onyxensentium
Bluelighter
- Joined
- Jan 25, 2004
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I think the most important thing to take from this thread is that certain drugs may help you, a lot, but only for a while.
In short, and I'll save you a lot of time and frustration: No drug will ever cure your social anxiety disorder. You might as well just give up. I know it sounds dismal but hear me out. You have to let go of trying to be "good" socially. You have to let go of the concept that you are somehow broken and thus unable to function like "normal." All of these ideas are egotistical and selfish. Most people have at least SOME degree of social anxiety. So you have a little more than others, what's so wrong with that?
Have you considered that maybe you weren't meant to be super cool celebrity popular? Have you considered that your shyness brings forth other golden opportunities that non-shy people might miss?
The most important thing you can ever do for yourself as you learn and grow is to simply ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE. Even if you want to change something you must first ACCEPT the situation and embrace it. A long time ago, I accepted the fact that I'm somewhat anti-social. I'd rather be at home working on some art or playing guitar than out "socializing." And I'm absolutely fine with it.
The day that I accepted it, it no longer became that important. It didn't need to be FIXED and as a result the social interactions I do have are a lot more comfortable because I have the attitude now of, "Yeah, I'm not as intelligent socially as most people, can you handle that?" I could care less if girls think I'm not cool or popular, I have a beautiful girlfriend who treats me like a god because I act like a god. How? I follow my true path.
I do what I want to do (so long as it is through the eyes of love) and don't give a shit about anything else.
If you live honestly, and reach that point where you just stop caring about being good or bad, it feels so great. You just ARE. Take me or leave me, love me or hate me it doesn't matter. I'm doing my thing and nobody is going to stop me.
This attitude has improved EVERY area of my life, friends, work, art, music.
You have an incredible tool in that head of yours and here you are thinking about yourself and imaginary concepts that, in the end, don't mean a fucking thing. Why not find what you're passionate about and pursue it relentlessly. Fuck fitting in, fuck being cool or being able to make people laugh. All this stuff falls into place naturally when you start to find your true path and follow it.
Not everyone will like you. Not everyone will hate you. Yes people will say bad things about you. Yes people will say good things. THIS you know is true. This is the only objective truth you can actually say. So why even bother worrying about it?
Find what drives you, and be.
In short, and I'll save you a lot of time and frustration: No drug will ever cure your social anxiety disorder. You might as well just give up. I know it sounds dismal but hear me out. You have to let go of trying to be "good" socially. You have to let go of the concept that you are somehow broken and thus unable to function like "normal." All of these ideas are egotistical and selfish. Most people have at least SOME degree of social anxiety. So you have a little more than others, what's so wrong with that?
Have you considered that maybe you weren't meant to be super cool celebrity popular? Have you considered that your shyness brings forth other golden opportunities that non-shy people might miss?
The most important thing you can ever do for yourself as you learn and grow is to simply ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE. Even if you want to change something you must first ACCEPT the situation and embrace it. A long time ago, I accepted the fact that I'm somewhat anti-social. I'd rather be at home working on some art or playing guitar than out "socializing." And I'm absolutely fine with it.
The day that I accepted it, it no longer became that important. It didn't need to be FIXED and as a result the social interactions I do have are a lot more comfortable because I have the attitude now of, "Yeah, I'm not as intelligent socially as most people, can you handle that?" I could care less if girls think I'm not cool or popular, I have a beautiful girlfriend who treats me like a god because I act like a god. How? I follow my true path.
I do what I want to do (so long as it is through the eyes of love) and don't give a shit about anything else.
If you live honestly, and reach that point where you just stop caring about being good or bad, it feels so great. You just ARE. Take me or leave me, love me or hate me it doesn't matter. I'm doing my thing and nobody is going to stop me.
This attitude has improved EVERY area of my life, friends, work, art, music.
You have an incredible tool in that head of yours and here you are thinking about yourself and imaginary concepts that, in the end, don't mean a fucking thing. Why not find what you're passionate about and pursue it relentlessly. Fuck fitting in, fuck being cool or being able to make people laugh. All this stuff falls into place naturally when you start to find your true path and follow it.
Not everyone will like you. Not everyone will hate you. Yes people will say bad things about you. Yes people will say good things. THIS you know is true. This is the only objective truth you can actually say. So why even bother worrying about it?
Find what drives you, and be.
