i'm a writer, i type 85-90wpm, and i'm verbose... sorry for my lengthy posts, feel free to skip them if they're annoyingly long.
i'm sorry, but you're misinterpreting me entirely. i actually quite enjoy giving my boyfriend head -- i mean, i wouldn't call it a hobby, but i enjoy giving him pleasure and that's a tried-and-true method that i happen to think i'm pretty good at. i give him head on a pretty regular basis, and i never shoot myself in the foot, so you do the math. i have absolutely no qualms about giving head; however, certain things bother me about certain men. i don't think it's right for men to complain if a woman doesn't want to swallow; that's her choice, and after all, she did just give you head, which she didn't have to do either. it's not the nicest feeling in the world to work hard to give someone pleasure and then have them complain about it instead of appreciating the fact that you did it. maybe i'm just sexually polite, but when a guy goes down on me, no matter what happens up to and including me not getting anywhere near getting off, i am appreciative and don't complain, and i think it's perfectly within reason to expect your partner to show the same courtesy, especially when he got to have an orgasm. i mean, it's one thing to be asked beforehand if i'll swallow, or if it's brought up at a later time, but directly after i get someone off it's pretty inconsiderate of them to be annoyed that i didn't feel like having them shoot in my mouth that particular time. when my boyfriend asks me to swallow beforehand, i almost always do, and when i don't swallow, he's never once complained... he's sitting here reading this in disbelief that ANY man would complain about that detail after just getting a blowjob, some girls don't give them at all and he's got a girlfriend who does it whenever he wants (and then some) and he says it's something he'd never risk having me stop doing just because i don't always want to swallow. do you think it's somehow wrong for a woman to decide that she doesn't want to swallow? and i do hope i've corrected you on my feelings regarding giving head; i love my boyfriend very much and pleasuring him makes me happy, so i enjoy giving him head. that hardly sounds like someone who would prefer a shot in the foot... i just sometimes don't want a shot in the mouth, and respect other women who don't, and believe that men should be happy for the blowjob and let it go at that. some men make women feel like we've failed or done them wrong when we don't swallow, and that's unfair and completely wrong. we don't have to do anything sexual at all, but when we choose to give oral sex, i think it's ridiculous that some guys get pissy even though i just spent half an hour giving them the best blowjob i could. i've been with guys like that, and it sucks and it hurts your feelings when you really try hard to make it good and then find out he's unhappy because he didn't get to shoot in my mouth instead of on my tits. i really think that's just an awful way for men to behave.
yes, i have had lesbian encounters; i'm bisexual. getting a woman off is often no easy feat, but if i like the girl, i enjoy giving her pleasure just as i enjoy giving my boyfriend pleasure. i am equally willing to give either gender (well, certain members of either gender, anyway) head; i'm just exercising my right to bitch when a guy acts like i just completely erased that entire period of pleasure by having him come on me instead of down my throat. now don't get me wrong, i swallow, i just don't always swallow. if there's something in what i'm saying that still sounds like i don't give head, don't enjoy giving head, or am being unreasonable in expecting men to just flat out appreciate getting head at all, please let me know.
it does hurt sometimes. your jaw gets tired and your lips tend to snag on your teeth. you get crampy from whatever weird-ass position you've somehow ended up in to do it. and it is tiring, just as giving a woman head is tiring, albeit in a different way. however, my job makes me incredibly tired, it sometimes ends up with me getting hurt, and i often complain about things regarding it, but i love my job, and i love pleasuring my boyfriend. i love my boyfriend, for that matter, and he loves me, but that doesn't mean we don't complain to/about each other. i'm sorry you think that i feel a certain way about giving head, but i'm now clearing things up for you: i have NO problem giving head, i enjoy giving head sometimes, i swallow sometimes, i complain but that doesn't mean it bothers me to the point where i don't want to do it, and i don't think the way certain men treat the entire act is appropriate. honestly, i see nothing wrong with any of that.
as for my "essay", i again remind you that no one here is under any obligation to read anything i say or respond to it. you chose to do so of your own accord, so bitching about its length just sounds ridiculous. if it's so tediously long and annoying and all that, hey, it's so simple - don't read it! i've got a right to talk just as much as you do; no one made you read or respond to what i said, but you chose to do it anyway, so i'm sorry it was too long for you, but in the future if it's too long, just skip it, because i'm a verbose person and if someone can't be arsed to read a few extra paragraphs, hey, no skin off of my back.
if you read the conversation it was all very light-hearted and meant to be funny in the beginning; nothing got mean-spirited until i was basically told i must be a shitty lay. however, let me reiterate yet again that I DO LIKE TO GIVE HEAD, i'm sorry for the miscommunication, thank you for letting me know that i can just not give head if i don't want to in case i didn't get that memo about free will, but i think i'll continue giving head and enjoying it if it's all the same to you. i'm sorry that you can't seem to get a chuckle out of my posts and that you took them so seriously, and i'm truly not sure why you read my too-long post or why you took the time to bitch about its length while berating me about how i don't like giving head, but hopefully we've cleared things up now. i'm not here to make enemies; i admit i write lengthy comments, i do not demand nor expect anyone to read or respond to them unless they choose to, so let's just move on and in the future you can read my posts or not, reply to them or not, but just so we have this head issue settled.
mista_200, look up the term "frigid" in a medical dictionary; you're clearly completely confused as to what it means. frigid women do not have sex, they do not give head. also, i thought you should know, since clearly no one told you... women are not sperm receptacles. we are not here to meet your every sexual demand, that's what hookes are for. if you would actually dump a girlfriend over something as simple as her not swallowing, one has to wonder if you've ever had a relationship with emotional attachment or substance, or if you just want some chick to spend her days and nights sucking your cock, swallowing your load, and being a good little bitch. if it's the latter, do all womankind a favor and get a mail-order bride, because no self-respecting woman would be with a man who would actually end a relationship because she doesn't like eating sperm. i do swallow quite often, and i don't mind it at all because i'm in love with my boyfriend and love to please him, but contrary to your belief system, women aren't here to do a job that you can do with a tissue. if you consider not wanting to have a big ball of jizz in your mouth to be "frigid", you're in for a long line of disappointments, because frigidity has fuck-all to do with swalowing, and some of the most sexually adventurous and talented women just happen to not like eating semen, not to mention some of the prettiest, smartest, kindest, funniest women -- are they frigid and disposable because they're not your personal reproductive garbage disposal, or do you perhaps like a girl to maybe have other sexual talents and a personality?