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Age differences

I'm positively surprised by the relaxed attitudes on here. Personally I grew up with movies like Harold and Maude and I found there can be a lot of truth to that movie.
 
It shouldn't, but I had someone's mother making her dump me as I'm 39 and she's now 20, I think. But I fear growing old. Kind of.
 
Kaori said:
It shouldn't, but I had someone's mother making her dump me as I'm 39 and she's now 20, I think. But I fear growing old. Kind of.
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yeah, same for me, now I'm feeling that my "relationship" with this 20yo is fading out cause of myself having adhd, I tend to overshare and be too affectionate, without filters, too soon. That could be seen as creepy or as needy or interpreted as love bombing, which is totally not the case but....
I do feel bad thinking that I'm no longer 25 but 35, because I don't feel myself old neither I look old, but the age is "coming" and it's difficult for me to recognize that soon I won't be able to date women younger than 30 or something like that, and to be honest I don't consider attractive most women over 30-33...
 
Neuroborean said:
yeah, same for me, now I'm feeling that my "relationship" with this 20yo is fading out cause of myself having adhd, I tend to overshare and be too affectionate, without filters, too soon. That could be seen as creepy or as needy or interpreted as love bombing, which is totally not the case but....
I do feel bad thinking that I'm no longer 25 but 35, because I don't feel myself old neither I look old, but the age is "coming" and it's difficult for me to recognize that soon I won't be able to date women younger than 30 or something like that, and to be honest I don't consider attractive most women over 30-33...
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haha, finally it wasn't the case at all,
I did some amanita deep dive, I was stuck in a loop and I discovered some things about love and about her...
then I was 3 days thinking some words to reach her...
and... it completely worked! crazy.. I also ask God to help me reach her, so probably it's not "one-sided" but both things are connected (I don't buy that idea of God not being connected to nature)
the message I got from her... wow, I'm happy again guys.
 
Im 35 and my partner is 59. I think whoever said it comes down to the maturity of the younger person is so right. Ive been out with a few guys older than me, usually they are somewhat immature and ive been told im mature and have been my whole adult life. This is the only time ive been in love though and my partner looks to me for guidance and advice in the real world along with sexually. And ive found a way to be accommodating to that.
At first I was pretty shitty because I assumed he knew exactly what to do because he was older but we have found a way to communicate and not assume anything sexually or otherwise. We value each other greatly and respect and communication is at the forefront of our relationship and while nothing is perfect, we have so much love for one another. Its by far the most special thing that ive had in my life thus far. Hes very sexy too and thinks I am incredibly attractive and I know its genuine and not just telling me what he thinks I want to hear.
 
I was in my 20s and had a brief swing with a 70+ yr old. Of course it was only one time but nonetheless
 
When I was 36, my lover of 73 died in Paris, while I was there.

He was cremated at Père Lachaise. I still bring flowers there from time to time, whenever my present Parisian boyfriend has me stay in his house and there's time.

Everyone mentioned in this post is/was a man.
 
Eh...At 37, I generally don't try to get with anyone younger than 4 years younger than me. There's a reason for that, namely the life experience differences. I have had options to be with younger women but, I mean to be honest, I hit my physical peak at 26 due to having always worked highly physical jobs, so after 26 my body was like: Hey yo, we're not waking up as easy anymore, doesn't matter how much coffee you drink or how sober you are. And it kind of just kept snowballing from there? As I understand, that's somewhat normative.

I try to keep up with my health and my age but I am by no means chiseled and bulked.
I'm actually pretty lanky. I'm 5'10, roundabout 140 lbs. or so, average body type.
Didn't really start getting into working out until like 2 or 3 years ago.
Didn't really care for it when I was younger.
But now that I'm getting older it makes a lot more sense health-wise.

I guess I should clarify that I've been with the same woman the last 3 years and everything is fine. Hopefully this will be the last one.
I'm not exactly on the dating map radar, for several reasons. I've mostly resigned from it having gotten the brunt of my fill of it when I was younger. At this point in my life I would mostly just like to be allotted resources for me to manage so I'm fairly preoccupied within my own world most of the time.
 
Teens / twenties is a critical time period. People do the majority of their emotional and rational maturing between the ages of 13/15 - 23/25.

So a 25 yr old trying to get with a 15 yr old is highly suspect, whereas 35 trying to get with 25 is very much less so.
 
PS my father was 12 years older than my mother when I was conceived. She in her early thirties, and him well into his forties. Nobody thought that was 'weird'.
 
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