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Asking a girl out via email - is this kinda lame?

pofacedhoe said:
it really is

when you add the net to something it just kills it a little inside. i think its the sound of the magic being lost

why cant you talk to her on a break, maybe say your going to the shop and ask her does she want anything while you are there then use that to break the ice. then next time you can sit with her, then ask her out
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I hate text messaging more than anything. People used to walk to each others houses, send letters, or leave notes.

I feel often time people do the lamest stuff through text or the internet. I had a woman break up with me in an email. Thats some bullshit. The follow up text a few days later "maybe I was wrong and I really do wanna be with you" was even worse. People do stuff like "you know that money you lent me, well Im not paying you back" or "youve just been robbed so you can stop waiting there".

Than there is cyber beef. People get serious with facebook threats and gossip. Some kids slit their wrists cuz of the stuff people post about them. Its ridiculous. Im glad I wasnt a kid in the age of facebook and myspace.

Also the thing about facebook was I learned some of my friends where functionally illiterate, fucking racist, fucking stupid, or have and overwhelming sense of self importance. I know one girl that posts all day long shit like "just woke up and at some cheerios!!!" and then later "I feel tired. I had some much fun with my friends today. time to sleep. check out my pics of me chilling with other people." and its like a daily thing. Its even worse that I keep people like that on my list just to make fun of them.

Last but not least there are people who make themselves completly unemployable or get themselves arrested thru facebook. Its not ok to say your going to beat someone up online and not expect them to maybe take you seriously and then get mad when they call the cops and post another threat. Some people post the most racist or just completly retarded stuff and dont even set it to private. Employers always check peoples facebook pages.

I have a facebook page and I never use it. I just have it so you can look at it and think that I dont have anything stupid posted.


I swear to god I hate text messages. People always ask favors or some bullshit they normally wouldnt just say. Its bollocks. It enables cowardly behaviour in a long story short. I think people do so much stuff thru social media that they just wouldnt do if they had to say that to peoples face. For example if someone posts something blatently racist Im willing to bet 90 percent of these people wouldnt go into the local pub and say that shit so everyone could hear.

Also people talk trash about people in the nastiest way and I wonder if they would say it to someones face where they would be close enough for that person to smack them upside the head. So I really dont like to post anything online. I have discovered most my friends are dumber than I thought they were.

Another thing I hate are people I barely know trying to add me on facebook. If they have to explain how they know me what makes them my "buddy".
 
dopemaster said:
I hate text messaging more than anything. People used to walk to each others houses, send letters, or leave notes.

I feel often time people do the lamest stuff through text or the internet. I had a woman break up with me in an email. Thats some bullshit. The follow up text a few days later "maybe I was wrong and I really do wanna be with you" was even worse. People do stuff like "you know that money you lent me, well Im not paying you back" or "youve just been robbed so you can stop waiting there".

Than there is cyber beef. People get serious with facebook threats and gossip. Some kids slit their wrists cuz of the stuff people post about them. Its ridiculous. Im glad I wasnt a kid in the age of facebook and myspace.

Also the thing about facebook was I learned some of my friends where functionally illiterate, fucking racist, fucking stupid, or have and overwhelming sense of self importance. I know one girl that posts all day long shit like "just woke up and at some cheerios!!!" and then later "I feel tired. I had some much fun with my friends today. time to sleep. check out my pics of me chilling with other people." and its like a daily thing. Its even worse that I keep people like that on my list just to make fun of them.

Last but not least there are people who make themselves completly unemployable or get themselves arrested thru facebook. Its not ok to say your going to beat someone up online and not expect them to maybe take you seriously and then get mad when they call the cops and post another threat. Some people post the most racist or just completly retarded stuff and dont even set it to private. Employers always check peoples facebook pages.

I have a facebook page and I never use it. I just have it so you can look at it and think that I dont have anything stupid posted.


I swear to god I hate text messages. People always ask favors or some bullshit they normally wouldnt just say. Its bollocks. It enables cowardly behaviour in a long story short. I think people do so much stuff thru social media that they just wouldnt do if they had to say that to peoples face. For example if someone posts something blatently racist Im willing to bet 90 percent of these people wouldnt go into the local pub and say that shit so everyone could hear.

Also people talk trash about people in the nastiest way and I wonder if they would say it to someones face where they would be close enough for that person to smack them upside the head. So I really dont like to post anything online. I have discovered most my friends are dumber than I thought they were.

Another thing I hate are people I barely know trying to add me on facebook. If they have to explain how they know me what makes them my "buddy".
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i agree with all of this. except my narcissism/voyeurism makes me love facebook. always set it to private. its social pokemon
 
iheartthisthread said:
The internet is killing human interaction.
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And yet you're on an online forum......

OP: I do think there are better ways to ask a girl out, but if email is the most practical way, just do it. Don't make excuses. Besides, it's not like you're asking her to be your official girlfriend or asking her to marry you or something. Those are definitely better in person :p. It's just a date.
 
I still stand by my point that a cute, sweet, thought-out e-mail is much nicer than a simple 'wanna grab coffee some time?'
Anyone can ask that question. Takes something more to actually put real thought and care into it.
 
I think a man can be to sweet. If you act overinterested and extremely nice you risk becoming a future doormat IMO. It does depend on the woman. Im used to people that are pretty fucked up. I live in a world of poverty and scum. I think the whole thing is over thought. OP should either ask her about her lunch plans and ask her if shed like to join him, ask her out to a movie or dinner, or do the email thing he had planned. Just make a move and do it smooth. If she likes him she will let him know it. Chances are she has probly given him body language or verbal cues he has not picked up on. I wouldnt resort to email unless I thought either she would dig it or that was just the only way. But thats just me.
If I like a woman, I talk to her. I usually dont even delay towards asking for a date if I notice chemistry or shes giving me the green light. I go for it.
 
I spoke to my mum about the OPs idea. She said it would creep her the fuck out. She said that even if she had liked a guy and he asked her out thru an email she wouldnt want anything to do with him.
 
changes are very slim if you ask in email. Just ask her face to face, you will feel better for it. Who cares if she says no? People ask other people out all the time and heaps of people get rejected, it's no big deal. The weird thing is liking someone, then playing games and not asking her out. That's when it becomes weird and awkward. You're not awkward if you ask her and get rejected. ok it is VERY awkward asking, but in a different way. everyone feels nervous or awkward doing it. whatever you do, don't tell her you like her. ASK her out instead and she will get the message, trust me.. even if she says no, it's ONE girl's opinion , so it doesnt't matter, she might even think more of you because you had all that confidence to ask.

Trust me, you think the hard part is asking, but it's up to the girl to reply and do the rest of the work to let you know what's up. So in a way, even though we have to open and ask them every single time, they have to respond which is looks a lot harder to be honest.
 
Asking her out through email is lame, imo. Maybe you could ask the people in your department at work or whatever out to dinner or something after work. Then you get to know her a little better and sense how she acts towards you versus everyone else, especially other guys. If all goes well, get her alone for a second then ask her for a one-on-one date.
 
I emailed and asked her to come to the pub after work with me and some friends and she agreed. Got talking to her and she had a boyfriend. Oh well.

Got a few dates lined up anyway now.
 
I don't think this is pathetic at all. If its a girl you never see socially and want a date. I have asked out girls on Facebook because I didn't have their number and would never see them otherwise. It has worked fine for me, don't email if you work with her tho
 
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