Ask an Escort- by XtcgrlATL

[xtcgrlatl]

Have you ever had a regular relationship where money wasn't involved? Something steady, because you were in love or does this lifestyle numb you from those kind of feelings?

Yes I have, and I dont think this "lifestyle" numbs you to those feelings. My perception on this is that it's really just a job.

 

[inotocracy]

But when your job is essentially a chunk of relationship intimacy you don't find it conflicts or takes away from a meaningful relationship?

One last question: have you had any relationships during your job's lifespan?

ps great thread by the way, its pretty cool of you that you're being so open about all this.

 

[Mariposa]

Just a friendly reminder from the SLR team that discussion of pricing for sexual acts, which are illegal in the OP's place of business, is not consistent with board-wide guidelines. We have had to make a few edits to this thread. If this happens again, we will need to issue warnings.

Otherwise, this thread is going very well, I agree -- Bluelight's a great place to find tolerant, open-minded people who are able to discuss mature subject matter in ways that benefit everyone who participates.

 

[0000alphabet0000]

I was shocked to find out that most of your time is spent giving bjs. For some reason I find that much more acceptable. Before finding that out, I could not understand how you weren't sore and in pain most days.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

But when your job is essentially a chunk of relationship intimacy you don't find it conflicts or takes away from a meaningful relationship?

Not really anymore so then working at a resteraunt takes away from eating a nice dinner

One last question: have you had any relationships during your job's lifespan?

I've had a few times where I considered pursuing a relationship with a couple guys and we did the datey thing for a few weeks maybe up to a month and then for whatever reason I decided that it wasnt for me.

In one case the guy was only like 20 and a little bit immature, He was cute and we had fun and a nice open friendship but when I took a step back and assessed it honestly I couldn't see any long term potential there, and he would never be able to get over what I had been doing for a living and I'd rather not have to keep my past quiet.

In another case I came to terms with the fact that the guy i was kinda hooking up with and had a crush on was a little crazy and decided not to pursue that one. In hindsight i have no idea what I saw in that guy because he wasnt really cute and not nearly as intelligent as I am. I think that one had more to do with the fact that the first few times we hung out the drugs got things started and then the hormones took over my brain.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

I was shocked to find out that most of your time is spent giving bjs. For some reason I find that much more acceptable. Before finding that out, I could not understand how you weren't sore and in pain most days.

If my job consisted primarily of intercourse i'm sure I would be, haha

I've had some days that left me some days sorer then others but I can often get away with not having to go further then a BJ and when I do actually have to do intercourse it usually doesn't last long enough to leave me sore. Like if I see say, 4 guys in a day then I'll probably spend less then 30 minutes of it having actual sex even if they all want to move in that direction.

I mean seriously, most of these guys aren't lasting 10 minutes. Sometimes a guy will put it in me and blow in under 2 minutes.

My escort roomie was reading over my shoulder and laughed about how on some occasions she's had guys blow just while TRYING to stick it in her.

I can't recall having quite that much luck But I've certainly had guys go off within seconds of getting it in.

 

[IlostaMadge]

I have really enjoyed reading this thread, your writing is eloquent and your answers to the more derogative remarks was far more than I would have shown.
I have a lot of respect for you, more for the content of your posts than your job (I don't really view it any differently than any other profession, apart from maybe plumbers, they are scum).

With regards to the various more offensive postings here, I find it perfectly hilarious that it is socially acceptable to go consume loads of alcohol to promote inhibition loss and get laid, whereas it is frowned upon to discreetly use a professional service.

It's like drink driving your way to a garage rather than pay the AA.

Few questions...

Is there a psychological side to what you do? Do you present yourself differently to different clients?

Do you find your clients treat you in a certain way? Or do the different demographics and ages have different views?

How personal and open about your life do you get during conversation?

I am guessing image maintanence is fairly important, do you have a diet/exercise routine, or do you find it unnecessary?

I am going to be small minded and draw similarities between street prostitution (the infamous multitude of father fearing girls mentioned before) and drug dealing as they revolve around the same circles and areas of the law.
I often find drug dealers define themselves via what they do, is that true of the lower ranked prostitutes aswell?

Do you ever find your life revolves around your profession too much? From what I can gather from your posts you seem to organise your work and it's boundaries upon your social life far more efficiently than the majority of people that I know.

Do you ever find friends/acquaintances are fascinated by your job, and tend to see you in a glamorous way?

Personally, sex is an emotional thing, I don't want to go to a bar to spend hours making meaningless small talk to someone I don't connect with, just to fuck for a while to get a dopamine rush. Sex during a relationship or with someone you care about is a really bonding experience though :D.

