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...And steer... You don't just hope, you steer too, you do have some control over the path your relationship takes...
...And hope that that sign you passed, which you were too distracted by the beauty driving next to you to see, was not a "No Entry" sign (one of those "Don't go there or I'll never talk to you again" signs, which for some strange reason looks like a dog humping a couch (or at least would look like that if you'd actually seen it))...
[ 21 August 2002: Message edited by: Tarsarlan ]
 
Hmm well after so much talk about not wanting a relationship and not risking all the emotional upheaval that comes with it when i have to move away, tonight I was presented with an extremely good argument that has persuaded me to take a risk.
I'm outta here boys and girls.... think i need to have my head read but i'm actually going to give this a chance.
*blows kisses @ all*
 
being in a relationship takes work, be it a friendship, a loved one, or even a colleague.
i dont understand how someone can just "grow out" of a relationship, without any signs or warning too. if that was the case, why embark on one to begin with? kinda defeats the purpose if something means so little that u would just grow out of it, no?
i think people would have more responsibilities towards their pets.
i am very perplexed that anyone can just grow out of a relationship.
 
Kitty, you're getting the same warning as dicey got.
Good luck & beware of my brick!
Tarsy man, you can't steer, you can only steer your half of the boat, its a boat (or car) with two steering wheels, and only when you're both of the same mind will it function and go in the right direction, the second there's a split of opinion, it all goes to shit.
Vurt I think there are always warning signs, or maybe I'm wrong, but I doubt it. Maybe though, maybe you just convince yourself that they're not there, because to admit it would hurt you beyond repair. I don't know.
-plaz out-
 
Originally posted by plazma:
Tarsy man, you can't steer, you can only steer your half of the boat, its a boat (or car) with two steering wheels, and only when you're both of the same mind will it function and go in the right direction, the second there's a split of opinion, it all goes to shit.
That's complete bullshit. I'm sorry, but it is.
The above is the equivelant of saying "I can try my best, but it's not my fault if things turn to shit, which they will probably do quickly and permanently".
This is a lack of maturity in handling relationships.
A relationship is not a matter of two individuals separately trying to battle along. It's not a fucking business partnership. It is about enjoying the person who feels like the part of you that's missing.
There are extremely few situations in a real relationship where you cannot steer it in the right direction.
And that last part... "the second there's a split of opinion, it all goes to shit" - that has actually made me laugh. How do you think that people can stay married 50 years and love each other more than ever? You think they never had any differences? A situation like you describe is what usually happens when two kids go out, and lack the maturity to talk things through.
You're making a blanket statement about a topic you obviously don't know enough about.
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Originally posted by vurtomatic:
being in a relationship takes work, be it a friendship, a loved one, or even a colleague.
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i am very perplexed that anyone can just grow out of a relationship.
people change, people grow. If two people aren't changing in the same way...or discover they aren't wanting the same things out of life, or out of the relationship...then you could say they've grown out of the relationship.
Sometimes people don't feel that they want the relationship enough to work at it. You have to really really want to be with someone to put yourself through the 'working out' of a relationship. For some people that's all just a bit too hard.
Sometimes people grow out of the relationship once you get past the honeymoon period. When all the lust and joy of a new relationship is over and you have to start deciding whether you want to make this partnership work. Then it all gets a bit hard. They haven't necessarily grown out of the relationship...just probably haven't grown up themselves yet.
I'm assuming this is the reason someone has given for you to break up vurt :( That sucks you're having to go through that :(
You know what...sometimes people don't know why they don't want to be with someone anymore. They just might not be happy. And when it's no one's fault, that's when you get the wishy washy excuses. When they feel like they have to give a reason when there's no reason for the way they're feeling.
Breaking up sucks :(
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Well Jake, that probably explains in part why I've never been able to keep a relationship functioning for more than 3 months. ;)
As for what Miss Apple said, I'm chronically guilty of that sort of shit, after the initial passionate crush has worn off, I don't think I've ever really felt 'love' to keep a relationship going, in the past I've just lied about my feelings because I got into the habit of the relationship. :\
Eh, life goes on.
-plaz out-
 
Originally posted by Donny Don't:

Were they an English backpacker?
Dude, were you following me around???
There is more then just English backpackers in Coogee?
I must of found the only one that wasn't.
She is a Canadian backpacker.
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For those that don't listen to "rock" music might be interested to read the following. It's a song that always makes me sad, but so spot on.
Skism by Tool
I know the pieces fit cuz I watched them fall away
Mildewed and smoldering. Fundamental differing.
Pure intention juxtaposed will set two lovers souls in motion
Disintegrating as it goes testing our communication
The light that fueled our fire then has burned a hole between us so
We cannot see to reach an end crippling our communication.
I know the pieces fit cuz I watched them tumble down
No fault, none to blame it doesn't mean I don't desire to
Point the finger, blame the other, watch the temple topple over.
To bring the pieces back together, rediscover communication
The poetry that comes from the squaring off between,
And the circling is worth it.
Finding beauty in the dissonance.
There was a time that the pieces fit, but I watched them fall away.
Mildewed and smoldering, strangled by our coveting
I've done the math enough to know the dangers of our second guessing
Doomed to crumble unless we grow, and strengthen our communication.
Cold silence has a tendency to atrophy any
Sense of compassion
Between supposed lovers/brothers
 
well i always say theres always room for a second chance.....
so on that note
*waves to all*
BAI BAI
*jumps into couplesland :) *
 
