. dont get me wrong, its not that i dont want it...all in due time. but how can i make him understand where i am coming from? how can i make him see that right now i dont want to settle. i mean if something comes my way, sure, i will give it a chance. but how can i explain to someone that right now...i am happy to wait till i find the right person.
someone who makes my heart go weird.
someone who i feel butterflys when i think of em.
someone i am happy with.
someone i would give my all for.
*sighs*
i dont know...theres that lil part of me that is happy with the state of relationship i am in. coz not having the ties has allowed me to be able to move states...spend time on my own life and do other stuff. but there is that section of me that misses the security...
*sighs*
*opens a vodka bottle and pours a drink for onetwothreefour* cheers hun
...dam mood swings...sorry for the long windedness...
doofqueen said:
You do want a nice boy, there's a difference between nice and boring. If he has the personality of a pencil sharpener, there's not much you can do, not matter how nice he is. Just let him know you think of him as a friend and don't lead him on.
onetwothreefour: you're not shy. Just the other day you came up and said hi to me on the train... oh hang on... NO YOU DIDN'T!!! YOU SAW ME AND IGNORED ME!!! YOU IGNORERER YOU!!! heehee... j/k
My sis is coming back from Cairns soon and she says hi.
Cosmic Mist
Bluelighter
Stars: Just because i'm no longer single i can't post here anymore?? QueenBeat isn't single and she posts here!! Damn double standards!
Hoptis: You're really cut about being ignored by 1234 aren't you?? This is the third thread i've seen you mention that in.
Doofster: Hoptis is right - there is a BIG difference between boring and nice. If you can't at least have some good conversation with the guy, then how do you think you'll handle your time with him when you're not being intimate?
Moe: All you need is the right club, the right substances, and the right timing.
Hoptis: You're really cut about being ignored by 1234 aren't you?? This is the third thread i've seen you mention that in.
Doofster: Hoptis is right - there is a BIG difference between boring and nice. If you can't at least have some good conversation with the guy, then how do you think you'll handle your time with him when you're not being intimate?
Moe: All you need is the right club, the right substances, and the right timing.
I know i said i wouldnt come back.. but im not talking about myself
Doofqueen... everyone wants somebody who can hold a conversation.. and to be perfectly honest everyone can hold a conversation.. u just have to have similar interests so u can talk about absolute bullshit which means nothing... The strange thing about first timer conversations is that you keep talking because u are afraid of an uncomfortable silence.. and in many convos u can see both sides straining to continue talking.... Basically these convos your lying most of the time anyway. hehe.
The recent times ive been in conversations, ive been really laid back.. careers meetings with grads etc I made sure to get to know everyone and try and get them to laugh... hehe they were all so nervous and stuff... to be honest i should have probably been just like them.
Just going to slip in.... Cute chick at uni i like.... ohhhhh she is soooo cute......8) . We shall c how it goes... First non Russian girl i have been interested in for a long time... lol... and no CM im not talking about your friend for all that time.. hehe met about 3 yay for backo
Doofqueen... everyone wants somebody who can hold a conversation.. and to be perfectly honest everyone can hold a conversation.. u just have to have similar interests so u can talk about absolute bullshit which means nothing... The strange thing about first timer conversations is that you keep talking because u are afraid of an uncomfortable silence.. and in many convos u can see both sides straining to continue talking.... Basically these convos your lying most of the time anyway. hehe.
The recent times ive been in conversations, ive been really laid back.. careers meetings with grads etc I made sure to get to know everyone and try and get them to laugh... hehe they were all so nervous and stuff... to be honest i should have probably been just like them.
Just going to slip in.... Cute chick at uni i like.... ohhhhh she is soooo cute......8) . We shall c how it goes... First non Russian girl i have been interested in for a long time... lol... and no CM im not talking about your friend for all that time.. hehe met about 3 yay for backo
neverwas
Bluelighter
cosmic mist: lol hun...you know i love you! QB is the master of diguise so i never see her in here...
1234: hun u talked to me in the middle of the street the other day in melb...my conclusion: YOU ARE not SHY! ----< @
Bop: yeah tell me bought that drought hunny...i know it very well.but im enjoying my single life right now...kind...ther eis always that bit of me that does miss the other side...but all in due time...
hey at least if we r destined to be single forever...WE CAN GET TOGETHER BOP!!!
...or i could become a nun!...
QB is the master of diguise so i never see her in here... 1234: hun u talked to me in the middle of the street the other day in melb...my conclusion: YOU ARE not SHY!
----< @ Bop: yeah tell me bought that drought hunny...i know it very well.but im enjoying my single life right now...kind...ther eis always that bit of me that does miss the other side...but all in due time...
hey at least if we r destined to be single forever...WE CAN GET TOGETHER BOP!!!
...or i could become a nun!...
doofqueen
Bluelighter
yep he definitely has no personality ...this is the conclusion that i have come to....this is why i ended up with his mate who had personality but now his mate sent me a message saying if i want to hang out 2 give him a call etc....
this really sux because i'm not actually physically attracted to this guy *sigh* and i'm fighting my own morals about it actually because i always see personality as more attractive then looks but this guy...well...ummm....he really just doesnt do it for me and i feel like a shallow bitch really because he is really really nice, and funny, and clever and sweet and can hold a great convo with me and was great in bed ...like holy fuck... 
and now im sure i just sound like a big slut or something but it's not really like that cos we didn't actually have 'sex' as such...
backo...i dont know about u but when i have a conversation with someone, even a 1st convo...its not full of shit and lies to impress the other person...i have no reason to lie...i am all that and a bag of chips....go ricki go ricki
ummm yeah
this really sux because i'm not actually physically attracted to this guy *sigh* and i'm fighting my own morals about it actually because i always see personality as more attractive then looks but this guy...well...ummm....he really just doesnt do it for me
and i feel like a shallow bitch really because he is really really nice, and funny, and clever and sweet and can hold a great convo with me and was great in bed ...like holy fuck... and now im sure i just sound like a big slut or something but it's not really like that cos we didn't actually have 'sex' as such...
backo...i dont know about u but when i have a conversation with someone, even a 1st convo...its not full of shit and lies to impress the other person...i have no reason to lie...i am all that and a bag of chips....go ricki go ricki
ummm yeah