candyflip
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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!
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miss apple
Bluelighter
Originally posted by candyflip:
Add me in... single again.
WTF??
if you're not just kidding around like the winky face suggests then that's really sad
nickthecheese
Bluelighter
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Yup....still single....
candyflip
Bluelighter
It's true Apples... I'll PM you with details.
The smiley face denotes hope, happiness and renewal, despite the pain... The event is definitely sad.
The smiley face denotes hope, happiness and renewal, despite the pain... The event is definitely sad.
Cosmic Mist
Bluelighter
Sometimes life works in mysterious ways and i fail to understand it. This is one of those times. My best friend finally broke up with her control-freak boyfriend about 3-4 weeks ago. Two days after they broke up, she foud herself a fuck buddy. Two weeks later she found another potential fuck buddy, and a third guy asked to spend time hanging out with her. ALl of these guys are from completely different circles, and do not evenknow of each other's existance. What i want to know is what it is about certain people that ensures thay have all the attention whilst others receive very little? I've never seen this girl without someone after her, yet i have other friends who have never really had a proper relationship...
... and on the previous topic of conversation, i agree with hoptis about the whole remaining happy thing, but by the same stroke, it is exceedingly difficult to maintain the happy visage if you lack the emotional support you require... and some people do not realise that, althouth they are lonely, they are not alone...
Keep smiling people.
... and on the previous topic of conversation, i agree with hoptis about the whole remaining happy thing, but by the same stroke, it is exceedingly difficult to maintain the happy visage if you lack the emotional support you require... and some people do not realise that, althouth they are lonely, they are not alone...
Keep smiling people.
vurtomatic
Bluelight Crew
Cosmic Mist
Bluelighter
^^ These are really good pieces...
praetorian
Bluelighter
^^ yes they are
I can relate to what you said above Cosmic Mist about some people getting all the attention and others not... My best mate is one of those guys that always seems to have the girls chasing him, especially when we go out partying, whereas i seem to get very little (well enough for me ) ... Hmmm maybe its just because i'm that ugly i make him look good lol
I can relate to what you said above Cosmic Mist about some people getting all the attention and others not... My best mate is one of those guys that always seems to have the girls chasing him, especially when we go out partying, whereas i seem to get very little (well enough for me
) ... Hmmm maybe its just because i'm that ugly i make him look good lol 
plazma
Bluelighter
*exits stage right dragging lickable_lucy by the hair*
-plaz out-
-plaz out-
huxley
Bluelighter
Originally posted by miss apple:
I don't get emotional or physical intimacy from anyone else. I have very close relationships with good friends but even they don't know my intimate thoughts and secrets and hopes and dreams. I want to share them with someone who is there for me, who reserves a certain part of themselves for me only. Who feels safe enough with me to trust me and share their own thoughts with me.
I have to admit that being single this really is the one thing I miss, and losing that kind of intimacy and companionship is what hurts most after a breakup. Most other stuff comes and goes, sex, fun, etc, but this is the only thing that you can't easily get without a close gf/bf. Then again it's not that easy to find in just any partner, which is why I guess most people are always in search of that 'soul-mate'.
Originally posted by miss apple:
I was thinking how different my life would be right now if I had a boyfriend...what I wouldn't be doing and the people I wouldn't be meeting.
Not if you found the right boyfriend
Originally posted by miss apple:
I want to be able to think about someone else and help make them happy, instead of only thinking about myself all the time.
That's a very noble desire, the guy who eventually gets you will be very lucky indeed
Originally posted by miss apple:
It's not all about negativity. However a lot of people (including myself) use this thread as a bit of a release...a place to vent.
Too true! Here's my vent for the day...
I have somehow managed since NYE to meet 4 women while out clubbing who I have hit it off with really well. Now this might not seem much to some people, but usually I'm lucky if I meet anyone in months of going out, and now it seems like it's almost every weekend. And it's not like I've been going out to meet someone - usually the opposite, I'm happy to go out with friends and dance and have fun. Now here's the weird part - with each of them we've spent the whole night dancing/laughing/having fun, they have all finished up back at my place in the morning, and then nothing happens
Case in point, on Friday night I was out with work friends, had noticed a very cute girl while dancing who then later sat next to me (actually there was another guy between us) - she lent over and said something like "so, who are you...". Well, same as before, we spent a great night/morning together, she was happy to head back to my place (kind of helps that I live 5 minutes walk from victoria st kings cross) - but then made it clear that she just wanted to hang and sleep the night off. I was so frustrated at this point that I didn't even ask for her number after we had slept for a while and she was leaving - but she offered her number, and now I've got to decide if she was just being polite or really hopes that I'll call. And of course I have to deal with the possibility of getting my hopes up and then getting the 'thanks but no thanks' if I do call - it does suck being single some times!
