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funki said:
I have a question that probably belongs in this thread

how do you know you love somebody....

and can it be somebody you dont know well ?
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I think u can believe that u love someone that u don't know well. But it's come and go. It's just as easy to fall out of love with them.

I think love stems from what a person brings to your life. So if you don't know the person very well, then they couldn't really mean that much to you.

Then again, I'm not even sure that I've ever experienced real love at my young age, so who knows. Just thoughts.
 
here my answer funki, although its a little on the crude side, although for me, and i suspect some other people its perfectly honest.

1. food tastes great, songs all sound good, its just a nice feeling when you wake up. im not taking the piss, im serious.

2. you dont fantasise about another chick while you are shagging. or more importantly you dont look at other girls when they walk past. (in the sense that you know im talking about). it really wierd, but i understand when girls say that they just dont think about being with other guys.

i also understand why most guys cant understand that girls feel like that most of the time.
 
Coming from someone who's never actually been "in love" I can't say I know all that much ...

I've been told that you JUST KNOW when your in love. Nothing else matters :)

Yeah you can lust after someone (hell who doesn't) but love .... *sigh*

:D :D :D
 
It's hard to say what love is, because it is really personal.

I think everyone has their own definition of what love is, which is why it is impossible to define.
 
I agree with star_beats, you can't truly define love... We've tried for centuries and still people will disagree...

For example, papermate says that you don't look at other girls when they walk past. It's quite possible for someone to be completely in love with more than one person, and therefore be physically aroused by both. Why not by others too?

Maybe it would be better to say that you might be attracted to someone else, but you have absolutely no desire to do anything about it because you're completely satisfied with who you're with...

Our society is a monogamous society, and polygamy is frowned upon. Even at a subconscious level most people find the idea of polygamy unsettling... Yet there are cultures in which it's accepted, and in which all people involved believe they love each other... And who are we to say they don't?

You can't define love, but I don't think a definition is important. It should be enough that you feel strongly about other people, or just one person perhaps. If you get so caught up in the word love, you might forget about what's really important...
 
I think you know when your in love when that person is on your mind all the time, when your happy just being with them no matter where you are or what your doing, when all you want to do is make them happy and put a smile on their face and doing this makes you happy and puts a smile on yours...

I miss being in love *sigh*
 
Thanks for all the input guys
papermate yours was well said and i thank you for that

I am seeing somebody who is totally great he has made me happy and we have good times, but feel strongly for somebody else, and think about this other person alot 8(
and i really dont know what to do about it...
Im not good at affection im not good at things , i dont want to hurt other people but sometimes it has to be done

sticky situation here
 
funki - your a smart chicky :) I know it might sound corny, but in your heart you'll know the right thing to do and you'll know when to do whatever it is you have to :)

This person that you feel strongly about - do they feel the same way?

It is a sticky situation ...

I say enjoy what you have now ... and cross the other bridges when you come to them :)

You deserve to be happy :D
 
^^^ everyone deserves to be happy:\

call it fate... you'll know u found the one when everything seems balanced.:|
WTF do i know..

hehehe "Now thats what i call a sticky situation" said cartman
 
Funki: In many ways, I think 'love' is just the term we use for explaining an emotion that is stronger then affection. Nearly everything that people have described can be placed under the title of infatutation or lust as well as under love. Love is such a personal, private thing, better dealt with inside the confines of your own heart. No-one can really answer your question, we can only give our own interpretations which shouldn't really have any bearing on what you think love is.

You say you're having strong feelings for another guy but think about what you're like. ;) Are you only having strong feelings for someone else because you don't really want to commit to this guy, or because you're a self-admitted lover of the 'thrill-of-the-chase'? Think carefully...

xx
 
^^^
I value your input

I know what I am like, yes....... It was my decision to throw myself into the dating game at 19, a little older than some, since then i have seen a few guys the longest lasting just under 2 months.

