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Misc Awake several times during the night!

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Dead Rose

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Hi!

Is my first time on bluelight. I hope someone can help me.

My wife have sleep problems. She turn to sleep easily, but she awakes very easily, several times a night. Sometimes, only my movement on bed awakes her.

She refuses to have any medication, only drink tea at night, but that's no solution. I tried everything to send her to the doctor. But the answer is always the same: "No, I don't want to take any medication".

She is tired, last week almost had a car accident and I'm worried. I need to give her some medication on tea, to help her getting a good sleep night without so many awakenings.

Any one have a solution to my problem?

Many thanks in advance.

Dead Rose
 
Hey Dead Rose.

Tea often contains caffeine which might be counter-productive for your wife.

It might be sleep apnea so perhaps a visit to the doctor isn't unwarranted.


I agree with your wife that pharmaceuticals won't help (at least in the long term). The only other effective recommendation I can make is exercise during the day which is proven to improve sleep quality.

Otherwise, mid-night wake ups are a bitch to figure out and treat properly. :(
 
Moredopamine said:
Tea often contains caffeine which might be counter-productive for your wife.

It might be sleep apnea so perhaps a visit to the doctor isn't unwarranted.
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She drinks camomile or some other relaxing tea, without caffeine.

I have sleep apnea and my wife's symptoms are quite different from mines.

In those nights, my wife's sleep is very superficial. That's the problem, I think.

Thanks for the suggestion, but I don't think I can persuade her to do some exercise.

I didn't mentioned in initial post, but only on stressed periods (during 7-15 days) the nights are problematic. This is not a daily problem.
 
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exercise is really one of your best options. if i don't get my energy out during the day in some form of physical activity, then i won't fall asleep or sleep as well during the night.

exercise is really important. it helps deal with depression, and a lot of other things too. if you can't persuade her to do some exercise then that's problem #1.

also make sure that she's not drinking anything with caffeine several hours before bed. caffeine has a half life of 5 hours, and on wikipedia it says that if a girl is taking oral contraceptives the half life can be much longer. some people are sensitive to caffeine, but this may or may not be the case in your situation.
 
Other recommendations are: 1) only a light meal in the evening 2) physical exercice no later than within 5 hours of going to bed.

Otherwise Valeriana officinalis tablets have some effect, as well as melatonin. Both are regarded more as herbal remedies than as drugs.
 
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ya that's also a good suggestion as well. i know some people who can't sleep if they eat too soon before bed because it gives them too much energy.
 
I'm not sure I read this right, due to the language barrier...

"She is tired, last week almost had a car accident and I'm worried. I need to give her some medication on tea, to help her getting a good sleep night without so many awakenings."

It sure sounds like you want to "slip" her something in her tea to help her sleep? You have absolutely NO right to do that. Your wife has made it very clear that she does NOT want to take anything, yet you think it would be okay to drug her without her consent? That is ethically, morally and LEGALLY wrong.

Sure, your wife will probably catch a few more Z's...right before she heads to divorce court in the morning.
 
happygoluckygal said:
I'm not sure I read this right, due to the language barrier...

"She is tired, last week almost had a car accident and I'm worried. I need to give her some medication on tea, to help her getting a good sleep night without so many awakenings."

It sure sounds like you want to "slip" her something in her tea to help her sleep? You have absolutely NO right to do that. Your wife has made it very clear that she does NOT want to take anything, yet you think it would be okay to drug her without her consent? That is ethically, morally and LEGALLY wrong.

Sure, your wife will probably catch a few more Z's...right before she heads to divorce court in the morning.
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First of all, I apologize for my English.

I think you don´t understand the problem. My wife have a sleeping problem. Last week she felt asleep driving a car. She refuses to have any medication. I don't want to put her to sleep, I just want to give her a "heavier" sleep.

For you, "this is ethically, morally and LEGALLY wrong". For me is just a way to keep her alive. I prefer a divorce than a funeral. I don't need moral sermons, I just need help. If you can help, I will thank you, if you can't, please keep your comments to yourself.

Thank you
 
Dead Rose said:
First of all, I apologize for my English.

I think you don´t understand the problem. My wife have a sleeping problem. Last week she felt asleep driving a car. She refuses to have any medication. I don't want to put her to sleep, I just want to give her a "heavier" sleep.

