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Bluelight Singles - from begining to end! don't we love the merge feature!

oh... to be a singularity seeking to be a duality. It's so hard to find someone who wants to share as many valence electrons as you. Always more or less. *sighs*
stoopid acid.
It's been a few weeks in the land of singleness.. and before that.. 4 years. It was so hard to readjust to having someone important.. and you feel like you'll lose that if you're single for too long. I think thats what's making me feel like i'm hollowing out. Like someone has taken an end of my thread and pulled it. off into the darkness. I try not to feel like i'll be single for eternity.. I know I won't, but that still doesn't make it much better. It doesn't take away the feeling of some big chasm beneath your feet.
I am determined to stay as positive as I can until I pluck up the courage to pursue(not sure if it's the right word.. but it'll do.) the person who makes my soul sing. I know I know who it is.. and I know I want to. Why must it be so hard? *sighs*
Oh well. one day. but soon. before she finds someone who makes her soul sing... not me.
Or maybe she'll ask me before I ask her. I doubt it tho.
enough of this.
"Meep!" -me
 
-hugs Jules-
I could come out with a whole lot of really corny "You only live once" type lines, but I won't, because that'd be an insult to your intelligence.
Personally, I'm finding that being in singles land right now isn't as bad as I had first thought it might be, partly due to the fact that the ex in question is a wonderful++ person regardless, partly due to the fact that EVERYTHING else in my life has suddenly taken an incredible turn for the better, and a lot because I have wonderful friends and a wonderful Daddy. :)
Not that I have plans to stay single for any real extended period of time - there are too many things about being unsingle that I love - but I'm not about to curl up and die of lonliness or anything.
Special thanks to those of you who've listened to me rant about my boy problems over the last couple of weeks. -hugs-
 
Miss Apple: I'm single so please don't yell at me ;)
I do agree that one has to be happy single before they can be happy with another person, although sometimes I have moments of depression that I don't have a b/f - let's face it, being single at 20 was fine, being single at almost 26 is a little less socially acceptable (god only knows why).
Having said that, being single is better than being in an unhappy, unsatisfactory relationship and I have had that experience (as have most people I would imagine). It would be nice to have a lovely boy to do stuff with but I have faith that it will happen sooner or later (I have a crush on someone and its all good, hehe).
Also, sometimes the thought of being in a relationship, i.e. the fantasy, is better than the reality so I say enjoy this while it lasts cause sooner or later mate, you'll have some boy hanging around and you'll wish you had some time out. Grass is always greener, yada yada.
Also, why is is that whenever your single (and as naff as it is I loved Bridget Jones for this reason as it portrayed this really well), some bastard always asks you how your lovelife is? Should I ask married/attached people how their sex life is? Cause we all know that people who've been together for a while don't have sex ;)
End of rambling.
 
ICFML: S'ok buddy. I know where you're coming from. It gets better in time. ***BIG hugs***
*sunflower*: It drives me nuts as well when people ask me that great question, to which they probably already know the answer! "Non-existent"
From my experience, it's usually people who are in a relationship/shagging. Do they do that just to rub it in??? :)
Shit - I better do some work now...
Dan
 
I like been single(sometimes) but i also miss (or long for), someone whos there, you know.. Someone you would put b4 yourself, always.. cos you like them that much... Someone to go to when your feeling bad.. or when you need to know your loved. This is the good part of a relo that is working well. But its just gotta be someone you love been around.. And its gotta be someone that feels the same about you.. Otherwise that whole "comfort/loving" factor is replaced with jealousy and untrust. (cos you think they will leave you for someone better in their eyes).. Its a vicous circle.. There are many times (and moods) where I wish I could just "go over to my girlfriends and chill out" .. But alais.. Finding the right one seems harder and harder.
And on the flip side, sometimes having someone you have to "report to" sucks kinda hard... And it can be like having a third leg... it goes everywhere you go.. (even if it, or you, dont want it to). But that again is cancelled out, if its "the one" and you simply LOVE spending time with them..
Well. Its all a little to hard dont you think??
Jaded Chem Out.
 
Being single is ghey ghey ghey... maybe one day i will find happiness again? we will just have to wait and see... from now on, im gonna shut my self off, just to keep on the safe side.. i cant handle being hurt again..
 
Im just been a lot more "carefull" before "jumping in" .. Saves hurt on both sides, and im sick of relo's that are never going to work.. I want the next one to work... A least for a while anyway (obviously you can't be sure about anything, but you can tell if its worth a try)
"a while" is determined by the simple equation
2 * pi * x
X been the length of my last decent relo.. (wasn't long!)
Chem
 
Hey Dan, yeah never had a single person ask me about my love life, funny that!
As Bridget would call them, smug marrieds, which is what everyone on this thread will be one day ;)
Chin up folks!
 
hehe chin is up much higher than it was yesterday :)
yes...it always *is* people in couples who ask about our love lives. and give advice on how to either find a person or how to be happy without one.
hmmm...smug marrieds. I must use that term more often :)
 
"a while" is determined by the simple equation
2 * pi * x
X been the length of my last decent relo..
Hrm, let's see how good my maths is...
2 * 3.1415926535 (if my memory serves me correctlu) = 6.283185307
6.283185307 * 0 = 0
Crap...
Click to expand...
 
mmm was just trying to expalain what I was feeling about this whole thread now,
then I staring at my two love birds fighting in their cage...enough said!
um whats that song I totaly love now..."MEN ARE NOT NICE GUYS"
tisk tisk tisk! *runs off in search of a nice guy*
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60 + 9 = 69 = FUN!!!!!!
[ 28 February 2002: Message edited by: BUNKUM_BUNNY ]
 
Okay, As always I'm constantly changing my mind and throwing everyone off, including myself.
Well, I've started in the middle, but the long, short and middle of this is that I've met someone. She's been a friend for years, but not one of those good friends, just a every-now-and-then-meetup-and-coffee friend. Things have been kind of good between us, and thanks to the power of THE RAVE, true feelings have been revealed. All in all, my fingers are crossed as the next few days will be important in determining that all is as it should be.
Wish me luck.
And read that post I wrote about EvilCalvin! ;)
[ 28 February 2002: Message edited by: Fetish Jester ]
 
I always thought singleness was lonely fun and coupledom was happy entrapment.....
Slowly learning you can have just as much fun when you're in a relationship, you can be just as unhappy as when you're single and that there's nothing lonelier then when you feel alone while you're holding someones hand.
All it comes down to is doing what makes you happy at the time....
For me that means staying in a less then perfect (perhaps less then happy) relationship in the hope that tomorrow things will be better. Hope is sometimes such a vicious beast.
<side note> doncha just hate those late night posts where you reveal way too much....meh.
 
Sidenote:
Im absolutly sure im going to be single till im at least 50. Not by my choice either. So dam hard to find the right type of person.
[ 04 March 2002: Message edited by: ChEmIcaL_NiGhT ]
 
I've been single about 2 years now.
It gets kinda lonely sometimes...
But it'll end when it does...
 
Chem, shut the fuck up, you're bringing me down. You people whinge too much, if a dags like our parents can get hooked up I'm sure we'll be just fine.
 
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