Originally posted by Cosmic Mist:
On the topic of fuck-buddies, do you people think it's possible that having a long term fuck-buddy might skew your view of relationships somewhat? What i mean is simply that after a while you become accustomed to the life style you are leading, and when i comes to finding someone "special" and "right for you," you find it difficult to commit to them on the level of "serious relationship" because you're still in a "casual sex" mind set...
From what I've seen, most fuckbuddy relationships don't last long enough for this to be a problem. It takes a LOT, and I mean a *LOT* of effort to develop a real, working, genuine LONG-TERM physical relationship and to be quite frank, most fuckbuddies don't have it.
Most people don't have the communication skills to make this work long term because let's face it, sex is fucking emotional, it's raw, it's in your face, fan-fucking-tastic, whoop-dee-doo with bells on... and people get confused, feelings don't get aired, jealousy, bitterness, neglect and then BOOM. One or both people get hurt.
Anyway I'm just coming down and was about to launch into a long lecture about fuckbuddy's and why all my friends physical relationships don't work but mine does. Haha... umm... what was the question?
Yeah, no it doesn't skew you view of real relationships if you keep in mind all along what it is you're actually looking for. The sex is just a distraction... having regular sex when you're single makes it very easy, cushy and comfortable but I don't think it makes you value a "real" relationship any less, in fact, because you have the sex, you don't push yourself into relationships out of desperation or horniness (which we all get, guys and girls).
I might go and have a nap now.