Originally posted by Russ:
Is sleeping with a girl that has a boyfriend wrong?
Yeah, I know this is wrong, but they are not going to last, so what is the real harm?
For me the question is about karma. Put yourself in the boyfriend's position and ask how you would feel if someone did the same to you?
I know a lot of people say that the 'cheatee' has no real responsibility and that it is the cheater who is to blame. That's true to some extent, but it takes two to tango, if you know someone has a partner and you go to bed with them, then in effect you're saying that you condone cheating and you're okay with it.
One of my friends recently told me she's cheating on her boyfriend, and the guy she's sleeping with also has a girlfriend. So what do you think I'm going to say to her if she ever has a partner cheat on her and she gets hurt badly in the process?
"Suffer... you reap what you sow"
Nah, not really... I'll lend her a shoulder to cry on and take advantage of her vulnerable emotional state. LOL...
My point is that cheating happens more often than not because people have done it before and know they can do it again and again (esp. guys = repeat offenders, but not always) and get away with it. I would suggest that unless you're prepared to have someone cheat on you and to put you through the pain, jealousy, hurt and emotional turmoil that goes with it, than you shouldn't do it to someone else.
Having said that, I've not always done the right thing myself, but not recently and hopefully not again in the future. On top of that, you can't honestly tell me that there aren't enough single men and women out there who want to be used for sex, I mean, *C'MON*, that's what single people are for!!!
As with all things though, it's a personal decision and up to you to figure out what you think is the right thing to do.
