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Bisexuals! hey you. i have a question...

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are there any bisexuals of child rearing age who are in same sex relationships?

do you have children?

are you planning on having children while in this relationship?


whats the score:D
 
My friend is bisexual and he has been with his partner for like 10 or so years. The bisexual one is 38 or 39 and the gay one is about 32. They haven't gotten married but they've been together for a while and own a house together (they bought it over 2 yrs ago) so obviously they are in a very serious relationship. They don't have kids and I don't think they plan to, but I think it is because they party too much and the one guy works a LOT.
 
i was just curious as i don't believe any bisexual man would logically stay with a man if he wanted children
 
I used to work with two guys who had wives and kids, and then cheated on their wives with each other. They later left their wives and lived together, which is when I knew them. They were pretty open about it. I don't know that I would date a bisexual, because I would think that "other side" would kick in at some point and they'd want to be with a man for a while or once or twice or whatever and I am all about monogamy.
 
I hear people say that often. I think people are more uncomfortable with an attraction they don't really understand or can compete with.

I have noticed that both straight and gay/lesbian people do this.

There are gay men and women in relationships that parent and care for their own children. Others adopt.

I identify as a bisexual person and I most certainly do not want to have children. I'm sure that will remain unchanged until the day that I die.
 
i think you're right

part of my problem with not trusting the long term intentions of bisexuals is that i am envious of having the option of choosing between the two sexes as i if i could i would pick women because i really want kids. therefore when i put myself in their shoes i always see them going for that option in the end because its what i would do.


i have had instances when drunk/coked up where for an evening i fancied women and found men unattractive so i have experience of liking both sexes but not of liking both sexes at the same time
 
Why do you not "trust" the longterm relationships of bisexuals? Bisexual people, including bisexual men are just as capable of being monogamous as anyone else of any gender/sexual orientation.

I was in a relationship with my ex and we are both bisexual men; but neither one of us wanted kids to the point of adopting or having a surrogate mother, and we did not live together. We could barely afford to take care of ourselves let alone a child or two.

I figure if in the future if I'm with a male partner and we both want kids, and we can afford them that we could just adopt or have a surrogate mother.
 
PriestTheyCalledHim said:
Why do you not "trust" the longterm relationships of bisexuals? Bisexual people, including bisexual men are just as capable of being monogamous as anyone else of any gender/sexual orientation.

I was in a relationship with my ex and we are both bisexual men; but neither one of us wanted kids to the point of adopting or having a surrogate mother, and we did not live together. We could barely afford to take care of ourselves let alone a child or two.

I figure if in the future if I'm with a male partner and we both want kids, and we can afford them that we could just adopt or have a surrogate mother.
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well its not specifically bisexuals its more ones who are not open about liking men that much. anyway its also because my sense of understanding other peoples actions is kind of from guessing what i would do if i was them, and i find it hard to deviate from that even if its not accurate.

surrogate mothers are expensive and i imagine that would create a tension if they both wanted kids and adopting for me is a bit of a no-no. if i'm gonna invest my money, it needs to be in my genes. plus i worked with a service user who was adopted and this individual made their life quite difficult. so adoption is a gamble and i'm not a fan of gambling
 
again if i want kids i imagine the other guy would want kids. how would that work out? one each in turns? what if one died- do you get another go or do you miss a go?

its confusing
 
That's why to be honest, I would advise you not to dwell on such things. You have considered them, but you're not going to get anywhere til you actually cross that bridge in the now. But THIS is your now - and it doesn't involve either - stop desiring what you don't have, and enjoy what you have for now, but have an ideal in your head, which it seems you do, which you know will somehow work out if you put in the effort at necessary junctures and take whatever opportunity you see that you believe will get you where you want to be!

How old are you? You must be about my age I swear - we have plenty of life to live, and we will live it, insha'allah.
 
Lysis said:
I used to work with two guys who had wives and kids, and then cheated on their wives with each other. They later left their wives and lived together, which is when I knew them. They were pretty open about it. I don't know that I would date a bisexual, because I would think that "other side" would kick in at some point and they'd want to be with a man for a while or once or twice or whatever and I am all about monogamy.
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The "other side" is the same thing as the "same side". Let's be truthful here-- just as many heterosexual people cheat as bisexual. Those men could have been homosexual, but felt obligated to get married and have kids until they met each ither.