I chop and change but commitment isnt a factor here, i am ready to commit its just not towards the guy i am with ( 2 weeks ), i feel strongly for the other guy but i dont know if he is single, He always asks prying questions which i avoid by answering with some bullshit answer.

when we are talking, i can look him dead in the eye, and feel comfortable chatting to him but dont know him very well, just from him comming into my work, which he tends to do more frequently now. This is not the guy i am with, i dont see myself having a future with him, its just fun, i slept with him the night after i met him, id never done that before, and i dont see something solid building from the situation, but this guy is head over heels for me :( and im head over heels for somebody else 8(

Id love to commit to somebody, have somebody hole me and to share things with, i see this in the other guy not the guy i am with, i feel so strongly for the other guy :s

what it all balls down to is

Hes a MAN
Im a GIRL not yet a WOMAN
who LOVES to run amok and party and have a great time, who is also looking for somebody to be with and stability in life = settle down

take the ride ?
 
funki I think you're being a bit too serious about the whole thing to be perfectly honest.

you've been seeing one guy for 2 weeks, and you're thinking more about another guy who you've only spoken to when he's come into your work once or twice??!!

funki...neither of them are love.

if you don't like the current one, ditch him. or go on a date with the other guy first to see if you do really like him. then ditch the other one. or whatever.

you're 19 so play the field. have fun :)
 
Who's move?

Here's a little situation for you all to pick at.

Girl meets guy. Girl and guy hit it off. Guy messages girl the next day and more messages are sent all week. Including messages from Guy with things such as "babycakes, sweet cheeks". Girl obviously thinks that Guy is as keen as her.

Girl and guy catch up the next weekend and go out drinking. They both have a fantastic night and enjoyed each others company immensely.

Messages come and go then slowly come to a halt. Eventually guy tells girl he met another girl the night before he met her and things were going somewhere.

Girl hides her disappointment and pretends its all good. Guy says he still wants to go out etc and catch up and be mates.

3 weeks later

After no contact guy finally messages girl saying he wants to go out. Then the weekend he was going to go out, he had to move house. Girl messages guy after long weekend seeing how the new place is going. Messages start up again and eventually girl and guy start emailing each other.

Guy is very flirty and girl tries to act cool. Guy tells girl that things didn't work out with other girl. Says he's keen to catch up sometime.

Guy tells girl he doesn't know if he wants to get into another r/ship just yet however guy and girl sit up into the wee hours of the morning chatting on icq. Guy and girl have big d&m's and share very personal stuff with each other.

Girl is confused because guy keeps offering to come over and help set up her pc, keeps asking to catch up and keeps flirting. Girl would really love a r/ship and wants to try to play her cards right so that guy might change his mind.

What should poor girl do?
 
Confused? Nope, sounds like he's getting the most out of any girl he has an interest in...

If you can deal with a guy who is as 'flighty' as he sounds, then I'd say go for it... What's the difference between a) chatting with someone all the time, into the wee hours of the night, hanging out, flirting, spending lots of time together, messaging heaps and obviously thinking about each other a lot and b) being in a relationship? ....The difference is the acknowledgement of the relationship, and sex...

Now with most guys it doesn't take very much to go from flirting to sex, so if you can take that step, then the relationship will surely follow...

...not at all the way i'd go about it, but then I wouldn't go for a girl who showed definate interest in me, then got together with someone else, then ended it with the other guy and only then showed interest in me again...
 
Guy is being an asshole.... stringing girl along...

Guy is weighing up his options as other girl told him he wasnt good enough... guy feels sad.... needs to preserve masculinity... thinks I will string nice girl along....

Fluffy is right.... Girl should give guy ultimatium... wtf is going on.... same girl can save face by rejecting guy also...

Girl can still experience first love... on the dance floor ;)
 
guy is not worth the trouble, and furthermore is trouble.

I had a boy a little while ago who ran hot and cold, spent all his time with me, and then wouldnt call, clung to me like a limp wet dog and then couldnt demean himself to so much as converse with me in public. He left the other girl, eventually, which was nice sure, but nothing really changed, he still ran hot and cold, he still couldn't make his damn mind up.
Some guys always have a reason, but in the end, if they want you, they'll know, and they won't fuck around. Well at least thats how it seems.



:)
 
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