doofqueen
Bluelighter
Dante said:I think my flirtation is something like this:
Girl looks at me
Girl points finger at me, mouths something while dancing
I look away
He shoots, he scores!
that is so damn cute
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that is so damn cute
Dante I saw that pic of u I know whys she's pointing
she points and says to her friend, "look at that funky Son of a bitch, hope he comes over and says hello... but he prolly thinks he's too good for us.. cause he looks dreamy.." lol
ahh well... thought id pop in and say hello... the realm of singledom is starting to fade as opportunities are beginning to appear on the horizon. Ahhh.... uni/club/unemployment rules so much time to actually meet people.
she points and says to her friend, "look at that funky Son of a bitch, hope he comes over and says hello... but he prolly thinks he's too good for us.. cause he looks dreamy.." lol
ahh well... thought id pop in and say hello... the realm of singledom is starting to fade as opportunities are beginning to appear on the horizon. Ahhh.... uni/club/unemployment rules so much time to actually meet people.
Fetish Jester
Bluelighter
Yeah, yeah, you shouldn't post "I'm leaving this thread", but there is some merit to it.
I've found someone who is an oldschool gamer, heavily into music (especially the Smashing Pumpkins) and is quite attractive.
It's quite strange how bizzare (and uber selective) your tastes are, there is always someone out there who fills the criteria you've set for yourself.
So, here's to the future!
*lights a cigarette*
I've found someone who is an oldschool gamer, heavily into music (especially the Smashing Pumpkins) and is quite attractive.
It's quite strange how bizzare (and uber selective) your tastes are, there is always someone out there who fills the criteria you've set for yourself.
So, here's to the future!
*lights a cigarette*
Cosmic Mist
Bluelighter
^^^^^ 
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Words need not apply here - i'm so fucking happy for you both .
Back on topic:
Dante: i know it's easy to say and hard to do, but i think you should have more confidence in yourself - you're an extremely attractive person from what i can remember of you, the few times we have met... all you need is to realise this and project to others this confident you... i'm sure the woemn will be falling at your feet.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Words need not apply here - i'm so fucking happy for you both .
Back on topic:
Dante: i know it's easy to say and hard to do, but i think you should have more confidence in yourself - you're an extremely attractive person from what i can remember of you, the few times we have met... all you need is to realise this and project to others this confident you... i'm sure the woemn will be falling at your feet.
mr_fluffy
Bluelighter
*gone*
ps. i don't think i'll be back. no need to keep my seat.
ps. i don't think i'll be back. no need to keep my seat
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neverwas
Bluelighter
Fetish Jester said:
after not having a smoke/cigarette for three weeks now i feel so healthy and refreshed!
so do me the favour hun...blow the smoke the other way...im to comfy to bother moving... :Dsits quietly in the corner and watches the anitcs...
im still quite happy plodding along by myself...dante im sure things will work out for u in the end...
REMEMBER: all good things come to those who wait...
and in my case...wait and wait and wait and wait...
PsychoKitten
Bluelight Crew
wait? you've got to be kidding, dante honey you need to get up and fight for what you want.
People who say can't often find someone's already done it.
Dante I love you to pieces and we've had many convos about this - it's all in the way you shake it baby
Much love and you know where I'm coming from,
Kitty
People who say can't often find someone's already done it.
Dante I love you to pieces and we've had many convos about this - it's all in the way you shake it baby
Much love and you know where I'm coming from,
Kitty
Catch-22
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Egads, just read through the last four pages of this thread. lol
*waves bye to all the people who left*
*waves hello to all the people who came back*
Can't remember who was trying to pick up a girl out of his class, but 15 minutes is plenty of time to approach a girl and start a conversation. If it goes well, then you ask for her phone number and take it from there.
Advising a friend about their relationships? If I have actual (negative) facts that are unknown to my friend, I will definitely find a reasonable way to make sure they know. If things just don't seem right or my friend is unhappy, these days I just turn the conversation around so my friends can figure it out for themselves. If they complain about how bad issues XYZ are, I will just ask them what are their favorite things about their mate. If they can list 'em off, it usually balances things off and they appreciate what they have. If they can't list good qualities, they begin to realize things aren't right and make their own judgment calls.
Hmmmm....maybe a new question?
To the people who have been in failed relationships, can you think back and figure out the 2-3 core reasons why your relationships end? I mean the bottom line stuff like "I get clingy" or "I can't commit" or "I am insecure" or "I am selfish". There are always different facts and aspects of each relationship, but what are the core reasons?
*waves bye to all the people who left*
*waves hello to all the people who came back*
Can't remember who was trying to pick up a girl out of his class, but 15 minutes is plenty of time to approach a girl and start a conversation. If it goes well, then you ask for her phone number and take it from there.