I cheated at one time and have learned my lesson. Love should be able to conquer all feelings of doubt of a person that is bisexual. If there's someone that is together with a person who is bisexual and they feel like their relationship is being challenged by the second having attraction for both sexes, then you don't have to be with that person. End of story.

I am attracted to both sexes, but if I'm in love with you, there's not a chance on this green earth I'm going to cheat on you with either a male or a female.

cheerio said:
I hear people say that often. I think people are more uncomfortable with an attraction they don't really understand or can compete with.

I have noticed that both straight and gay/lesbian people do this.

There are gay men and women in relationships that parent and care for their own children. Others adopt.

I identify as a bisexual person and I most certainly do not want to have children. I'm sure that will remain unchanged until the day that I die.
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Aye, sir. I might change my mind if the person I love really wants children, but if it's with a man, you best be making enough to care for both of us!
 
Simply_Live said:
I am attracted to both sexes, but if I'm in love with you, there's not a chance on this green earth I'm going to cheat on you with either a male or a female.
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QFT! I don't understand why some people think a bisexual person would cheat any more than a straight person. Just because there are more people you could be attracted to doesn't mean cheating! It just means more people to choose from, really.
 
The "other side" is the same thing as the "same side". Let's be truthful here-- just as many heterosexual people cheat as bisexual. Those men could have been homosexual, but felt obligated to get married and have kids until they met each ither.
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No, I really wasn't going down the road of cheating. I was thinking more along the lines of him coming home some day and saying "I really want some dick this month." Too many "bisexuals" or whatevers on this forum where they are married and want to have a fling with a man have convinced me that I'm probably keeping my guard up for the right reasons.
 
Well, I'm a lesbian, and most of the girls I've dated were bi or...uh, straight. I feel bad for bisexuals because they're not fully embraced in the gay community or straight community. I genuinely think bisexuality and pansexuality are very real, but even I am a bit wary of dating a bi girl because I feel threatened by not being able to offer them the social comfort that comes with being in a heterosexual relationship. I also vowed never to date another straight girl again, haha. Anyway, I was talking to my ex who was bi recently, and I asked her if she would ever date a girl again, and she said no because she wanted to have her own children. But when I asked if she was still attracted to women, she said yes. And the girls I dated who were straight also say they wouldn't date another girl again, but then again, they were straight, and I was their exception (not tooting my own horn here, just repeating what they said to me, hehe).

Honestly, if I were bi, I'd probably want to be in a heterosexual relationship. But alas, I am not.
 
Lysis said:
No, I really wasn't going down the road of cheating. I was thinking more along the lines of him coming home some day and saying "I really want some dick this month." Too many "bisexuals" or whatevers on this forum where they are married and want to have a fling with a man have convinced me that I'm probably keeping my guard up for the right reasons.
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Sounds like you have some experience with this.
 
Lysis said:
No, I really wasn't going down the road of cheating. I was thinking more along the lines of him coming home some day and saying "I really want some dick this month." Too many "bisexuals" or whatevers on this forum where they are married and want to have a fling with a man have convinced me that I'm probably keeping my guard up for the right reasons.
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Well, that's them falling into sin. It can only be your decision who you feel you can trust. I understand your worry.
 
i am bi. i am also married. i am not going to do anything with anyone beyond what my husband and i have discussed.

there are plenty of straight people on here who cheat on their SO. it isn't just bisexuals who cheat :\
 
animal_cookie said:
i am bi. i am also married. i am not going to do anything with anyone beyond what my husband and i have discussed.

there are plenty of straight people on here who cheat on their SO. it isn't just bisexuals who cheat :\
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thats not the issue though. everyone of every gender has the capacity to cheat. the issue is- if you as a bisexual were in a relationship with another woman and wanted a baby would you leave and have one with a man or try to have one with the woman. my belief is that people will always go for the easier option...
 
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