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Are your parents racist, and how do you deal with them?

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Sometimes it takes a person time to realize that their assumptions and personal biases are not correct. In the end we are all human and more alike than different.
 
My mom isn't racist.
But my dad is against, mexicans,jews,blacks, and arabs.
I deal with it by telling him to fuck off and then do wtf I want.
 
while my parents werent outwardly racist while i was growing up they made it very clear that dating outside my race was not allowed in my family.

thats acctually the norm down here. you simply dont date outside your race. i sometimes have resentments towards it but its whatever. i have this inner torment of why i think less of a female when i find out she has been with a black dude....and to be quite honest i cant think of one guy i know that will admit he has no problem getting involved with a female he knows has been with a black guy.

females will also hardly ever admit to a white guy they are trying to get involed with that they have dated a black guy.

but i dont hold any ill will towards anyone, wether it be my parents or not, who have racist tendencies.
 
my parents aren't directly racist but slightly maybe. they grew up in chicago [68 race riots] and their parents were very racist. i remember my mom telling me stories about the riots, she would say her dad would take her on the roof to look over the city when the blacks were burning down there houses. he would say i hope those ni**ers burn themselves straight to hell. my other grandma would make extremely negative comments about ALL races, she didn't even like to be in a hospital where blacks were working. it was pointless to say anything to her comments as she was set in her ways. i do remember having some friends parents who would not allow basketball on tv because they didnt want to have, 'monkeys pretending they are swinging from tree branches' on their tv.
 
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my grandpa is sort of racist. its weird cuz hes a very happy friendly guy, to people of all races, but its like he thinks that its just a fact that black people arent as smart or capable as other races. from what ive seen he treats it almost like normal people would treat handicapped people. Its very odd because i know for sure he has no problem with them, and he loves some of my black friends, but he just thinks that most blacks are slow or whatever.

An example is when i saw him over easter, he was telling my parents about how a local gas station was selling gas for 2 dollars cheaper than everywhere else for a day as a promotion by a church of something. My uncle says "wow it mustve been really crowded did you have to wait in line for a long time??"

and my grandpa goes "no actually it was pretty fast, the lines were really long but the whole thing was run really well even though they were all black."
 
My parents never said anything racial out in public, or even in the house growing up but I know one thing, that is they would never agree to any of us kids marrying a black person. Do I consider this racial? No I dont, but thats just me. My father when he came to this country had a really good friend that was black & they were friends until the day his friend died, he was an older man. I went to a mostly all black high school & I even had some black women that wanted to date me but i didnt.

Had lots of friends in middle school, highs chool & in college that were black & my room mate first 2 years in college was black, coolest dude ever.

Getting back to your parents, just talk to them & tell them thats inappropriate to talk like this.
 
Yeah my mum is a bit. Usually she sends on text message jokes about Aborigines or Muslims.

Sometimes I remind her that her only granddaughter is half Thai and half Australian. Sometimes I dont bother.
 
My parents aren't really racist, but they are certainly old fashioned. I think my dad knows pretty well where I stand so he doesn't make alot of racist jokes around me, but he will around his friends. I also don't think it would be a big deal if I brought home a black girl, even if they didn't approve they probably wouldn't tell me.
 
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Certain relatives of mine are racist or at least prejudiced and I don't lecture them since they get that from their spouse or other relatives and these people are older so they're not going to change.
 
dangerous..

Anytime someone believes they are better than others based on a generalization it is dangerous and offensive.. if you think you are above me or anyone else because you are white, catholic, educated, rich it puts you in a position to treat me less than I deserve. This is what helps people justify harmful behaviour as pride in ones own race, devotion to god whatever bullshit makes them feel better.. its not your job to educate ignorant people, especially your parents.. all you cando is seperate yourself from them by letting anyone they may offend that you care about know you don't feel the same..
 
