MynameisnotDeja said:
It seems you've already made up your mind.
I haven't, by any stretch.
MynameisnotDeja said:
Just don't sue him for child support or something if he doesn't want to have it in the first place, that would be really unfair. I say if you want to do it, do it 100% on your own. I don't think it's fair that women get an "opt out" choice and men are just stuck with whatever the women choose. Men should get to opt out too if they want, thats just my opinion.
Why would anyone assume I'd do that?

If I have an abortion, is he going to sit around for the rest of his life and feel grief about what might have been? Unlikely. I suffer through that one alone.
The thing that I didn't consider or realise until I actually had an abortion was that no one else has to make the decision. As the woman in the situation, you weigh up what everyone has to say, but ultimately
everyone else doesn't have to live with "their decision", because they don't have to make it. They give their point of view; hell, they threaten and guilt trip, but at the end of the day it's
always the woman's decision, and she's the one who has to live with that. The man can always say "Hey, I know you're sad, but you made the final decision." No one can make that decision on your behalf, so you're the one that has to bear it.
I know I'm not articulating that very well, but I hope the gist is apparent.
There's no "fair" or "right" solution when both parties differ on where they stand, and again, this is not about my decision to manipulate him or ruin his life.