Bitchen
Bluelighter
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strangerinthe_woods
Bluelighter
nice one anna!
to all thoughs ppl that have just broken up:
fantastic, you have gotten over the person and have found that single life is great! but spend a couple of years wanting, waiting looking and not finding, then you will not be so happy to wake up in a cold bed.
Sorry about the rant but i feel that this needs to be out in the open.
PLUR on the west-side
to all thoughs ppl that have just broken up:
fantastic, you have gotten over the person and have found that single life is great! but spend a couple of years wanting, waiting looking and not finding, then you will not be so happy to wake up in a cold bed.
Sorry about the rant but i feel that this needs to be out in the open.
PLUR on the west-side
plazma
Bluelighter
*Marches in with his brass band*
*Sets up camp*
Baaaaadaboooomting! :D
I'm baaaaaack!!!!
-plaz out-
*Sets up camp*
Baaaaadaboooomting! :D
I'm baaaaaack!!!!
-plaz out-
Tarsarlan
Bluelighter
Originally posted by strangerinthe_woods:
Sorry about the rant but i feel that this needs to be out in the open.Dude, the content your post is definately not something any of us who've been without a partner for a long time are at all unaware of...
And it doesn't matter for those who have just broken up, they may be aware of it, but they prolly won't care...
Meanwhile... *goes back to flirting*
SupaDiscoBreaka
Bluelighter
*Throws down the Gauntlet*
SupaDiscoBreaka
Bluelighter
*Throws down the Gauntlet*
2 of Cups
Bluelighter
yeah deecee it can be messy... or at the very least result in a large sms/phone bill. I'm single and have one of those anyway!
*giggles cos it's worth it*
Flirting is still fun! even if I am keeping telstra in business.
*giggles cos it's worth it*
Flirting is still fun!
even if I am keeping telstra in business.
raverchik
Bluelighter
single sux 
Tarsarlan
Bluelighter
Optus ain't doing too bad either...
Well i am single and i love it i can flirt with anyone i want without the "WERE YOU JUST FLIRTING WITH HER!" crap that goes on.
Also in the scene that i am in havin a girl with ya 24/7 well that is shit when all you want to do is party always makin sure she is happy!
i make my own happiness i find fun in what i do i dont want to have to worry about someone!
this does make sense to me i dont know about how it sounds to you.
But really are relationships that important like i was with this girl for 5 yrs and broke up with her 12 months and 3 weeks ago (yeah sure i want her back) but with that i get all the problems of before like havin to worry about the happiness of them.
rule one in my life is make yourself happy before other's because if you dont you will never be at one with yourself.
so if i am out and havin fun and i meet a chicky doin the same as me lookin after herself in the fun market then i dont have to worry about her happiness just my own.
i know this is kinda selfish but at what price do you put on yourself, sure have time for friends family and future loved one's but dont loose sight of your own happiness or you will get nowhere in life!
MY 2 CENTS
*raverchick* dont worry about it have fun dont go looking for the "ONE" and he will find you ok just keep it real.
RAVE SAFE ALL!
p.s since leaving my ex fiance my life has been so much better but i would give anything to be in her lovin arms for just another brief moment so i could feel what comes to those in love!
Also in the scene that i am in havin a girl with ya 24/7 well that is shit when all you want to do is party always makin sure she is happy!
i make my own happiness i find fun in what i do i dont want to have to worry about someone!
this does make sense to me i dont know about how it sounds to you.
But really are relationships that important like i was with this girl for 5 yrs and broke up with her 12 months and 3 weeks ago (yeah sure i want her back) but with that i get all the problems of before like havin to worry about the happiness of them.
rule one in my life is make yourself happy before other's because if you dont you will never be at one with yourself.
so if i am out and havin fun and i meet a chicky doin the same as me lookin after herself in the fun market then i dont have to worry about her happiness just my own.
i know this is kinda selfish but at what price do you put on yourself, sure have time for friends family and future loved one's but dont loose sight of your own happiness or you will get nowhere in life!
MY 2 CENTS
*raverchick* dont worry about it have fun dont go looking for the "ONE" and he will find you ok just keep it real.
RAVE SAFE ALL!
p.s since leaving my ex fiance my life has been so much better but i would give anything to be in her lovin arms for just another brief moment so i could feel what comes to those in love!
Tarsarlan
Bluelighter
M_D_X_M_A: It's quite possible to ensure the happiness of others while being happy yourself... It takes some effort, but its possible...