The brick is preparing to work overtime...
Seriously jesus what is everyone doing? You fuckers are dropping like flies. What the fuck is this, the age of aquarius or some such free love crap?
Man, you'd think being single was going out of fashion. ;)
Cheers!
-plaz out-
 
Plaz: Spring is in the air!
Always happens this time of year... the weather starts picking up, the sun starts shining, and new couples endlessly fuck each other's brains out on the beach. :D
 
I havent posted here in a while, seems like im an ever present force in this sad little thread.
Reason i havent really been posting, well, i honestly was REALLY hoping i wouldnt need to. Im REALLY keen on someone at the moment, yet im finding it so difficult to keep it in, its playing on my mind so bad, its been a while since ive thought about someone this much. Im so scared im going to keep falling and falling for him, then to find out he has just gotten a girlfriend, or isnt interested in me or something. Yet im letting myself fall in this case, because im so ready. Ive felt so alone lately, alone at home, on the road, needing and wanting that other presence beside me.
*sighs* How does one go about letting another know how u feel about them, what do u say? I dont want it to be awkward in class if he doesnt think the same as me... yet i want him to know. aaaaargh
 
Taliana: Talk to him, or more importantly, listen to him... Smile at him (but don't grin school-girlishly), sit near him (but don't jump straight into the seat next to him as soon as he sits down), pay attention to him (but don't follow him around and fawn over him)... Quite important would be physical contact... Light touches on the arms or shoulders or something like that, enough to show that you don't mind physical contact with him, but not enough to make him uncomfortable or give him the idea that you just wanna grope him... ;)
But well, don't think about it too much, you're more likely to embarrass yourself if you constantly think "What can I do to let him know I like him?"
Seriously tho, go for it, he's highly unlikely to turn you down if he is single, and even if he doesn't feel the same, he should be very flattered to know that someone as attractive as you likes him... :)
 
Word Taliana,
I know what you mean and I felt like that for a while, but I'm sure many others are not uncommon to this too.
The best way to address the loneliness is to just get yourself busy on other things: hobbies, parties, friends, work, whatever...as long as you're busy you dont feel it...to a degree.
As far as letting the other person know bout your feelings....Unfortunately if you give up the "what-if's" will torture your mind and the wait itself is god damn emotional rollercoaster. Going for it and getting burnt is more of a quick pain which goes away sooner.
You can also feel at ease having let the other party know bout your feelings. This is how it works for me at least...
I know that this stuff could be very hard though, and I was never good at it (i mean I got my asking out timings wrong too many times) but sadly that's how it works.
The fact that emotions dont follow logic and common sense makes it even more confusing.
You can always hope that he makes the move first or even rely on some 3rd party common between two of you if possible to probe the ground so to speak, but this stuff's less effective and in the mean time you torture your mind.
And really, you can't hope to win a lottery without risking your money...
Hope this helps,
NULL
 
Originally posted by Taliana:
How does one go about letting another know how u feel about them, what do u say?
Just ask him out one night chiki, for drinks or sumthin. I'm sure he'll get the idea and u won't need to say a thing - he might even make the first move!
and yeah Plaz...don't worry not everyone is running off to couples land, this little bee gets the feeling she'll be posting in the singles thread for a while yet. Nothing/No one at all seems to correspond with me lately on the relationship level, I mean I like someone they dont like me, Someone likes me I dont like them. Same old same old, maybe its the pheromones - but do I really care? nope I'm getting to quite like it here.
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Originally posted by Taliana:
I havent posted here in a while, seems like im an ever present force in this sad little thread.
Reason i havent really been posting, well, i honestly was REALLY hoping i wouldnt need to. Im REALLY keen on someone at the moment, yet im finding it so difficult to keep it in, its playing on my mind so bad, its been a while since ive thought about someone this much. Im so scared im going to keep falling and falling for him, then to find out he has just gotten a girlfriend, or isnt interested in me or something. Yet im letting myself fall in this case, because im so ready. Ive felt so alone lately, alone at home, on the road, needing and wanting that other presence beside me.
*sighs* How does one go about letting another know how u feel about them, what do u say? I dont want it to be awkward in class if he doesnt think the same as me... yet i want him to know. aaaaargh
I'll tell u what to say, just say what u feel. Trust me, if a girl did this with me i'd be SOOOOO flattered that i couldn't wipe the smile off my face, either way. U have nothing to lose by saying what u feel, but if u just keep ur mouth shut u'll never know. take a risk...
Cohaa
Originally posted by plazma:
The brick is preparing to work overtime...
Seriously jesus what is everyone doing? You fuckers are dropping like flies. What the fuck is this, the age of aquarius or some such free love crap?
Man, you'd think being single was going out of fashion. ;)
Cheers!
-plaz out-
Don't worry plaz, i'll be here for a LONG time... they don't come much more single than me...
Cohaa.
Originally posted by hoptis:
Nothing to whine or bitch about really but it's worth hearing anyway. ;)
I don't know where it'll go, if anywhere, personally I'm not fussed either way. She's 22, single, incredibly hot (or so my brain says) and has a really funky sense of humor. My pants are on but I feel like I've already scored. Woohoo! :)
This was me 2 weeks ago!!!!! I just felt fucking amazing for days... dancing around and shit, then i was rejected BIGTIME!!! trust me, don't jump the gun... not worth it!!! anyway, best of luck (and it is ALL luck, there is not much of anything else involved) and remember all those feelings of happiness are purely chemical recations)
Cohaa.
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[ 23 August 2002: Message edited by: Pleonastic ]
Sorry Pleo... my bad... :)
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