I don't really see people who continuously chase casual drunken sex as that different from cocaine users (as in the use of the item for the high, and the repetitive behaviour that ensues, rather than crime) and therefore don't really have a problem with it per se, it does really piss me off when I see people who do it as part of an image though.

 

[I am shpongled]

EDIT

I wrote, How Much,
And then I saw the bold blue writing above this post.

My aplogisies, I thought I was being original,
I Am Shpongled

PS Please dont worn me

 

[0101010101]

Reply to: "Ask An Escort" in SLR

http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/showthread.php?t=384768

What is the youngest client you have been with? Is it common for guys your age or a little bit younger (say between 19 - 24) to seek out escorts?

In other words: If someone around in that age bracket contacted an escort, would they be denied service?

Thanks for being so open. It takes a lot of guts to do what you're doing, I mean, being so public about it. More power to you.

 

[Mariposa]

EDIT

I wrote, How Much,
And then I saw the bold blue writing above this post.

My aplogisies, I thought I was being original,
I Am Shpongled

PS Please dont worn me

Thanks for acknowledging this -- no harm done, and you won't be warned.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

Is there a psychological side to what you do? Do you present yourself differently to different clients?

Maybe to a small degree but I think mostly in my case everyone meets the same happy go lucky girl next door type. How far they chose to pursue conversation with me varies. Some guys chitchat it up with me and we build a very friendly connection either before, during, or after a session. Some guys come in and are super quiet and seem nervous. I try and draw them out their shell but my success varies.

I think that my genuine personality and overall approachability has pretty wide appeal so I just try and stay true to that.

Do you find your clients treat you in a certain way? Or do the different demographics and ages have different views?

It'd be hard to boil it down to a generalization. Most of my clients treat me respectfully, seem enthusiastic about the session and really seem to want me to have a good time to, though their efforts at providing it are rather hit or miss I really cater pretty much to the 35-45 white professional. Dress shirt and slacks, that kind of thing.

There are some standouts. Like the guys that have a Jeckyll/Hyde thing going on depending on their horny status. Not necessarily in a bad way like they try and beat me up or anything, but they're so soft spoken and friendly on the phone and in person, and then as soon as you get them hard they're all dirty talking and demanding, and then as soon as they get off they're back to being soft spoken again. But for the most part everyone seems content to let me lead the dance.

How personal and open about your life do you get during conversation?

Depends on how much I like any given person and at what point in the session we're at. If I am having a really good time with someone, and especially if I get off, then I sometimes find myself saying things that I wish I hadn't, such as places I like to go to, I'll talk about people I know that they might wind up knowing if we have some similar interests, I've talked about where I work out, that kind of thing.

So far this hasn't bitten me in the ass but one day it might so I really try to curb it.

The most worrisome thing so far was I mentioned a family member of mine that is relatively well known in some niches to a client, that information later found it's way to another escort I didn't personally know, and then came back to me when a different (mutual) client asked about it.

So that was kind of the slap in the mouth that made me realize that my room isn't cut off from the rest of the world and has me really trying to curb how open I am with my clients, even if they're really nice. I doubt that any of the clients I've made that mistake with would do anything with the information to actually hurt my personal life but all the same, better safe then sorry.

I am guessing image maintanence is fairly important, do you have a diet/exercise routine, or do you find it unnecessary?

I don't really diet, I kind of more or less eat what I want but I've mostly broken the habit of "eat everything on your plate" or "eat till you feel full" so I control my portions pretty well. I also work out frequently. I also try and take good care of my hair as it's one feature of mine clients really seem to love, I need to be adding to my skin care regime as preventative maintenance for aging but you are correct that taking care of yourself is important.

Your personality matters but it's your look that gets them to pick up the phone in the first place.

I am going to be small minded and draw similarities between street prostitution (the infamous multitude of father fearing girls mentioned before) and drug dealing as they revolve around the same circles and areas of the law.
I often find drug dealers define themselves via what they do, is that true of the lower ranked prostitutes aswell?

I wouldn't really know but it wouldn't shock me in the least. They're not really the type to be posting their experiences on the providers boards

Do you ever find your life revolves around your profession too much? From what I can gather from your posts you seem to organise your work and it's boundaries upon your social life far more efficiently than the majority of people that I know.

It only revolves around it as much as I let it. Since I have the option of answering or not answering the phone on a whim it's pretty easy to control my schedule, when ya get down to it I can get by comfortably on averaging 3 guys a week. These days If I wanted I could probably only work on Monday every week and scooch by just fine.

