Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

[stacyrox]

doofqueen, in my opinion, attempting to become "fuck buddies" with someone you actually have quite strong feelings for is never going to work out.. basically coz you'll end up seeing it as an actual relationship and he might not. Which tends to lead to all kinds of issues.. one major one being that you may end up extremely hurt. Its like repeatedly grabbing an electric fence in hope that one day it will be turned off..
The whole "maybe he'll come to his senses" thing is always an unknown, but you need to ask yourself to what length you want to go to see if he will.. would you stay with him for months even tho he isnt actually interested in anything but sex, just on the off chance he may 'change his mind'?
Basically what I'm getting at is you really need to think past the 'I really want/miss sex' part and focus on the actual outcomes that may be associated with your choice. Unfortunately you cant really make someone want to be in a relationship with you, and if you are getting into something on the hope that that may be the case, then more often than not you're probably setting yourself up for a rather big fall..
Being in a 'fuck-buddy' type relationship really isnt as easy as it sounds.
stace.

 

[miss apple]

Originally posted by doofqueen:
but if thats the only way i can have him should i take it?
absolutely most definitely not!! that's just asking for heartbreak right there. he's a guy....he can detach himself emotionally from sex. considering the way you feel about him, you're just giving him everything he wants...sex without the stress of commitment.
the best way of revenge for how he's treated you is to not give him the satisfaction of getting what he wants.

 

[belisimo]

/\ agreed, doofqueen take me as your role model and get a vibrator or a lesbifriend instead. Its the way to go.
Or dont 'take me', but you get the picture.

 

[doofqueen]

*cries* i know i know.....

 

[vurtomatic]

Originally posted by miss apple:
he's a guy....he can detach himself emotionally from sex.
now that's a generalisation i'd have to disagree with

 

[silvia saint]

Originally posted by RobertRollie:
I'd fuck sydkiwi.
who would not ?
i wanna be the object of - your frustrations and your hang-ups

 

[RobertRollie]

Originally posted by silvia saint:

who would not ?
i wanna be the object of - your frustrations and your hang-ups
Well you can be if you really want to....

 

[Queen Beat]

Originally posted by RobertRollie:
I'd fuck sydkiwi.
Apparantly she's quite fuckable.

 

[Jokerswild]

Originally posted by Queen Beat:

Apparantly she's quite fuckable.
Wow what a compliment, gee i'd be flattered.
JoKeR

 

[Queen Beat]

Apparantly Jokerswild is quite fuckable.

 

[hoptis]

Originally posted by Cosmic Mist:
Ummm... Hoptis, i have one thing to say to you about your link: I go to uni with this girl!! She's one of my closest friends!
Heh heh - small world... What did you rate her out of curiosity?

Small world indeed. I rated her shagadelic.

Originally posted by belisimo:
get a vibrator or a lesbifriend instead
*sigh* if only a lesbifriend was as easy to get as a vibrator :D
I would think that being fuckbuddy's with an ex isn't the best idea in the world. I would much prefer to meet and make one rather than craft one out of an existing emotional bond.
I've been thinking about ditching my fuckbuddy and abstaining from sex for a while... I don't know if it's just a big comedown speaking but things are all messed up right now and I'm not happy with the role that sex is playing in my life.

 

[fb1]

Fuck Buddy 1

 

[doofqueen]

well i did have a gf 4 a month last yr....but i started missing male company and thanks guys for everyones advice...sorry i didnt meantion it b4...head wasnt too clear when i was reading the comments...u were all pretty much telling me what i knew but i needed to hear it all the same to confirm what i was thinking...i know with the way i feel for him its a bad idea to have him as a fuck buddy...each day that goes by and hes not mentioned or i dont talk to him it gets better but when i do...it gets a little harder *sigh* but i also agree that just cos ur male doesnt mean u can detatch urself emotionally from sex....im female and ive been able to do it many times cos sex sometimes is just sex...just depends on who ur doing it with i guess...with this one i dont think i could detatch my heart from him...im still trying to now

 

[Jokerswild]

Originally posted by Queen Beat:
Apparantly Jokerswild is quite fuckable.
Was once, but I think Im all fucked out.

 

[PsychoKitten]

Originally posted by fb1:
Fuck Buddy 1
LOL

 

[wazza]

ive been able to do it many times cos sex sometimes is just sex...just depends on who ur doing it with i guess...with this one i dont think i could detatch my heart from him...im still trying to now
WORD to that... But it's something not many people can do as I have found out first hand as well. heh
Congrats if you can detach yourself from sex, sometimes it's a godsend, sometimes its a curse in peoples eyes

 

[sydkiwi]

RobertRollie
I'd fuck sydkiwi.
roflmao
wot makes you think Id want you.

silvia saint
quote:
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Originally posted by RobertRollie:
I'd fuck sydkiwi.
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who would not ?
i wanna be the object of - your frustrations and your hang-ups

Queen Beat
Apparantly she's quite fuckable.
Is that wot everyone thinks of me?? I dont no whether I should be offended or take that as a compliment

 

[silvia saint]

^^^
i neva said anything about being easy. pls forgive. this thread was gettn boring and off topic so i thought i'd add to the ego
[ 19 February 2003: Message edited by: silvia saint ]

 

[sydkiwi]

lol Queenbeat did!!!!!

 

[Cohaagen]

hmmm...
if somebody said they wanted to fuck me, i'd be pretty stoked...
but the magic 8-ball don't lie...
the two questions (not asked by me)
Q : is cohaa gonna get fucked soon? (chemically, that is)
A : ABSOLUTELY
Q : is cohaa gonna get fucked soon? (sexually, that is)
A : TOO EARLY TO DECIDE
ah well... back to the old drawing board...
but at least it wasn't a NO... that's a relief... so it mite happen...
after taking to a few girls lately, i'm starting to think that a "relationship" is more trouble than its worth, and besides i'm not ready to grow up just yet. a fuck-buddy would be perfect.
and if worst comes to worst, i can just shell out and pay for one... i mean, thinking about how much money i wasted last year... i could have paid for a fucking GOOD night.
Cohaa.