But in the end, what price do you put on yourself and your own happiness? Do you sacrifice other's happiness for your own? Or do you sacrifice your own happiness for others? What is more important to you... I doubt there are very many people at all who would say they value their own happiness less than the happiness of others...
Woah, major tangent there...
Back on track... I'm not going to be happy in a relationship unless my girlfriend is happy... But the only kind of girl I'd be in a relationship with would be someone who would feel the same way, she'd be happy if I was... And to that end we'd both do our best to make each other happy, and we'd both enjoy doing it...
But isn't that the way things usually are when they work out well? ...Or maybe I'm being too idealistic again...
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But in the end, what price do you put on yourself and your own happiness? Do you sacrifice other's happiness for your own? Or do you sacrifice your own happiness for others? What is more important to you... I doubt there are very many people at all who would say they value their own happiness less than the happiness of others...
Woah, major tangent there...
Back on track... I'm not going to be happy in a relationship unless my girlfriend is happy... But the only kind of girl I'd be in a relationship with would be someone who would feel the same way, she'd be happy if I was... And to that end we'd both do our best to make each other happy, and we'd both enjoy doing it...
But isn't that the way things usually are when they work out well? ...Or maybe I'm being too idealistic again...
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Fetish Jester
Bluelighter
Hell yeah Anna! Everything I wanted to say... So all I can at to the post is "KAY-B, BAH! YOU'RE WRONG!"
strangerinthe_woods: I actually bought a new, larger, bed because I'd be having someone in it, and now it's cold. I know how you feel.
Plaz: That's a bit of a shit, hey? Oh well, join the crowd. *Hugs*
Anyway, here is my recent delemma, I WANT to go out with someone, the problem is there is no one around the place I'd even bother chasing after... what a shit.
Then again, there was that lead singer of the goth band from the recent battle of the bands our band played at... mmmmm, gothalicus...
strangerinthe_woods: I actually bought a new, larger, bed because I'd be having someone in it, and now it's cold. I know how you feel.
Plaz: That's a bit of a shit, hey? Oh well, join the crowd. *Hugs*
Anyway, here is my recent delemma, I WANT to go out with someone, the problem is there is no one around the place I'd even bother chasing after... what a shit.
Then again, there was that lead singer of the goth band from the recent battle of the bands our band played at... mmmmm, gothalicus...
dicey
Bluelighter
buwahaha single?
yesh, thats me!
single is fun.. lots of fun.. until you finally get sick of snogging stranger after stranger and start wondering where your ex is...
thank god mine is in the uk because i would probably be straight back in his arms and make the same mistakes aaaaall over again.
dont get me wrong.. we weren't together for 2.5 years for nothing!
but its been months now and its a bit of a bitch, the partying scene can only last for so long until you start to get exhausted with all the time, money and effort it takes.
1) being a full time uni student and doing part time work doesn't leave much time for anything else...
and so when you keep on going on partying you don't want to stop because you get lots of meaningless attention to the point that you want to keep going, not only does it render you with either a hangover, a comedown or a taxi ride home with a stranger...
but it also leaves you broke and unsatisfied.
as well as a lot of assignments banging at your doorstep waiting to be finished.
its not fun doing assignments mashed.hell its not fun to do assignments anyway.
2) i don't NEED a boyfriend.. i just WANT one damnit!
i don't want the whole.. 'where have you been?' or
'what on earth where you doing with that guy?' routine.
lots of good clean fun at home is all i want
plus its great to just hang out, not having to do anything and just enjoy the pleasure of the company that your with...
well, thats my rant for the night!
yesh, thats me!
single is fun.. lots of fun.. until you finally get sick of snogging stranger after stranger and start wondering where your ex is...
thank god mine is in the uk because i would probably be straight back in his arms and make the same mistakes aaaaall over again.
dont get me wrong.. we weren't together for 2.5 years for nothing!
but its been months now and its a bit of a bitch, the partying scene can only last for so long until you start to get exhausted with all the time, money and effort it takes.
1) being a full time uni student and doing part time work doesn't leave much time for anything else...
and so when you keep on going on partying you don't want to stop because you get lots of meaningless attention to the point that you want to keep going, not only does it render you with either a hangover, a comedown or a taxi ride home with a stranger...
but it also leaves you broke and unsatisfied.
as well as a lot of assignments banging at your doorstep waiting to be finished.
its not fun doing assignments mashed.hell its not fun to do assignments anyway.
