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An update to previosu thread, man thinking hes bisexual..confused..need advice!

tomdpimp said:
Your confusion over this seems to me like you want to cheat. If you actually love your wife and if she truely loves you then you must talk to her about this. I wonder if you think she won't understand, she'll leave you. True love is about communication. Also do you actually want to have sex with another man or not? I think you explore what fantasies you have with her first. Talk about this with her. Hell my wife loves that I have my own vibrator to use on myself. She doesn't think about it being sign to being gay, she knows that I enjoy the sensations I get from using it.
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This. People have given you some really good advice, but you're still stalling. There is only ONE right course here - tell your wife. As you yourself said, these feelings/thoughts/fantasies aren't going away, but getting stronger. You haven't mentioned any recent interest in sex with women, which I find very telling. Your wife deserves to know why she's not getting the sex life she deserves. Yes, she may freak out, she may leave you. Or she may be okay with an open relationship of sorts. Either way you must tell her.

Honestly, I think from the very first time you started thinking about men sexually on a regular basis, you should have told her. The fact that you've been hiding something so big from her for so long is bad all around.

Edit: I have to agree with Tamarinds. My soulmate was a little bi but mostly asexual and I've always been very sexual. We just didn't have sex very often & certainly there have been other men I connected with better on sexual terms. But my late husband was still my soulmate.
 
Most men are bisexual , of course most also will never admit it but just throw them in jail or impose celibacy on them and the genie is out of the bottle. That being said if you really love someone I don't see how also being attracted to the other gender would negate this.
 
Abject said:
Nope.
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this doesnt mean you want to go get a civil union. it just means naturally you're not as straight as you'd like to think, you've simply oppressed it sufficiently or it has no reason to come out because women satisfy you. just looked at how society raises us and the difference between genders; its normal for straight girls to hug, kiss, cuddle, hold hands (basically show affection) because society accepts it normal and nobody would assume theyre bi or lesbians. guys show a little androgyny and are immedietly bashed for "not being a man"
 
I disagree. My sexuality isn't a result of my society, other than the access to porn provided by it.
For example, in a tight knit social circle or a sports club it, I have seen two homophobic men slap each others asses for example, in an asexual or even sarcastic manner with the same accept women get.
I think girls are nicer to hug than guys, which would explain things. They're squishier and softer and they smell better.

All I'm saying is making baseless claims that most men are bisexual serves no use, unless your intention is trolling/looking foolish.
 
Actually talk to your wife and tell her how you are bisexual, and quit spamming this same post on various sites like bisexual.com since people will give you excellent advice but you don't follow it or actually do any of it.
 
Abject said:
I disagree. My sexuality isn't a result of my society, other than the access to porn provided by it.
For example, in a tight knit social circle or a sports club it, I have seen two homophobic men slap each others asses for example, in an asexual or even sarcastic manner with the same accept women get.
I think girls are nicer to hug than guys, which would explain things. They're squishier and softer and they smell better.

All I'm saying is making baseless claims that most men are bisexual serves no use, unless your intention is trolling/looking foolish.
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Actually I feel the same way about women they are "better" for me. However imagine that they weren't around , yes a world without women you'd probably go for the uglier/hairy/smelly alternative (or probably the most feminine man out there), as zappa would say: get the picture?

p.s homosexuality is something completely different , I believe there is scientifiv evidence supporting the fact that homosexuals have a different brain structure , however to my knowledge no similar findings have been made concerning the brain of self-proclaimed bi-sexuals (it has been proven that it exists though but more as in 1 person can get aroused by both genders)
 
Think you should start being a bit truer to youself... wife needs to know, she might be cool with it but she might be very uncool with it..

I bet you know what you really want to do, explor your bi side. but looking for acceptance, man up, what you need to do is be upfront with your wife.....
 
just ask if it's something that bothers her.

From what I remember you been running your mouth off about it to so many people you & your wife are friends with, that SOMEONE is talking to her about it - take a deep breath, grab your balls and TELL HER. She already knows as I have told you before, seriously mate it is no big deal. It doesn't have to affect your marriage.

I can't believe you haven't worked out how to say it yet - you're blowing it out of proportion, it doesn't need to change your marriage, and IF IT DOES, if she can't accept it - well why would you want to stay with someone who doesn't accept you for who you are? It's a no brainer and this load you are choosing to be carrying will disappear
 
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