I grew up with a family that was racist to the point of going to clan rallys. I was extremely racist up to my early twentys when my experiences with other races led me to start questioning my beliefs. I changed my beliefs and I eventually married a black woman. I don't speak to most of my family because of this. My mother has never met my son or wife. I lost my inheritance of a 50 pus acre family farm
I feel like they are the real losers. They are missing my son who is a beautiful and unbelievablely intelligent and advanced one year old.
 
I have had a piece of shit aunt who's got a son married to a Filipino woman and a daughter married to a Peruvian call my son a little ni**er. It took every ounce of will power. Not to snap her neck. I am on Probation and she's was trying to provoke me but knowing I have ten years to back up away from my wife and son keeps me pretty subdued even when I have to eat shit from assholes
 
^ugh sorry to hear that man. That's terrible. My mom's pretty racist. I find it extremely irritating. She doesn't like....Jewish people, or Indians. And here's the kicker: the majority of my friends are Jewish or Indian. I'm open to guys of any race when it comes to relationships, and my mom's always like "Don't bring a Jew in here." And I'm just like "yeah.. ALRIGHT, mom." fact is, the majority of the guys I've been attracted to in the past have been Jewish, soo...
 
Most of my family is ok with equal rights but they don't agree with mixing. My mom is vocal about it how she thinks its unfair to the child.


Very dumb to me.
 
^ I see that a lot... they think it's okay to have friends of another race, but not a spouse of another race, am I right?
 
my husband black and i am white so we get so many looks and comments. so i have to ask them what there looking at and they say your a nigger go back to your own country and i hate that about people.they don't even know us .:(but we just have to live with it
 
PedrosxPeter said:
I grew up with a family that was racist to the point of going to clan rallys. I was extremely racist up to my early twentys when my experiences with other races led me to start questioning my beliefs. I changed my beliefs and I eventually married a black woman. I don't speak to most of my family because of this. My mother has never met my son or wife. I lost my inheritance of a 50 pus acre family farm
I feel like they are the real losers. They are missing my son who is a beautiful and unbelievablely intelligent and advanced one year old.
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You are a hero. This is how the world changes and though it is painfully slow-going, it is profound. Your beautiful son has beautiful parents and it is a shame that the rest of your family stays stuck in ignorance but you are right to protect him from them. <3<3<3
 
My mom is a bit racist. Mostly against Japanese people but in a way I understand. Her parents were refugees during WWII and they saw some horrendous shit when the Japanese invaded China. With that in mind I can see how they might have taught my mother to hate Japanese people. Still though it pisses me off whenever my mom talks about it, none of that shit happened to her so she should just let it go. She has gotten better though after my dad took us on a business trip to Japan 4 years ago. The fucked up thing is I hated Japanese people for a time as well because of my mother but I grew out of that in high school.

My mom is also very much against "mixing" races however. She wouldn't like it at all if I dated a black girl and constantly talks about how I should marry a nice Chinese girl.
 
TheLostBoys said:
My parents never said anything racial out in public, or even in the house growing up but I know one thing, that is they would never agree to any of us kids marrying a black person. Do I consider this racial? No I dont, but thats just me.
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This is stupid. I know this is thread is over a year old but I noticed several instances of this. There is absolutely zero biological or otherwise scientific data that suggests racial mixing produces any negative qualities in offspring.

Whether you think it's racist or not, having issues with mixing is absolutely racist. You can't simply have an opinion that it's wrong but magically isn't racist. It fucking is, and it is because it's a baseless discrimination. Unless you can give a good reason why mixing is against your beliefs, then you are racist. You don't get a pass because "everyone is entitled to an opinion" or any such bullshit. Either reason it out and come to a conclusion or change your beliefs, but stop with these empty justifications.

Monkeybizness said:
my family is not racist but joke around freely .. the little island were im from everyone is SERIOUSLY equal and there are blacks, whites, indians , asians whatever
in cuba white ppl call black ppl black and they dont find it offensive... everyone is the fucking same... only in america do you see this
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I'm seriously starting to think this as well.

We joke about race all the time, but the word "racist" implies an actual belief that different races are somehow not equal. There simply isn't the charged atmosphere where I live in Canada that you often hear about in the US.
 
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