Advising a friend about their relationships? If I have actual (negative) facts that are unknown to my friend, I will definitely find a reasonable way to make sure they know. If things just don't seem right or my friend is unhappy, these days I just turn the conversation around so my friends can figure it out for themselves. If they complain about how bad issues XYZ are, I will just ask them what are their favorite things about their mate. If they can list 'em off, it usually balances things off and they appreciate what they have. If they can't list good qualities, they begin to realize things aren't right and make their own judgment calls.
Hmmmm....maybe a new question?
To the people who have been in failed relationships, can you think back and figure out the 2-3 core reasons why your relationships end? I mean the bottom line stuff like "I get clingy" or "I can't commit" or "I am insecure" or "I am selfish". There are always different facts and aspects of each relationship, but what are the core reasons?
i hide my insecurities of acceptance on both a friendship and romantic sense in a constant stream of friendly confidence that borderlines on arrogance - with a dash of genuine humility every now and then so that im not an annoying prick.
neverwas
Bluelighter
core reasons? ![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
its not that i dont want to list them...but all my relationships have failed for different reasons...
the last one i was in was a difficult one to get over *sighs*... the core reason for that one ending was we grew apart...quickly...because of an aspect in his life...he didnt have time for a relationship right then...after 8months...so he ended it...i believe his words were "i dont have the time anymore"...we ended up spending more time driving round visiting friends than we did alone with each other... 8)
and i guess to me being able to have quality time with someone that u r involved with is a magor part of what i value in a relationship...and once he had no time, that was it...the end...he made the choice, not me.
im not scared of committment, yes i have in securities...but who doesnt...i just havent found the person i am wanting to be with. so core reasons i really cant define. im happy having the extra time to spend with my friends and do my own stuff.
but a damn good question
its not that i dont want to list them...but all my relationships have failed for different reasons...the last one i was in was a difficult one to get over *sighs*... the core reason for that one ending was we grew apart...quickly...because of an aspect in his life...he didnt have time for a relationship right then...after 8months...so he ended it...i believe his words were "i dont have the time anymore"...we ended up spending more time driving round visiting friends than we did alone with each other... 8)
and i guess to me being able to have quality time with someone that u r involved with is a magor part of what i value in a relationship...and once he had no time, that was it...the end...he made the choice, not me.
im not scared of committment, yes i have in securities...but who doesnt...i just havent found the person i am wanting to be with. so core reasons i really cant define. im happy having the extra time to spend with my friends and do my own stuff.
but a damn good question
onetwothreefour
Bluelight Crew
just in regards to my previous conundrum about the girl in my class: she didn't come to class for the last three weeks of the semester, so i didn't even get the opportunity to make a fool out of myself hopefully she'll be in one of my classes next semester...
hopefully she'll be in one of my classes next semester...
doofqueen
Bluelighter
why my relationships ended....
no1 (sons father) we were each others first loves and were together for 6 yrs...we basically gre up together ...i was with him from the ages og 14-20 and we grew apart and went on seperate paths...we are still good friends however and we will always share a very speacial bond...his girlfriend hates me for these reasons alone *sigh* to that i say "get the fuck over it...you knew he had a child and i would be around when u met him" *sticks middle finger up*
no 2 ( was with him for 2and a half yrs) basically i was only happy the 1st 4 mths and then he turned into a selfish , controlling, possesive, violent, jeolous arsehol who i refer to as'mr fuckwit'
i brokeup with him 13 times and was stupid enough to believe him when he said he would change and yada yada yada...i never thought i would ever be in this siuation but i was...he turned my head to mush, took my personality away and my friends and turned me into this shell of a person that just wanted to sit on the couch all day...never again will i let anyone control me so i dont reget it because it has turned me into a very stong person who won't take shit from anyone ever again
no 3...it was a casual fun 3 mth relationship that basically just ran out of fun becasue we just wanted to move on...we also are still mates and se each other from time to time
no 4 ...my first female relationship ...we dated for about a moth but at the time were both freaked out over the seriousness of the relationship and how weird it was and we both needed boys hehehee...we are still mates too :D
no 5...we dated for 2 and a half months and i thought he was the one...i had never felt so connected and passinate about anyone ever before and i thought the feeling was mutal, and it actually was from everything he said and did etc...basically in the endf it got to hard for him...we lived 2 hrs away from each other and he had stuff happening in his life and wanted to sort things out andnot drag me down with him *cough* cop out *cough* i know but its true none the less *sigh* we talk occasionally but i havent heard from him in a while
