JustMarried
Greenlighter
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Hello all,
6 months ago I married to the most amazing and beautiful woman I've ever met. She's 21 and I'm 24. Our sex is great, after a couple of months at the beginning we kind of clicked and reached a point where we can now both orgasm at the same time 7/10 times when we have sex. If one of us doesn't orgasm it's usually me and she's not good at using her hands and has a super strong gag reflex so I'm normally left unsatisfied if that happens. She's never been left unsatisfied since we've been together, even if I have to go down on her for 45 minutes.
I am interested in trying anal sex, it's always been a fantasty of mine and I see it as a really hot, intimate and trusting experience to share between two people who love each other. Not like it is in porn. I imagine it as something we'd do maybe a couple of times a year when we're feeling really close to each other.
My wife has had anal sex with two of her ex's. In total about 20-30 times however does not want to do it with me. She doesn't really like it. She said it doesn't hurt her but when she says that when she's turned on and wants to feel something in her vagina and then something goes in her butt it's like the reverse of having a poo and she doesn't feel sexual any more. I'm also a little on the large side in terms of penis size unfortunately and she's quite small and petite.
Now I respect her opinion and don't want to make her do anything that would cause her discomfort. I just really struggle with the concept that there's anything "off limits" in our sex life, especially something she was more than willing to do so many times for her ex. I'm willing to do absolutely anything for her and would really like her to consider trying it with me one day. With me it wouldn't be just an idiot ramming it up her bum like it was with her ex.. Now I know anal is not comfortable to start with. After we discussed it I personally tried butt plugs and dildos to see what anal felt like and to be honest, after the first few minutes once I'd relaxed it was quite nice and I could use the dildo quite hard on myself and had really good orgasms.
On discussion she gets quite upset when we have discussed it as she seems to think I want to cause her pain in wanting anal which is not true. She also said no woman enjoys it. Period. Anyone that says they do are lying and it will never be possible to orgasm with something in her bum.
Now I love her more than anything in the world so I want let my desire ruin our relationship and I'm at the point where I've spoken to a hypnotherapist and am considering paying a substantial amount of money to stop me from wanting this. At the same time I don't know whether there's anything I can do to make her feel comfortable enough to one day try it with me.
We've discussed anal play and she's OK with that so I'm was going to start licking or rubbing her anus for the first few weeks and hope she responds well. Maybe insert a finger once she's more comfortable and let her relax into the idea that anal play can be fun for both of us.
I'm interested to know what peoples thoughts are.
Am I being unreasonable for wanting this?
Should I keep trying and if so any suggestions on how to introduce anal stimulation in a relaxed gentle way?
Any advice from both women and men would be greatly appreciate.
Thank you for reading.
6 months ago I married to the most amazing and beautiful woman I've ever met. She's 21 and I'm 24. Our sex is great, after a couple of months at the beginning we kind of clicked and reached a point where we can now both orgasm at the same time 7/10 times when we have sex. If one of us doesn't orgasm it's usually me and she's not good at using her hands and has a super strong gag reflex so I'm normally left unsatisfied if that happens. She's never been left unsatisfied since we've been together, even if I have to go down on her for 45 minutes.
I am interested in trying anal sex, it's always been a fantasty of mine and I see it as a really hot, intimate and trusting experience to share between two people who love each other. Not like it is in porn. I imagine it as something we'd do maybe a couple of times a year when we're feeling really close to each other.
My wife has had anal sex with two of her ex's. In total about 20-30 times however does not want to do it with me. She doesn't really like it. She said it doesn't hurt her but when she says that when she's turned on and wants to feel something in her vagina and then something goes in her butt it's like the reverse of having a poo and she doesn't feel sexual any more. I'm also a little on the large side in terms of penis size unfortunately and she's quite small and petite.
Now I respect her opinion and don't want to make her do anything that would cause her discomfort. I just really struggle with the concept that there's anything "off limits" in our sex life, especially something she was more than willing to do so many times for her ex. I'm willing to do absolutely anything for her and would really like her to consider trying it with me one day. With me it wouldn't be just an idiot ramming it up her bum like it was with her ex.. Now I know anal is not comfortable to start with. After we discussed it I personally tried butt plugs and dildos to see what anal felt like and to be honest, after the first few minutes once I'd relaxed it was quite nice and I could use the dildo quite hard on myself and had really good orgasms.
On discussion she gets quite upset when we have discussed it as she seems to think I want to cause her pain in wanting anal which is not true. She also said no woman enjoys it. Period. Anyone that says they do are lying and it will never be possible to orgasm with something in her bum.
Now I love her more than anything in the world so I want let my desire ruin our relationship and I'm at the point where I've spoken to a hypnotherapist and am considering paying a substantial amount of money to stop me from wanting this. At the same time I don't know whether there's anything I can do to make her feel comfortable enough to one day try it with me.
We've discussed anal play and she's OK with that so I'm was going to start licking or rubbing her anus for the first few weeks and hope she responds well. Maybe insert a finger once she's more comfortable and let her relax into the idea that anal play can be fun for both of us.
I'm interested to know what peoples thoughts are.
Am I being unreasonable for wanting this?
Should I keep trying and if so any suggestions on how to introduce anal stimulation in a relaxed gentle way?
Any advice from both women and men would be greatly appreciate.
Thank you for reading.