Originally posted by miss apple:
oh no. it goes in phases. you can have fun regardless of your status and it gets you NOWHERE. you can be not looking and having fun and it gets you NOWHERE. you can be looking as hard as possible meeting as many people as possible and not saying no to any possiblity and it gets you NOWHERE.
nowhere, nothing, nada.
story of my life.
^^^^ word to that miss apple...i have given up looking. i neva stared looking again after my last relationship ended. i found that i needed time to deal with things from it and time to get my head back together and time to heal...it has been three months...*shrugs*...there is no time limit on how long it takes to heal or get over some one, u cant put a limit on these things...or how long even in fact till you find some special again...that time for me is ova
well yeah...i have found some one specail. but am testing the waters with him still...taking things day by day...i know he cares for me and has already shown that in many ways...and the best bit is i know the feeling is mutual and he shares what i feel...every inch...but thats enough of the information for now...will keep u posted...
*wanders aimlessly round thread looking at the exit door...*
[ 24 January 2003: Message edited by: *starfalls69* ]
well to me there isnt an age gap...with age comes experience *most of the time* i personally dont mind the age gap...if it bothers you then go with ur instincts *im following my instincts right now* Originally posted by Cosmic Mist:
Here's a quick question for the thread... Hypothetically speaking, imagine that you have just met this really great person, who shares similar interests to you (to a degree) and has really good conversation. There is a level of mutual attraction between the two of you, however this person is 10 years older than you. What do you do?
It's different I think depending on whether you're a girl or a boy. If I hooked up with a 32 year old woman, while we might get along and all those things you mention above might be in place, a woman ten years older is likely to have different priorities: house, career, kids, etc. For just the physical aspects of a relationship, it works great, lots of single women in their thirties these days are happy to have flings with younger men, but for anything more there's a real maturity gap and difference in priorities.
It's different with a younger girl and older guy because guys don't have a biological clock and can always stay immature. So a 32 year old guy can get along great with a 22 year old girl if he's still trying to live like a 22-year old.
A guy ten years older may seem incredibly wise and mature but that's because they have ten years on you. I'm sure a 12 year old girl would find me incredibly wise, mature and fascinating (all I have to do is dress like Justin Timberlake) but I wouldn't go there... ask yourself what it says of guys who would. (/me ducks)
All that said, I think we can connect with people on many levels regardless of age, it's just where you want to take a relationship with someone who is ten years older/younger than you. People go through life in stages and I find that people at different stages tend to have different priorities. That's all.
by cosmic mist
Here's a quick question for the thread... Hypothetically speaking, imagine that you have just met this really great person, who shares similar interests to you (to a degree) and has really good conversation. There is a level of mutual attraction between the two of you, however this person is 10 years older than you. What do you do?
I guess the older you get, the less the age gap matters but at this point in time, I couldn't see myself with a 32 year old. I think it does have more to do with maturity than age but I also think that I'm definately at a different stage in life to what a 32 year old would be. But...never say never
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but dammit, e-kisses are just so nice!
now if only I could learn not to get attached so easily!!
that is all
Originally posted by Cosmic Mist:
There is a level of mutual attraction between the two of you, however this person is 10 years older than you. What do you do?
what a coincidence - I was out with a girl that I've seen a couple of times now (though it doesn't look like it's going anywhere...) - and she commented at one stage that I was nearly 10 years older than her. Personally it doesn't really bother me as long as it's not an issue for the other person, which means that they have to be brutally honest so that you know if it's an issue, and you have to accept it if it's not going to work and move on.
When I was 30 I has a gf who was 22, and we were together for 2 years without age ever being an issue - like Queen Beat said, it's really about maturity and how well you fit together as a couple - I never thought about my gf as being a lot younger. Same when I meet someone new, I very seldom think about how old/young they are as long as I find them attractive (physically and mentally).
I must admit though in a few more years I'll probably think a little differently about a 10+ gap - I think after mid 30's it would feel a bit weird dating someone in their early 20's![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
hux.
[ 28 January 2003: Message edited by: huxley ]
