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Doofster!! You've gotta be the happy optimistic one - if not you, then who??? You always struck me as the independant and outgoing type - i'm sure you own't be alone for long... :) If you lived in Sydney i'd run right over there and give you a big hug... next time you're in sydney, i wanna know about it ok?
If you don't cheer up i may have to come up there, steal SDB's icicle and stab you in the eye with it... That way you would have something else to be unhappy about instead... ;)
 
Hey All,
well, i think this is my first post in this tread cos when i first staring reading it (WAAAAAY back), it looked like something of a close-knit group happily flirting with each other in a playful way so i didn't bother. Kinda feeling as though there was something being said and i was left out
BUT anyhoo, i must say, after reading the threads... damn the posts in here are good. Some of the things you guys say about relationships is so true and intelligently said.
Down to the topic
I don't know if any of you can empathise with me here, but one of the reasons why i'm single is because there is no one my heart desires. Which is a sad thing is a way. So i'm not actually waiting/looking for a relationship, I'm more waiting for that someone to grab my eye. Which is a step in a way before you actually attempt to be in a relationship.
I think it's all about the chase for me, if i get them, bonus.. if i don't it was a mad rush to experience and i move on.
 
*pisses all over the flames*
any crap whinge posts WILL be deleted from this point onward.
And finally, I'm single and probably will be for a long long time.
Unless it becomes socially acceptable to have those kinda relationships with a bong...
[ 05 February 2003: Message edited by: babu ]
 
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Thanks wacky :D glad u are doing better aswell...ive always said that everything happens 4 a reason and u learn from everything so i will take this as a learning experience i guess *sigh*
cosmic.... happy and optimistic i usually am ur right :) i did win the BL plur award after all hey? ;) gotta keep it up i suppose
*gives everyone lolliepops*
yep i have always been independant and outgoing and will continue to be so roar!!!!!!!!!!! i dont care if im alone...dont want no one to stab me in teh herat again...even if he was doing it "for my own good cos i deserve better"
pfffffffttttt he gave me the "its not u its me speech"
get fucked!! i give that speech (karma i guess) but when i give it it is true and i know it actually is in his case too *sighs again*
i will definitely let u know when im in sydney next so we can meet up :)
msn..."[email protected]" if u want 2 add me (and anyone else for that matter :) )
 
Originally posted by Riot Grrrl:

Down to the topic
I don't know if any of you can empathise with me here, but one of the reasons why i'm single is because there is no one my heart desires. Which is a sad thing is a way. So i'm not actually waiting/looking for a relationship, I'm more waiting for that someone to grab my eye. Which is a step in a way before you actually attempt to be in a relationship.
I think it's all about the chase for me, if i get them, bonus.. if i don't it was a mad rush to experience and i move on.
That rings very true for me Riot Grrrl and pretty much explains why i've been single for ages. There hasn't really been anyone i've really been interested in before and it hasn't really bothered me. Like you say, it is a step because there'd be no point in chasing someone that doesn't grab your attention and persuing a relationship with them.
At the moment, however, there is someone that has caught my eye so it looks like the chase is on :) Your last point is so true tho, if something happens, bonus... If not, t'was fun, and i'll just keep on being me :D
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Why is it the whole attitude of singles thread is one of despondant negativity?
All the time, people rejoin this thread and it's a *BAD* thing (okay, if you've been hurt than of course that's bad) but the people who are in here, all they talk about is ways to get out. People in here use analogies like pulling up a bean bag and watching life pass them by....
...what?
I don't know about some of you, but I've found that people in relationships don't grow, they don't mature, they stay in the same place, with the same person, doing the same old thing. The sad thing is I think it's just programmed into us that the only purpose in life is to find someone to make us feel happy about ourselves, hook up, marry them and grow old without even thinking about it.
To me being single isn't something to commiserate, it's something to enjoy. To me it's a choice, and with that, a lifestyle that I've chosen.
Dare I sound selfish by saying that I *like* living for myself, doing my own thing, going where I want. I love the magic that every night out holds because I don't know who I'll meet, or who I'll end up with at the end of the night.
I will admit though, things are made a lot easier when I have fuckbuddies who provide physical intimacy and great, close friends who provide emotional intimacy.
I'm not saying this is what I want forever, but for chrissakes, I'm 22. This is the only chance in my life that I'll get to have this much fun and I'm not going to waste it by shacking up before I have to.
Sorry, but am I the only person that ENJOYS being here?
Love you guys but goddamn you're a depressing bunch.
 
