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Are virgins attractive?

samnslumberland

samnslumberland

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Do you find virgin women attractive? Does the idea of taking a woman's virginity excite or arouse you? Or, does the idea of being a woman's first sexual partner freak you out? Do you find sex with inexperienced women to be uneventful, boring, or insufficient?

Feel free to apply these questions to virgin men as well.
 
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Not to me. Not at my age, or past early 20s anyway. Women who are virgins past then usually have issues or are hung up about something. Sex really isn't that big a deal, and some people act like it's some holy, spiritual moment. It really isn't. I also don't want to be teaching a girl everything, I've had 2 girlfriends who were pretty inexperienced, I was only their 2nd ever, and it gets pretty boring after a while.

So, unless it's some hot 18 year old girl, I'm not really interested and even then, it'd hardly be more than sex until I got bored.
 
lol I am 23 yo virgin :D

11-16......... I have great genetics for longevity,ppl in my direct bloodline die around 85-90..... I noticed I age and mature slower than other ppl,I was put year later in school but still was most immature and childish... most ppl mature at 18 I feel as I hit that point later at 22.So basicly as early teenager I was stupid child,from 16-21 I was drowning in heavy depression.I started lifting two years back,turned from hunchback suicidal mess to sexy beast :D So both my mind and body is finaly ready,its late but I think its gonna be even more mind blowing becose that painfull wait =D

I could lose virginity with decent girl in week at most time,but I love someone already and I think theres no point in doing it with someone not so special just to not being a loser,for me its all about quality over quantity even trough its really bad urge at this point I can wait many more months
 
Many guys like the thought of destroying innocence, being the first to break her in and leaving a mess etc. This is also true for older men. I had to experience something like that, and write about it in this thread. http://www.bluelight.org/vb/threads/732176-Guys-making-use-of-drugs-to-get-sex But after a certain age, you might be lead to think the reason she hasn't had sex yet, is because she is unattractive, or because she is not a very sensual og sexual creature, that is to say, boring or a bit of a prude.
 
I'm in my late twenties, and if I met a girl around my age who was a virgin but was what I was looking for then it would not be a problem.. but I can't see that happening because there's a maturity/life development that comes from having relations with someone I think, though I guess it's possible without. If I did meet someone I would be honored to be their first partner.. doesn't really turn me on so much the idea of taking virginity, but I'd like to think I could make it a nice experience for them and that means a lot more to me than just popping their cherry.

Sex happens in the mind though, so she may be tight downstairs but if she's tight upstairs too then it's likely to move slowly over time. I like someone with a free mind who can move past blocks with ease, and as I said I think it's unlikely you'll find a virgin woman around my age who's also got a free mind.
 
as far as "destroying her innocence"... "popping her cherry" etc... - Not really an turn-on/fetish of mine whatsoever. Not a turn-off either per se, just not that interesting to me.

Emotionally, there can be strong bonds from all sex, and first sexual bonds can be particularly strong. That's kind of a turn-on, as long as I have some long term plans.

Physically, it's sometimes a plus to start new. Depends on the situation.
 
Corazon said:
Emotionally, there can be strong bonds from all sex, and first sexual bonds can be particularly strong. That's kind of a turn-on, as long as I have some long term plans.
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It's interesting that you brought up these "bonds." Do you ever worry that having sexual relations with a virgin may lead to her becoming overly attached?
 
samnslumberland said:
It's interesting that you brought up these "bonds." Do you ever worry that having sexual relations with a virgin may lead to her becoming overly attached?
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Yea.
I would like it if I had legitimate long-term interests. I would not like it if I thought of it as a one-night-stand or a side girlfriend/fwb.
 
DOB said:
I could lose virginity with decent girl in week at most time,but I love someone already and I think theres no point in doing it with someone not so special just to not being a loser,for me its all about quality over quantity even trough its really bad urge at this point I can wait many more months
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Zero quantity= zero quality

Nothing sexy about a virgin for me other than perhaps the paranoia of contracting an sti is greatly reduced. No one is a great lay their first time. Guys over think it and girls are too timid. It is more often than not a slow painful fumble with no rhythm and very little chemistry. The older the virgin, the more likely they are to have either mental hang ups or unrealistic expectations for magic and fireworks their first time.

That's not to say a virgin doesn't have some advantages. A clean slate will possibly mean an opportunity to train and nurture someone into the perfect fucking machine, but straight out of the box isn't something I spend nights dreaming about
 
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Nothing sexy about a virgin for me other than perhaps the paranoia of contracting an sti is greatly reduced. No one is a great lay their first time. Guys over think it and girls are too timid. It is more often than not a slow painful fumble with no rhythm and very little chemistry.
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Haha very true.

I mean, who remembers their first time? Was it good? A few people have decent "first times" but the majority of us don't. Why would I want to go through that again with someone? lol Not that I WOULDN'T have sex with someone because they were a virgin. But preferring a virgin? Nope.
 
I'd say yes to be honest. Virgins turn me on probably because I see them as cleaner and physically more held together
 
I've never found virgins more attractive than other gals. I like girls who have been broken in already, because A) they have more experience, I don't have to teach them anything other than how to suck MY dick; but B) I am an empath who used to smoke waaaaay too much weed - this opened me up too much - if there's any pain the other is experiencing my dick gets turned off, starts to go floppy. I've never busted a cherry yet...am up for it, but not for a while, I have work to do on my aura.
 
i think they are cute tbh, i can relate to being too shy to be in a relationship, and respect people that place a deeper meaning than modern society does, on sex.
 
Virgins women are atractives, as all the young girls virgins or not. But they seems more attractive than other women just for a cultural matter.
 
innosence can be cute but the reality is that its not going to have that smooth flow most likely.

either way if i love some i'll accept them either way
 
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