For you, "this is ethically, morally and LEGALLY wrong". For me is just a way to keep her alive. I prefer a divorce than a funeral. I don't need moral sermons, I just need help. If you can help, I will thank you, if you can't, please keep your comments to yourself.

Thank you
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Your best chance would be to talk to your/her doctor, not strangers on the internet. Don't get me wrong, this site contains a lot of information, but having people spew out names of drugs for you to medicate her isn't a good idea.

Talk to a doctor, get a prescription.

If she refuses to use anything, find an herbal supplement.

This could also be a simple stress problem.
 
Have her take a diphenhydramine or some other sedative antihistamine like Doxylamine succinate. Not "addictive" and should help her get to sleep, as would a couple mg's of melatonin, or an herbal sleep complex, or perhaps all in conjunction.
 
Maybe a warm bath before bed? Or is it possible that your home is too hot for her and she can't sleep well? In that case maybe a tee shirt soaked in cool water will keep her cooled off. Last thought is maybe your sleep apnea machine is too noisy for her so possibly sleeping in another bedroom on restless nights would be acceptable for both of you. Have you turned your mattress?
 
Dead Rose,
Your English is quite adequate and we all know that there are not going to be English speakers on Portuguese language message boards .

What is your relations with your wife's family ? I ask because I believe that you are right in that it is a medical problem and there may be a simple solution . Would she listen if her family insisted that she visit a Doctor ?

The hypnotic sleeping pills are a lousy solution and doping her would seem to be a bad, bad idea.

Wish you the best as it is apparent that you are at wit's end .
 
I suggest something herbal...valerian tea for example. Tastes pleasant enough & worth a try. Assure her she's not taking a 'drug' as such....its not a 'sleeping tablet'....

Also, as has been said, avoid anything with caffeine for a few hrs before bedtime. That includes drinks like coca-cola as well as tea/coffee don't forget.
 
Has she tried melatonin? It works really well for me and my husband. It's a herbal supplement, not really a drug so she might be open to it. Look for it. It should help. TRY IT!

Melatonin is a hormone and as we age we make less of it. It makes your body think its night time and when we naturally have little of it we wake up. If you take it your body will stay asleep longer cuz our bodies know its night time. It works for a lot of people. It really is surprising that such a little pill that you can buy at the store can be so effective. I really recommend it.
 
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This might sound silly, but what about ear plugs? I am a very light sleeper, and I have 2 Pugs that sleep in the bed whose snores would wake the dead. Ear Plugs have saved me! It took some time getting used to, but I couldn't have survived without them.
 
scoliosis11 said:
This might sound silly, but what about ear plugs? I am a very light sleeper, and I have 2 Pugs that sleep in the bed whose snores would wake the dead. Ear Plugs have saved me! It took some time getting used to, but I couldn't have survived without them.
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LOL everyone to their own though,
 
I understand your worry and concern, but the fact that you've even considered giving her something without her knowledge is wrong, especially when she's made it abundantly clear that she DOESN'T want to take a medication. The above posters are correct in that you need to discuss this with her, possibly her family, and definitely her doctor. There are plenty of options that don't involve slipping her a medication behind her back. Plus, you said she almost had an accident because she is so tired. If you DO decide to sneak something in her tea....she may be very sensitive to it, and actually end up MORE tired in the am as a result, possibly putting her and others on the road in MORE danger, especially b/c she wouldn't know about it. You say you don't want a funeral, etc etc...well, doing something like that just may put her in more danger than she was in to begin with.

While I understand that you are worried for her, please just think long and hard before doing something like that. Also, people online could recommend all kinds of different sleep aids for your wife, but we don't know HER, or her medical history, how she reacts to meds, etc etc.

If she is SO tired that she almost had a car accident, you need to try to insist that if she isn't going to try something, that she get to see her doctor asap. And, before you resort to medicating your wife, there are a million things to try. For example, have you tried sleeping in seperate rooms? Sounds like that may help, if you feel that YOU waking her with noise b/c she is a light sleeper is part of the issue.

There are plenty of options, and none of them should include putting a medication (even it it is herbal) without her knowledge or consent. Even though your intentions are good, it still is just NOT something you should do!!
 
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