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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

up all night said:
^ Yeah because when you get a boyfriend you stop enjoying life. 8)
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life wasnt meant to be enjoyed anyways 8) ;)

if any relationship is only making you miserable then you are better off being single and at least semi happy :)

boyfriends dont mean settling down...u can have a stable relatonship and not commit =D
 
*starfalls69* said:

boyfriends dont mean settling down...u can have a stable relatonship and not commit =D
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That's a bit of a contradiction isn't it? ...I guess you mean you can have a stable relationship and not have to commit to living together and planning on spending the rest of your lives together...

Still, the essence of stability IMHO is settling down, being content with who you are, and who your partner is, and with the direction of your relationship and your life together...

I'd much rather find one person who I can spend the rest of my life with... And so far it looks like I have :)
 
another silly theory from me...

Researchers at St Andrews and Stirling Uni's in the UK have found that
chiks on the pill are:
-attracted to masculine men with masculine features.
-overlooking sensitive men who have the potential to be better long term partners.
-less likely to be influenced by male scents: pheromones (the colourless odourless chemicals given off by the body that are crucial to sexual attraction). Thus hindering the ability to pick up the right chemical signals from men. Scientists believe it's these pheromones that help ppl choose biologically compatible mates.

Is it obvious that I'm searching for answers here!?! :P
 
Tarsarlan said:


I'd much rather find one person who I can spend the rest of my life with... And so far it looks like I have :)
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Hey who are u talkin' about bitch? oops I forgot it's me! :P
now where is that bluelight couples thread?
 
met a sweet sweet sweet sweet sweet person on the weekend. havent been able to get them off my mind... all week... :):):)

more info will be released, as it comes available.
 
Tarsarlan said:
That's a bit of a contradiction isn't it? ...I guess you mean you can have a stable relationship and not have to commit to living together and planning on spending the rest of your lives together...

Still, the essence of stability IMHO is settling down, being content with who you are, and who your partner is, and with the direction of your relationship and your life together...

I'd much rather find one person who I can spend the rest of my life with... And so far it looks like I have :)
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what i meant was...u can have a stable relationship with guy/girl and not have the committment in place...as in the you are mine and mine only thing...

i dont know if its just me or what but i find that saying i am someones girlfriend puts a new barrier on me which i dont like.i find that i am more comfortable saying...this is my close friend (BOB) and leaving it at that...i am content knowing (BOB) is stable in the relationship and also understands that while it stable there is no committment...the word committment scares me alone yet alone actually having to committ.

yes tarsy hun...when the time is right i will settle and committ...but when the time is ready...stable relationships dont nessecarily mean committed ones. :)

TALIANA: woot hun... =D

BUNNY: *hugs babe*
 
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starsy: I see what you mean, but I think you're placing too much weight on the word 'commitment' ...I still believe that a stable relationship requires a certain level of commitment... Not necessarily a commitment to spend the rest of your lives together, nor a commitment to share all parts of your life...

But in order to be stable, there has to at least be some commitment to that other person... Because otherwise there's no guarantee you won't run off with someone else, and if there's the chance your partner might leave you, how can that relationship possibly be considered stable?

Still, if I understand the essense of what you're saying, then we're just arguing over the definition of 'commitment' and 'stable'...

What does everyone else think?
 
On some level for any relationship to be stable, commitment from both parties needs to be there. From friendship through to fuck buddy through to partners and the sounds of wedding bells :) all relationships have some level of commitment. Even open relationships where sex/playing around with others is allowed or encouraged there is still commitment between the two partners. To commit yourself doesn’t necessarily mean that you are tying yourself in for the happily ever after.

Stars the implied fright of the word commitment is probably pretty unnecessary because if you look around at your life you’ll see you’ve committed to many things already. Perhaps it’s a fear of labels? You don’t want to be boxed into the idea of someone’s “girlfriend” rather than you don’t want to commit yourself.
 
*starfalls69* said:
...hands out memerships to the 'club' to tali and sydkiwi...

...sighs...
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lol

nothing wrong with being picky. =D

and oooooh we now have a club started!!!

anyone else really picky when it comes to the opposite sex?

why i am so picky? well better to date someone suitable then see someone just because your lonely and lowered your standards so you wont be alone.

But I have noticed over the years my tastes have changed. at 21 I went for the guys with bleeched blonde hair!!!! hmm but then i still have a thing for that look.. anyway what was i trying to say again?
 
I have a question for the single guy/girls out there, and it's semi-serious and also out of general curiosity, posted here instead of SLR because mobile phone ownership and popularity of text messaging is greater over here than in the States.

You go out, you meet a nice girl/guy/four-headed-beast... you hit it off, swap numbers. You wait however many days/hours/minutes/seconds/milliseconds you normally do and then...

First Contact after the event/club/pub/rave/orgy/anal-probe/threesome/fisting/seance/mass/wedding/hit-and-run.

Do you text or call? If so, what determines which one you choose?

PS. No I haven't really ever gotten any numbers after a hit-and-run
 
i met mt ex gf through a friend at a club and i sent her a text message ( from memory) two days after, i didn't want to call because i was too nervous hehe and then she sent me one back with her home number and asked me to call her that night ;)
 
hoptis: i'd prefer smsing, but i'm not sure if that's just because i'd be way too nervous about it...you should get one of the mods to make a poll.

anyway, i'd even prefer to *be* smsed than be called, because the conversation is just *always* going to be awkward, and smsing gives you the chance to think stuff through. go the text :)
 
heh heh, my current man called me 3 days after we first swapped numbers. unfortunately for him, my phone was answered by my ex as i was driving, so i had to call him back...

I think in that situation i would have preferred the call to the SMS, however i think it depends on the people involved. I would probably ring, just to show that i was actually interested and was making the effort - sometimes an SMS seems just a little impersonal. :\

Do what feels right i say... if you're not comfortable then use SMS, at least she won't be able to hear your quivering voice then. ;)
 
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