am I being paranoid?

[Pagey]

Just got a text from her 'come meet me, you can stay over'. then, about ten minutes later 'actually i'm going bed ignore that'.
what was that about? I was meant to be seeing her tomorrow anyway.

Don't over-analyse, it never ends well and only serves to make you more miserable frankly. Maybe she just suddenly realised she was exhausted and needed a good night's sleep. Don't let your thoughts get away from you

I don't know, I don't like how girls seem to judge who's worthy of a relationship by who would look best on their facebook relationship status, not who's the best person to be with.

I get you're frustrated but there really isn't any need to make those kinds of generalisations...we do have a bit more depth than that y'know.

nah neither of us have, she just started talking to him online.

Aaah! Really try not to let your thoughts get ahead of you then. Clearly it's not only speculation on your part, but on hers as well. Chances are she won't even want anything to happen with him once she meets him.

Don't worry man, tattooed guys who play in a band..

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Are ass holes. Haha.

Girls sleep with us for the thrill and excitement but know we're not boyfriend material.

Hmm...

 

[pofacedhoe]

nah neither of us have, she just started talking to him online.

ahahaha

whats your beef? she just trying to make you jealous. many people look good in photos but shit in life and that reverse is also true. plus he might have no real life charisma or likability

the net gives you such an inaccurate perception of people compared to real life

show her you like her more than you are currently doing

 

[crashpow]

weirdly enough she's invited me to go to the gig with her =S whether shes trying to make him or me jealous, or if she just needs someone to go with, who knows.

saw her last night, ended up staying over. Idk, she seems to still be very interested in me, and she mentioned that the band guy had basically out rightly said he wanted to sleep with her. She seemed to play it off like she said she didn't want too, but idk. I guess I just assumed that as he has more social status and looks 'cooler' than me that she would prefer him.

we'll see what happens at the gig.

oh and sorry for the generalizations haha, I know they're not really true, was just a bit drunk and feeling slightly bitter : P

 

[Corazon]

good luck
Probably a great sign that she's going with you, (as opposed to not hearing from her for a couple days around the date of the gig).

It's OK for you or your partner to enjoy being sexually desired or whatever from someone outside your relationship. Kind of a self-esteem boost or a tease thing, provided it isn't someone in your social circle and isn't acted on. I know your relationship status makes this more of a blurred line. You can kind of take it as a good thing(some asshole in a band finds my partner attractive). Stressing out over it is definitely not necessary.

non-committal relationships can be tough. They ebb and flow. It can be elusive. Have to be lucid and play it by ear. How are the magnets lined up? Sometimes trying to control your partner ends up having the opposite effect pushing her away. Sometimes that stuff is her wanting you to be assertive. And as in your case, feelings always happen in these "non-committal" relationships.

 

[crashpow]

wow, was so preoccupied with band guy that I didn't notice some other guy's been talking to her, and she's getting drunk with him and his friends tonight.

fucking brilliant. You know what, this is getting too much. I really like her, I think I should just tell her. If she doesn't feel the same i'll just cut my losses and move on.

just sucks. it's so hard to find someone half decent, and she was really attractive and really nice, fun and likeable. Back to the soul destroying process of trying to pull average girls at shitty nightclubs then.

 

[Mr.Scagnattie]

wow, was so preoccupied with band guy that I didn't notice some other guy's been talking to her, and she's getting drunk with him and his friends tonight.

fucking brilliant. You know what, this is getting too much. I really like her, I think I should just tell her. If she doesn't feel the same i'll just cut my losses and move on.

just sucks. it's so hard to find someone half decent, and she was really attractive and really nice, fun and likeable. Back to the soul destroying process of trying to pull average girls at shitty nightclubs then.

Hah, sorry man. Quit torturing yourself. Tell her how you feel, if she's in, great, if not, move on man. She sounds a bit flakey.. loosing interest fast in one guy or just loving a lot of male attention in general. Not worth it.

 

[crashpow]

just been talking to her now. I really, really need to stop jumping to conclusions.

On an unrelated note, does anybody have any tips on how just to chill the fuck out when it comes to stuff like this? In general i'm usually a very chill person about most things, too much so in fact, but for some reason when it comes to girls I get so paranoid and worried over shit like this.

I would like to point out i'm not controlling at all, the idea of controlling someone to me is horrible, i'd hate to feel like I was stopping someone doing what they wanted. I don't even let it show, I just swallow it and let out my paranoia on internet forums : P