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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

I just read the front page/first post, and it's been sometime since I last vented. I promise the next post will be on topic.
"What do you want in a relationship?"
Me, I want someone who "gets" me, there's people who tolerate me, humour me, patronise me, but there are only a rare few who "get" me. I guess that's the same for everybody...
To rephrase that, if they have the same sense of humour as me, which plays such an important part in my life and times, it's such an intergral part of how I interact with everything. Sadly, this is the thing that scares off most potentials, and screw it if I have to act like someone else to pick up.
Okay, I'd want one that's able to handle an intelligent coversation. I've had it up to here with people who don't have anything to say about anything, ignorance is a turn off. A person who can provide me an interesting/original viewpoint or piece of info has practically guaranteed me into their bed.
A close second is that they're passionate about something in their life, and they'd want to share it with me. Last time I was transfixed by someone was when she was describing how playing in a band made her feel. But even a passion to live life to the fullest grabs me, you can just feel that "Sun of Ether" vibe when you meet someone like that.
I feel that if those 3 things were filled, the rest would follow: I.e I'd have a warm, happy, affectionate, "with it" partner who I'd be warm happy and affectionate with.
Sad how I see those qualities only in people who are either not interested or untouchable.
I want to give warm hugs in the morning.
I want to play my love songs to a real person.
I want to love.
*sigh*
I feel better now...
 
Okay, I've decided I've been acting like an idiot.
Firstly, I tear a strip off Dicey for role acting, then proceed in my next post to call myself "Mr Stupid", which has become a role I've played in the bluelight social group for a while.
I guess you can't win them all, I'm going to start thinking before I open my mouth a lot more, that might be helpful.
So I think I need to think a lot more about my life, and a lot more about the roles I expect people to play in it & conversely the ones others expect me to play in theirs.
Enough said for now.
-plaz out-
 
Noone loves me.... :(
Must be my hair - haircut!
Must be my humour - say nothing!
Must be Newcastle - fuck it!
Must be my clothes - naked!
Fuckin brilliant!
Im bald, naked and mute standing on the beach.
*mooch starts playing a violin*
 
hey I like that maybe we should actually hold one (not just a new topic suggestion)
well there are enough bluelight singles :) maybe hold it down at canberra so maybe a few of the melbourne crew attend and we dont just get the sydney, canberra and newcastle people.
 
Bluelight Singles Part XIII -- Is it time to buy a Fleshlight?

Continued from Part XII
What is a Fleshlight?
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Girls have their vibrators so now guys can have their sex in a can! I bought one a couple weeks ago and will be posting my review eventually. Click here if you want to talk about Fleshlights, otherwise back to the topic...
Welcome to Bluelight Singles Part XIII! Feel free to post about:
  • what you like or dislike about being single
  • prospective mates and meeting new people
  • what you are/aren't looking for in a relationship
  • your past relationships and how they went wrong
  • trying to meet new people
  • any other topic that develops
PS. Only 45 more weeks until miss apple marries her soul mate! ;)
[ 30 July 2002: Message edited by: Catch-22 ]
 
Still here
still single
definitly free to a good home :)
still considering moving to melbourne
Am looking for an employed male whos over 20 who doesnt smoke and like me is at the stage where they over the scene drugs events and all. I dont want someone whos only just discovered wot a "great drug" ecstasy is..
fuck im starting to sound like one of those desperate people that put ads in the personals colums in the paper..
anyway been single for over a year my last boyfriend was a wanker and as the saying goes u are who u hang out with.. well his mates were complete dickheads. two of them hit their gfs.. now theres no excuse for that im sorry but theres none. He never hit me but the emotional abuse was bad enough. wot i learnt from the experience??
NOthing wrong with quizzing potentials about their pot and drinking habits. and its best since im a non smoker to not to see someone who is.. Im not prepared to put up with it and most guys arent prepared to quit either.
 
A few quickies:
Re topic: It's always time to buy a Fleshlight, foo'! It's always time. :P
And I'll say this, it's a strange circumstance change, going from being King o' the Singles Thread to being happily with someone for three weeks.
Now, I'll spare you all the cliched bullshit, but I will say this...
If self-image is a major problem of yours, go and talk to someone about it. Talk to a therapist, talk to a parent, talk to a good friend... Talk to someone.
Self-image is something that I'm really only just starting to develop, and I have been developing for possibly the last 9 months or so. I've become a more well-rounded person (and a less well-rounded person :) ), and I'm sure that this thing that's happening at the moment wouldn't have occured if it weren't for who I'm developing into.
Also, COMMUNICATION! COMMUNICATION! COMMUNICATION!
I can't stress enough how important communicating your feelings is. I've never been good at doing it at all, in fact, I've found it downright hard, nearly impossible.
Hopefully you don't have too many difficulties in the future because of a lack in communication, but it's a really simple element of many relationships that just gets forgotten about.
Now, I in no way have started thinking I'm an expert on relationships/being single, but these are just a few points I've really taken notice of over the last few weeks...
Hope no-one is too disenchanted with everything, and if you wanna talk, feel free to hit me up with an email to [email protected]. :)
[ 30 July 2002: Message edited by: Dante ]
 
*drags the grandstand from the previous thread with much exertion*
Urgh! Thanks alot guys....I was just getting comfortable too... :(
/me hugs Sydkiwi
I'll play 'hookup host' if you move to Melbourne! ;)
*sits and eats popcorn*
 
Originally posted by Dante:
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If self-image is a major problem of yours, go and talk to someone about it. Talk to a therapist, talk to a parent, talk to a good friend... Talk to someone.
Self-image is something that I'm really only just starting to develop, and I have been developing for possibly the last 9 months or so. I've become a more well-rounded person (and a less well-rounded person :) ), and I'm sure that this thing that's happening at the moment wouldn't have occured if it weren't for who I'm developing into.

What dante is all so true, if self image is your problem and you keep it inside, its only going to be worse off for you as a person later.
To me it has been a never ending problem that im am so slowly ovrcomming, i dont see myself loving anoyne untill i love myself, i wont let anybody get that close to me, and if they do, like in the past i end up hurting them and everyone cracks the shits with me because they dont understand.
I am currently with someone, but it isnt a relationship, its really whatever whenever, but were good friends instead, when somebody shows affection to me i dont deal with it well or compliments, i cant hack them.
I have found a good friend i think, that will just spend time with me when i dont want to be alone :)
-funki-
 
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