Asked girl out, rejected, then she contacts me?

[T. Calderone]

I just read your other post, nooneanymore. That sucks your gf obviously had one waiting in the wings, seeing him simultaneously. My last bf pulled some shit on me and damn I was devastated. The details are just too gross I think I told Pagey but still have post traumatic stress for real. I should have seen it coming but either way I'm still reeling. Some people don't play fair and seem to get off on games. Sorry man.

 

[nooneanymore]

I just read your other post, nooneanymore. That sucks your gf obviously had one waiting in the wings, seeing him simultaneously. My last bf pulled some shit on me and damn I was devastated. The details are just too gross I think I told Pagey but still have post traumatic stress for real. I should have seen it coming but either way I'm still reeling. Some people don't play fair and seem to get off on games. Sorry man.

Like they say, it happens to everyone...

and youth passes too...

All you can do is move forward and try to make the most of what you can/have and what's available...

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For a long time I was mad/angry. It was like a game and I gambled... I was young and thought I could handle everything...

I lost, I got hurt worse than I thought I could...

Today, I just try to keep things simple and in realistic terms...

In some Blink 182 song, they have a line they repeat in a chorus, "I guess this is growing up..."

 

[zzz101]

It's great to take advice from nooneanymore and T.calderone. You both seem mature and have so much experience. This is all new for me. I'm glad i did this though, i know 95% of dudes my age wouldn't have the balls to ask this type of girl out.

From advice i've received;
I think i might try again with her. In a way she sounds like she wants me to make another move on her. especially now that she knows -i know- she is dating someone.


no idea how to go about this though, i know calling is best, but in this situation i might just text.

 

[nooneanymore]

i might just text.

Exactly, there's not much to lose... Goodnight.

 

[T. Calderone]

You will be second guessing until you try that's true. I just feel a sincere response is easier to gauge in person.
Which ever way you decide to approach her, be yourself and hope for the best.

 

[lcrlover]

I know because it seems she is sending a mixed message. As if saying "I'm dating someone, but here's my number- wink-wink"
If some guy asked me out that I was not interested in, I would not hand him my phone number which is essentially what she's done.
I'm pretty transparent though and never understood why people play games in general

Prolly mostly playing games as a distraction,
btw I like your avatar, judge judy reminds me
of my grandma, she passed last year

My last relationship lasted 10 years, with a woman in her 60's, (20 years older)
she was a great lady, had no fear of work & knew what she wanted & not afraid
to get it either. Nice thing about an older woman is they tend to be more appreciative
of a nice guy. They also tend to know more of what they want & are not as shy about
expressing their needs. Go Cougars

 

[pofacedhoe]

Nice job getting your answer. In the long run it is always better to know(even if it's negative) than to not know and have to wonder. Thinking about what could have possibly been is not fun.

trudat

I know because it seems she is sending a mixed message. As if saying "I'm dating someone, but here's my number- wink-wink"
If some guy asked me out that I was not interested in, I would not hand him my phone number which is essentially what she's done.
I'm pretty transparent though and never understood why people play games in general

bascially she might be hinting- be my bit on the side...

whether that will happen or not- who knows.

definately playing games but some people toy with you for the ego boost. maybe she wants you to chase her