no1 (sons father) we were each others first loves and were together for 6 yrs...we basically gre up together ...i was with him from the ages og 14-20 and we grew apart and went on seperate paths...we are still good friends however and we will always share a very speacial bond...his girlfriend hates me for these reasons alone *sigh* to that i say "get the fuck over it...you knew he had a child and i would be around when u met him" *sticks middle finger up*
no 2 ( was with him for 2and a half yrs) basically i was only happy the 1st 4 mths and then he turned into a selfish , controlling, possesive, violent, jeolous arsehol who i refer to as'mr fuckwit'
i brokeup with him 13 times and was stupid enough to believe him when he said he would change and yada yada yada...i never thought i would ever be in this siuation but i was...he turned my head to mush, took my personality away and my friends and turned me into this shell of a person that just wanted to sit on the couch all day...never again will i let anyone control me so i dont reget it because it has turned me into a very stong person who won't take shit from anyone ever again no 3...it was a casual fun 3 mth relationship that basically just ran out of fun becasue we just wanted to move on...we also are still mates and se each other from time to time
no 4 ...my first female relationship ...we dated for about a moth but at the time were both freaked out over the seriousness of the relationship and how weird it was and we both needed boys hehehee...we are still mates too :D
no 5...we dated for 2 and a half months and i thought he was the one...i had never felt so connected and passinate about anyone ever before and i thought the feeling was mutal, and it actually was from everything he said and did etc...basically in the endf it got to hard for him...we lived 2 hrs away from each other and he had stuff happening in his life and wanted to sort things out andnot drag me down with him *cough* cop out *cough* i know but its true none the less *sigh* we talk occasionally but i havent heard from him in a while
rasberrywatergirl
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Well the only relationship that sorta counts is the longest one I had, which ended because he was too jealous, and i think his feelings for me were not as strong as mine were for him. It sounds stupid but I loved him *too* much, gave *too* much of myself, and so in the end was left with pieces of myself that I have had to fit back together again.
We wree just wrong for each other. I still love him, but I'm not in love with him
Hoorai!
We wree just wrong for each other. I still love him, but I'm not in love with him
Hoorai!
Cosmic Mist
Bluelighter
Not including the relationship i currently have, i have only had one relationship of any worth at all. It lasted for more than 1 1/2 years in total, and completely destroyed me when i realised that it was finally over. I took two years out of my life to get over it, and even now she still holds a very special place within me. The only real reason we split was because we lived too far apart. I was going to move closer to her and suprise her, but we split before i had the occassion to do so. It was good while it lasted though, so that is all that counts really.
The relationship that i am currently in is far more serious than anything i have ever had with a guy before though and it is kind of confronting. I have never felt so comfortable with a guy before... i wonder why that is? I htink he feels more strongly toward me than i do him, which saddens me somewhat...
Has this happened to anyone else out there, where your partner feels more strongly for you than you do them? Has this affected your relationship at all?
The relationship that i am currently in is far more serious than anything i have ever had with a guy before though and it is kind of confronting. I have never felt so comfortable with a guy before... i wonder why that is? I htink he feels more strongly toward me than i do him, which saddens me somewhat...
Has this happened to anyone else out there, where your partner feels more strongly for you than you do them? Has this affected your relationship at all?
star_beats
Bluelighter
Cosmic Mist said:
My first 'real' boyfriend seemed to care so much more for me than I could for him. For this reason I broke up with him. We continued being friends afterwards, and about 8 months ago I was out, and he caught a cab (1hr drive!!) to where i was to see me. He proceeded to offer himself to me if I ever felt I wanted or needd someone... weird.. esp when its over 3 years since we broke up!It really showed me that I did the right thing, because he really did feel more for me than I did for him.
In all of my other relationships I have been the one who has loved too much- and have learnt that it is the hardest poeition in the world to be in. All you want to do is give.. which in the end can be so much more draining than fulfilling if your getting nothing in return. I know that in circumstnces such as these it is better to be alone, rather than self destruct but unfortunately it is the hardest thing to see when one is in that position!
All relationships take strength
Being single takes strength
For some one is more gratifying that the other
Some haven't found what they're looking for yet.
Good luck and muchos hugz to all
funki
Bluelighter
I have a question that probably belongs in this thread
how do you know you love somebody....
and can it be somebody you dont know well ?
how do you know you love somebody....
and can it be somebody you dont know well ?
doofqueen
Bluelighter
Cosmic Mist said:
yes no 2 (mr fuckwit) he came home after only being together for 7 mths with my name tattooed across his heart...PYCHO! who the hell does that? he was completely obsessed with me and from that day on things just got worse because i freaked out even more thinking "omg i dont want to spend the rest of my life with this guy" 8(
It was just too much pressue but i didn't really like him anymore at this stage anyway