itchyscratchy
Bluelighter
DWEIma die within the next 5 years
...retard...LOL
Still beating your head that means you're still living.
Take care man.
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DWEIma die within the next 5 years
itchy said:Set limits on how much you will be a co-conspirator you are willing to be and tell him "Look. I'm only going to buy you[x] amount of beer and when that's gone...oh well..."
The only reason that I even suggested "buying him beer", is because quiting abruptly is dangerous. Otherwise I would completely agree with you in your suggestion of "I'm not buying you alcohol". That's the only reason.Okay...but shouldn't the limit be, "I am not buying you alcohol"? I agree vehemently that people tend to respond poorly to ultimatums, particularly addicts, and particularly threats of abandonment. You can continue to support your husband and stand by him without 'enabling' him.
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The only reason that I even suggested "buying him beer", is because quiting abruptly is dangerous.
Do we want this thread in TDS or SL?
I am struggling with this season. I have given up the life of an alcoholic a year ago. I don't follow aa nor believe in many of their principles. I have found myself becoming antsy. I don't necessarily want to drink, but I do. I have encountered kindling in the past. I find myself researching ibogaine and wondering what everyones thoughts on that subject would be .
We have this thread going in SL Alcoholism Discussion Thread Version 6.0
So we can keep this in TDS and merge the two or we can merge this into SL. I think the participants in this thread can decide where it belongs. At first glance its subject matter seems to fit in SL better, but there are also advantages to having this in TDS.
Thoughts?
@JGJ: I know, right? I love the part about "if you love him you would have done something long ago" LOL! And what exactly were you supposed to do according to these high n mighty know it all parroting fools? Gotta love the people that have been indoctrinated into this NA/AA theology and dont have the slightest idea of how to deal with nor advise on the situation they have not even the slightest idea of how to grasp. No, you are not a shmuck. You are just absorbing the brunt of other people's "better than you" reflectivity. You have to remember that you are on a public forum and are subject to weak ass criticism. My advice comes from experience, not heresay or parroting other blind mens mantras. But I guess in the land of the blind the one eyed man is king. I wasn't talking about you being a nazi, I was talking about you drawing some firm lines in the sand, JGJ. Leaving someone until they get better seldom works. I'm sorry you are fighting against the outdated NA/AA current. If that "tough love" shit worked for them, that's fine. But it's not a universal solution. I'm glad you stood up to the idiocy. ...And that's why I don't post in this thread. Too many people with high and mighty attitudes that don't know shit about real life.
You want to talk realistically, without being judged, I'm here. Like I said, I have been through every angle of that rubiks cube.
Later.
no i deserve all of it and apologize to you ! was just wasted
JGJ said:I get the whole NA/AA folks sharing their views as that may have worked for them but not him. He simply isn't the kind of man who would go. He just wouldn't and gets really urked when I gingerly bring it up.
Sure, I can stop buying beer altogether
that's just cruel