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neoblazing

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I need a way to reduce my libido as my partner is overwhelmed any idea of activities or legal substances that I can use to keep it in check
 
If you're in your 20's then it's probably natural. But you can do grounding exercises to pull some of this sexual energy downward. If you meditate, focus on your legs and grounding. The colour red is also helpful for this (wearing it, having it around, etc.)

If you're 35+ then it could represent the onset of hormone imbalance. A lot of men as they approach andropause get a lot of heat like women do, but it manifests more as a very high libido. The next stage (as 50's approach) will be no libido or impotence in a lot of cases. It's kind of like the candle burning brightest before it goes out. The eastern medicine concept behind this is "kidney yin deficiency". If you have a lot of heat in general, especially in the middle of the night (with night sweating), this would be a "yin deficiency" sign. It's hard to translate this concept to modern terms, but it's endocrine related.

There is also a more esoteric concept relating to tantra and conserving essence, but I won't delve into that here because it's rather non-scientific. But basically, the more you spill seed, the less grounded your root will be, and in turn the more you will feel like you need to spill seed. Sometimes a high sex drive is not the result of needing sex but is a result of having had too much sex. So if you force yourself into a break, the sex drive could actually resolve. Repeat ejaculation increasing testosterone release from the testes.

Also, increase zinc intake. Men store zinc in their prostate and excess ejaculation can deplete this. I find during high libido periods, zinc tames it down.
 
Porn and masturbation might help. It's normal for one partner to have a higher libido than the other.
 
Why the huge difference?
Going on for how long?
Why have you decided to keep your libido in check as opposed to finding someone else?
Are you sure your partner libido is low or perhaps just wanting some different outlet?

Many qns to answer before looking to contain your mojo
 
If you're in your 20's then it's probably natural. But you can do grounding exercises to pull some of this sexual energy downward. If you meditate, focus on your legs and grounding. The colour red is also helpful for this (wearing it, having it around, etc.)

I hate to even think of what I'd be in for if I didn't have this username ;)

This is odd because red is the colour of seduction. I think of red and I think of red dresses, which our society groups with a woman's (high) libido.

Nonetheless, I am going to wear red to work tomorrow and see if I cannot calm myself down a bit.
 
You know what I say "BRING OUT THE PACK OF BOLOGNA!" but in my head so I don't sound like an idiot but that is a way to help you with your *libido issues and also you need to do meditation and keep your mind off sex. When I feel an urge in any situation cause I do have my days where I want sex all day I usually walk into my room and close my eyes and just think and say out loud random things like: baseball, greenpeas, pogostick, the notebook, fire, dog. Hope you fight off the urges but try this once because it works for me everytime
 
Why the huge difference?
Going on for how long?
Why have you decided to keep your libido in check as opposed to finding someone else?
Are you sure your partner libido is low or perhaps just wanting some different outlet?

Many qns to answer before looking to contain your mojo

I have always had a really high sex drive I used to work out 6-7 days a week to burn off excess energy I also did wing chun (martial arts) and played soccer, I since had a change of lifestyle having had 2 kids and now working nights so I had to stop most of my activities due to work and baby sitter issues(or lack being able to find a decent one). I decided to keep it in check because I love my SO and don't want anyone else :) and its not her fault I am as horny as a teenage boy. I am gonna try meditating and see if there is a medial reason behind it, Thanks heaps for the responses and idea if you think of anything else please don't hesitate to let me know.
 
lol one of the things i found that killed my libido quick smart was SSRI's. Though, they're only helpful if you have depression. But they sure are libido killers. Fucking things :/
 
I wouldn't taker opiates like the other guy said ^^^taking drugs to reduce that sint the best bc one day youll neveever ever get hard.
If you want to much sex then you have to just do one of these things to not want it anymore.
masturbate more.
when hard look at something that disgusts you? lol haha
 
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