Anyway, here's a question for the single girls - have you been in these situations? Do you give guys your number just to be nice, and have no real intention of seeing them again (and then have to deal with the constant phone calls
Well, that's then end of my rant, hope you all found it amusing :D
hux.
Kay, I should have considered that, yeah some of you need to vent so yeah, vent away. Been sick half a week so haven't had the chance to pop back in here till today.
Been sick half a week so haven't had the chance to pop back in here till today.Originally posted by huxley:
Now here's the weird part - with each of them we've spent the whole night dancing/laughing/having fun, they have all finished up back at my place in the morning, and then nothing happens
Nothing just happens buddy, you have to make it happen. If you want something to develop, you have to actually make a move, or else she'll just think you're gay or really friendly but not interested.
If you just want to get laid, then learn to flirt a little. If there hasn't been any exchange of fluids at the club, then don't take her home *expecting* something to just magically happen.
If you like her and want to get to know her better or hang out with her again, call her and ask her out. She clearly is interested or she wouldn't have spent the whole evening hanging out with you.
She's probably writing on some message board right now something like:
belisimo
Bluelighter
SupaDiscoBreaka
Bluelighter
A link sent to me from the sagely anfalicious with pretty good explainations of why people seem to get it on all the time with whoever they want and some don't really get any.
I'm directing you to theMain theory but you should really give the whole site a good read. Here is what the name of the site means also.
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Time is an illusion.
Lunchtime doubly so.
[ 10 February 2003: Message edited by: SupaDiscoBreaka ]
I'm directing you to theMain theory but you should really give the whole site a good read. Here is what the name of the site means also.
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Time is an illusion.
Lunchtime doubly so.
[ 10 February 2003: Message edited by: SupaDiscoBreaka ]
nate_au
Bluelighter
Hi People,
I will try to avoid having a whinge here, I am just confused and hope someone could shed some light on this for me...
What exactly is it that girls are looking for?? I am 20 years old, and have 2 real classes of friends. There's the dropouts, the guys I went to school with who are good fun, but not bright and not well off. These guys all left school after college, working jobs as salesmen, security guards, hell even maccas. These guys get ALL the women. Some of them don't have cars, ALL of them are living at home with their parents. They get fired constantly from jobs, and most are in casual positions and can potentially be out of work for weeks at a time.
Then there's my work buddies. I work in the IT industry and I have some awesome workmates. These guys are typically single. We all do well for ourselves, and most of us have degrees, permanent jobs, cars and houses.
Now let me say, as weird as it is for a guy to say this, in terms of looks I don't consider that either side is particularly different. My workmates aren't nerdy types, they are typically laid back, generous, fun people. We go out, get pissed, dance with girls and have fun. But noone ever gets any!!!
We never argue over who buys the next round of drinks. We never argue over anything, really.
My school mates are uptight, stingy, and can be dull at times. These are the sorta guys who come to my house, smoke my weed and drink my piss, pass out and then go home. The smallest incident can be turned into a massive deal. I can only deal with these guys in small doses. They CONSTANTLY fight with their girlfriends over insignificant little events. One of them tried to charge his girlfriend interest on an $80 loan!!!!
Now, what is wrong here? What is it that is causing women to choose these dropouts? Yes, I will admit, my workmates tend to be a little less confident with women, but this is really a measure of modesty. My school mates are pretty full of themselves, and all too happy to look like whoever today's rap hero is. It might take a little longer to get anywhere with these guys, but hell that's the way they are.
Women go crazy for their older model RX7s or shithouse commodores. One of em told me that he 'wouldn't be seen dead' in my BA xr6 turbo. What the fuck??? It's not like I am driving a barina here. Where do these standards come from???
I just want to know what the hell you women are thinking?? You go for these guys who treat you like shit, have no future prospects, get you pregnant 3 times and make you abort (I am telling you, these guys can be total fucks), live with their parents at 21/22, when you have these guys who wanna have a bit of fun, treat you well, sitting on the sidelines??
Nate
I will try to avoid having a whinge here, I am just confused and hope someone could shed some light on this for me...
What exactly is it that girls are looking for?? I am 20 years old, and have 2 real classes of friends. There's the dropouts, the guys I went to school with who are good fun, but not bright and not well off. These guys all left school after college, working jobs as salesmen, security guards, hell even maccas. These guys get ALL the women. Some of them don't have cars, ALL of them are living at home with their parents. They get fired constantly from jobs, and most are in casual positions and can potentially be out of work for weeks at a time.
Then there's my work buddies. I work in the IT industry and I have some awesome workmates. These guys are typically single. We all do well for ourselves, and most of us have degrees, permanent jobs, cars and houses.
Now let me say, as weird as it is for a guy to say this, in terms of looks I don't consider that either side is particularly different. My workmates aren't nerdy types, they are typically laid back, generous, fun people. We go out, get pissed, dance with girls and have fun. But noone ever gets any!!!