2) i don't NEED a boyfriend.. i just WANT one damnit!
i don't want the whole.. 'where have you been?' or
'what on earth where you doing with that guy?' routine.
lots of good clean fun at home is all i want
plus its great to just hang out, not having to do anything and just enjoy the pleasure of the company that your with...well, thats my rant for the night!
2 of Cups
Bluelighter
hmmm... ok based on a few posts, I thought I might share my thoughts on what makes a good partnership. Only cos some ppl seem to think that being in a relationship somehow means that you're trapped!
This is ridiculous and frankly I think that if you're feeling this way you're either not in love, or either you or your partner are too damn selfish/immature to have a proper relationship.
Partnerships are just that, partnerships. A good partnership happens when both ppl are loyal, but not dominating. Protective, but not possessive. Encouraging, but not pressuring. Interested but not smothering. They allow each other their own space, and actively seek out this space themselves. They laugh, they support, they enjoy each other thoroughly. They might not see one another every day, but this is a good thing and allows you the perspective to realise just how good he/she is every day. And above all, they damn well talk to each other! That actually means listening and taking on board what the other person has to say.
Plus there's the sex thing. But that can be worked out.
If everyone could aspire to this, we may well not be quite so afraid of committment, hmmm?
oh yeah, and if it hurts, you're not doing it right .
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This is ridiculous and frankly I think that if you're feeling this way you're either not in love, or either you or your partner are too damn selfish/immature to have a proper relationship.
Partnerships are just that, partnerships. A good partnership happens when both ppl are loyal, but not dominating. Protective, but not possessive. Encouraging, but not pressuring. Interested but not smothering. They allow each other their own space, and actively seek out this space themselves. They laugh, they support, they enjoy each other thoroughly. They might not see one another every day, but this is a good thing and allows you the perspective to realise just how good he/she is every day. And above all, they damn well talk to each other! That actually means listening and taking on board what the other person has to say.
Plus there's the sex thing. But that can be worked out.
If everyone could aspire to this, we may well not be quite so afraid of committment, hmmm?
oh yeah, and if it hurts, you're not doing it right
.[ 14 May 2002: Message edited by: 2 of Cups ]
dicey
Bluelighter
2 of Cups - i totally agree with your point of view.
so many people out there complain their not in a relationship and then when given a chance to be in one, they run because of a fear of committment and that they are going to smothered and their relationship will take too much of their time.
frankly, its quite ridiculous. Can't a relationship just involve spending time with someone you like?
it doesn't have to be time consuming in every aspect. People need their own lives to make something work. You cannot revolve your life around just one person. It's debilitating to.. i dont mean to sound a little bit pathetic but.. it is debilitating to your own sense of self.
i say ditch the baggage you all have about being a "commitment phobe" and just make the most of the time that you have by spending it with people you like.
isn't that what friends are for?
so many people out there complain their not in a relationship and then when given a chance to be in one, they run because of a fear of committment and that they are going to smothered and their relationship will take too much of their time.
frankly, its quite ridiculous. Can't a relationship just involve spending time with someone you like?
it doesn't have to be time consuming in every aspect. People need their own lives to make something work. You cannot revolve your life around just one person. It's debilitating to.. i dont mean to sound a little bit pathetic but.. it is debilitating to your own sense of self.
i say ditch the baggage you all have about being a "commitment phobe" and just make the most of the time that you have by spending it with people you like.
isn't that what friends are for?
2 of Cups
Bluelighter
Oh, and Dicey: I know where you're coming from 
. Most of the good partnerships I know involve the couple being best friends too . They get married and still have their own lives.
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. Most of the good partnerships I know involve the couple being best friends too . They get married and still have their own lives.[ 14 May 2002: Message edited by: 2 of Cups ]
RobertRollie
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A 'relationship' is just a label people give to certain types of behaviour. You can do enjoy all the benefits of a relationship without having to call it one.
2 of Cups
Bluelighter
Originally posted by RobertRollie:
A 'relationship' is just a label people give to certain types of behaviour. You can do enjoy all the benefits of a relationship without having to call it one.
oh yeah... i forgot to mention that you have to make sure your expectations are aligned. So if neither of you wanna call it a 'relationship' then that's great too
I was saying that if you wanted to take it to the next level it shouldn't be all that scary is all.