WORD UP ^^^
Haha, yeah man i hear ya. But now let me tell you to shut the fuck up becos if u have fuck buddies and a great emotional support net then you've got the perks of a relationship without the cons, so you're livin on easy street.
Don't think i'm missin your point though, cos i agree with you. Try not to get down about being single, becos there are alot of good things about it aswell, but it is hard at times and people are venting their frustrations here, so be it.
Of course its clear, everyone TRY and enjoy being single, don't go and wallow in self pity, get out and enjoy life for yourself then you will radiate and hopefully your radiant plume will attract a prospective mate. If that fails, you should develop a mating call of sorts, "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" won't cut it though.
Adikkal
 
i know how u feel cos a few mths back i felt the same way being single...loving doing what i wanted...going where i wanted...seeing who i wanted...not having 2 work my time around someone (even tho when i was with him thats all i wanted 2 do anyway so it didnt matter) and was very happy being single...till i met "him" and then i felt like i never knew a piece of me was missing till then
now my hearts ripped out cos i gave too much
oh joy joy joy...this will be the last of my winging an moping...i am moving on
threee cheers to singledom hip hip horay!!!!
*dance a happy dance*
:D
 
Originally posted by hoptis:
Why is it the whole attitude of singles thread is one of despondant negativity?
All the time, people rejoin this thread and it's a *BAD* thing (okay, if you've been hurt than of course that's bad) but the people who are in here, all they talk about is ways to get out. People in here use analogies like pulling up a bean bag and watching life pass them by....
...what?

Ya know what hoptis Ur bloody bloody well right!!
Goddamn u!!! :)
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hoptis meeting someone is fun. being in love is an amazing experience. sharing intimacy with someone special is something I want to experience again. it's understandable that negativity will come about from frustration in not being able to experience this when people feel they're ready to.
I don't get emotional or physical intimacy from anyone else. I have very close relationships with good friends but even they don't know my intimate thoughts and secrets and hopes and dreams. I want to share them with someone who is there for me, who reserves a certain part of themselves for me only. Who feels safe enough with me to trust me and share their own thoughts with me.
It all may seem selfish but I don't think it's such an unusual thing to want.
I'm not necessarily hating being single...in fact I was just wondering today whether having a significant other is really what I want right now. I was thinking how different my life would be right now if I had a boyfriend...what I wouldn't be doing and the people I wouldn't be meeting.
But the fact is that I want a change in my life. I want another focus. I want to be able to think about someone else and help make them happy, instead of only thinking about myself all the time. It's only natural that negativity is going to come about from wanting all this and not being given the opportunity to expereience it.
From a sexual perspective....I also don't go for the fuck buddy thing. I don't enjoy casual sex. I don't get enough out of it. plus I'm a typical girl who gets emotionally attached. I've seen far too many girls enter into a casual relationship then end up wanting more from the guy than he is prepared to give. It always ends in tears. I don't want to get myself into the same situation. But I'm still a sexual being who craves sexual intimacy. Sexual frustration is a pretty negative thing when it's in our hormones and our genetic make up to want to have sex!!
It's not all about negativity. However a lot of people (including myself) use this thread as a bit of a release...a place to vent. Consequently most of the posts are negative ones. I've tried to stop posting negative thoughts in here because it's not good for myself...let alone boring for others to read.
I can think of even more to write. but basically hoptis...not all of us are as lucky as you who can experience the better parts of a relationship by getting it from friends and fuck buddies. Enjoy it while you can....but try and appreciate why other people also find the whole being single thing very very sobering.
[ 06 February 2003: Message edited by: miss apple ]
 
miss apple you expressed alot that I feel the same way about.Except I'm a guy,he,he,he,he...... :) :) :)
Another thing I've learnt and felt strongly about recently is, that because guys are generally looked down at
for expressing there feelings,I've bottled my feelings up and they've all come out in a VERY angry way recently("Pretty clear by some of my previous posts,mind you I will always stick by that this person was in the wrong by how they dealt with me and they were rude,etc,etc,etc.....").
Anyway,I'm going to express my feelings more NOW and I don't care if it's NOT seen as the manly thing to do.If women are aloud to openly express there feelings then there is nothing wrong with guys doing it("like myself").Cause as guys have feelings too :) .
Finally,I think the best word you used to some up a part of how I and many others may feel is:-
FRUSTRATION.
 
^^^
Yes you should and put us out of our misery ;)
Take him Miss Apple :)
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wacky - I understand what you say about guys being made to feel like they're not 'manly' if they express emotion....I've often thought how difficult it would be to be male and have to deal with that kind of social pressure. Don't be afraid to express your feelings. If it will help you deal with the anger that you've admitted you've experienced over the past few days then it will definitely be a good thing for you :)
yes vurt....you really should visit sydney ;)
 
Please don't call a doctor, 'cause there's nothing wrong with me,
I just like things a little rough and you better not disagree.
'Cause I don't like a big softie, (no), I like someone mean and bossy,
Let me speak to you frankly, you better...
Like hanky panky (hanky panky),
Nothing like a good spanky (good spanky).
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It's friday, and I'm single, woohoo
 
thanks wacky.
Ive meet a guy (or two).
Being back in the dating game is so much fun!
will see how things work out.
But fuck they live on the otherside of sydney.
could be worse.. the other way around.
 
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