We never argue over who buys the next round of drinks. We never argue over anything, really.
My school mates are uptight, stingy, and can be dull at times. These are the sorta guys who come to my house, smoke my weed and drink my piss, pass out and then go home. The smallest incident can be turned into a massive deal. I can only deal with these guys in small doses. They CONSTANTLY fight with their girlfriends over insignificant little events. One of them tried to charge his girlfriend interest on an $80 loan!!!!
Now, what is wrong here? What is it that is causing women to choose these dropouts? Yes, I will admit, my workmates tend to be a little less confident with women, but this is really a measure of modesty. My school mates are pretty full of themselves, and all too happy to look like whoever today's rap hero is. It might take a little longer to get anywhere with these guys, but hell that's the way they are.
Women go crazy for their older model RX7s or shithouse commodores. One of em told me that he 'wouldn't be seen dead' in my BA xr6 turbo. What the fuck??? It's not like I am driving a barina here. Where do these standards come from???
I just want to know what the hell you women are thinking?? You go for these guys who treat you like shit, have no future prospects, get you pregnant 3 times and make you abort (I am telling you, these guys can be total fucks), live with their parents at 21/22, when you have these guys who wanna have a bit of fun, treat you well, sitting on the sidelines??
Nate
SupaDiscoBreaka
Bluelighter
Read the whole main theory from my last post. It explains things for you.
doofqueen
Bluelighter
i personally dont go 4 cars...unless u drive a doofvan and then im urs hehehe i dont know...there is that theory that grls always date arseholes and bad guys and the good guys are always left alone but i think this may be true 4 grls aswell ...although really im a total bitch and will give way 2 much of myself 4 anyone to want me *sigh* nahhh im a nice grl really...
hehehe i dont know...there is that theory that grls always date arseholes and bad guys and the good guys are always left alone but i think this may be true 4 grls aswell ...although really im a total bitch and will give way 2 much of myself 4 anyone to want me *sigh* nahhh im a nice grl really...
belisimo
Bluelighter
Main theory from the site that has to do with this:
"You'll note that a man has one ladder (of women they want to fuk) while a female has two (1 for men as frenz, 1 for men to fuk). The man is
lacking a "friends ladder." The man's ladder reflects the conventional wisdom that a man generally only wants one thing. That's because the conventional wisdom is correct. This leads us back to the conclusion that many women I have explained this to find so distasteful:
IF A MAN FINDS YOU ATTRACTIVE YOU CANNOT BE
FRIENDS."
Its an interesting theory, it's probably true, but i'll never really know because i'm a chik.
So do u boys think it's correct?
"You'll note that a man has one ladder (of women they want to fuk) while a female has two (1 for men as frenz, 1 for men to fuk). The man is
lacking a "friends ladder." The man's ladder reflects the conventional wisdom that a man generally only wants one thing. That's because the conventional wisdom is correct. This leads us back to the conclusion that many women I have explained this to find so distasteful:
IF A MAN FINDS YOU ATTRACTIVE YOU CANNOT BE
FRIENDS."
Its an interesting theory, it's probably true, but i'll never really know because i'm a chik.
So do u boys think it's correct?
nate_au
Bluelighter
There is an element of truth to the theory. I think theres more to it though. When I am with a girl, I find it easier to have attractive female friends than when not. Possibly there is more innocence in the arrangement when you are already taken.
onetwothreefour
Bluelight Crew
nah, i can see truth *in* that, but it's not entirely true. as a general rule, if you're an attractive girl, then all single males that become (or are in the process of becoming) your friends *will* hit on you.
but you can still be friends. my best (female) friend: i had the *biggest* crush on her for a couple of months just after i'd met her (she's attractive too ), but once i realised that nothing was gonna happen -yeah, took me a while- things have been awesome.
she's just like a sister now, i know i could tell her anything, and i have no problems whatsoever with any of the feelings i used to have. it's actually kinda weird to look back on the way i used to feel about her.
so yeah, guys can definitely be friends with attractive girls, it's just a matter of getting past the obligatory (in most cases remember, not all) few days/weeks/months where he's gonna try and get in your pants
btw, being single still sucks!
but you can still be friends. my best (female) friend: i had the *biggest* crush on her for a couple of months just after i'd met her (she's attractive too
), but once i realised that nothing was gonna happen -yeah, took me a while- things have been awesome.she's just like a sister now, i know i could tell her anything, and i have no problems whatsoever with any of the feelings i used to have. it's actually kinda weird to look back on the way i used to feel about her.
so yeah, guys can definitely be friends with attractive girls, it's just a matter of getting past the obligatory (in most cases remember, not all) few days/weeks/months where he's gonna try and get in your pants
btw, being single still sucks!