Do you ever find friends/acquaintances are fascinated by your job, and tend to see you in a glamorous way?

The two non-escort friends I have told about my job think that it sounds awesome. I don't know if they really glamorize it, probably not, but they definitely envy the potential income and more so then that, just the freedom it allows. Other then those two and my roomie I am very secretive about what I do for a living. I'm not really ashamed of it, but I recognize that depending on who you're talking to or who's talking about you, it can carry social stigma that might negatively impact me in the future in ways I can't predict.

 

[Avporx]

if you were to have a male friend (and i mean just friend, no chance of further relationship) and he found out about what you do and gave you a call about it, would you have sex with him? if thats not clear enough, what i mean is, if he found out you were an "escort" and wanted to "hire" you, would you let him, or would it be too weird for you?

 

[0000alphabet0000]

So when the question "what do you do for a living?" comes up in conversation, how do you respond? What do your family members think you do all day? Do you "pretend" like you're at work if a personal acquaintance calls you?

 

[0000alphabet0000]

So what do you think about the women of the men who come to you who are in long term relationships? Do you think if the women put on some lingerie, acted bubbly and lovey, and gave an enthusiastic bj that the men would stop seeing you?

 

[xtcgrlatl]

if you were to have a male friend (and i mean just friend, no chance of further relationship) and he found out about what you do and gave you a call about it, would you have sex with him? if thats not clear enough, what i mean is, if he found out you were an "escort" and wanted to "hire" you, would you let him, or would it be too weird for you?

Honestly I think that it would probably be weird for both of us after all was said and done. I have two kinds of male friends, the kind I could probably happily have sex with for free and it probably wouldnt be terribly weird, at least for me.

And the kind I couldn't have sex with at all, even in the context of business just because i know them

 

[xtcgrlatl]

So when the question "what do you do for a living?" comes up in conversation, how do you respond?

Depends on who's asking. Most of my inner circle think I have a business that would allow for similar freedom of time. People that are introduced to me via my inner circle probably get the same story. And it's not entirely untrue, I do occasionally do gigs for that business, it's just not my main source of income.

What do your family members think you do all day? Do you "pretend" like you're at work if a personal acquaintance calls you?

Now family, those are the people that I hide stuff from I dont know how, say, my mom would take it. So she thinks I am still working the same desk job I was working last year.Luckily my family doesnt tend to call me out of the blue, except for my little brother but he mostly texts me and gets the same story as my inner circle because we're close.

 

[xtcgrlatl]

So what do you think about the women of the men who come to you who are in long term relationships? Do you think if the women put on some lingerie, acted bubbly and lovey, and gave an enthusiastic bj that the men would stop seeing you?

Maybe in some cases, though maybe not so much in others. I generally don't put much thought towards the guys wives. Sometimes the guy will mention his wife as specifically not ever having sex with him, sometimes the guy doesnt really mention his wife and i just see the ring.

I'd imagine that by the time a lot of these guys have decided to see me that the damage is pretty well done and a sudden reversal in the wifes behavior might have no real effect because hubby will have decided he wants something more exciting. Though if there was a lasting change and wifey continually sought out new activities, then who knows?

 

[IlostaMadge]

Are you at all surprised at the reception you have received on here?
Or is this generally how you find people react to your profession?

 

[xtcgrlatl]

Are you at all surprised at the reception you have received on here?

Not really, I've been reading bluelight for at least a good year or so and I know that all kinds of people post here. I didn't really expect to be particularly heavily judged for doing what I do. My only real shock was on an older thread when people accused me of being to smart to be an escort and thus must be lying. It would have been flattering were they not trying to be so offensive about it

Or is this generally how you find people react to your profession?

well I don't tell anyone who I'm not exceptionally close to so the couple times I have told people the reaction was about what I expected. As far as telling people on the internet goes I'm usually not to shocked, Mostly everyone has questions, just like I did the first time I talked to an escort online but wasn't actually in the business myself.

It's an interesting business that everyone is aware exists but no one really knows what it's all about except the people that do it.

 

[TheLoveBandit]

http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/showthread.php?t=384768

What is the youngest client you have been with? Is it common for guys your age or a little bit younger (say between 19 - 24) to seek out escorts?

In other words: If someone around in that age bracket contacted an escort, would they be denied service?

Thanks for being so open. It takes a lot of guts to do what you're doing, I mean, being so public about it. More power to you.

Quoted, as merging from ANON didn't put it at the end of the thread.