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Abused as a child? BL'ers have your say...

Were you abused as a child, and do you have a drug habit as an adult?

  • M: I was abused and have a drug habit

    Votes: 101 22.6%

  • M: I was not abused and have a drug habit

    Votes: 145 32.5%

  • M: I was abused and do not have a drug habit

    Votes: 15 3.4%

  • M: I was not abused and do not have a drug habit

    Votes: 59 13.2%

  • F: I was abused and have a drug habit

    Votes: 46 10.3%

  • F: I was not abused and have a drug habit

    Votes: 31 7.0%

  • F: I was abused and do not have a drug habit

    Votes: 16 3.6%

  • F: I was not abused and do not have a drug habit

    Votes: 33 7.4%
  • Total voters
    446
^fair enough
my mum and i r really close too - although she was abused by dad too, shes bn the light of my life during the growing yrs
it kinda scared me that she cudnt protect me tho
 
Sexually abused by father at 14. I've battled meth & coke dependency. These days I find that the past abuse affects my sexual appetites more than anything else. I guess it's typical to trade one addiction for another.
 
Wow, I thought there would be more females who WERE NOT abused WITH a drug habit... like me. I guess those are the minority in BL. It seems to be the norm if you are a guy. Anyone know why?
 
i voted not abused with a drug habit.

i didn't have a great childhood but i was never abused. i'm physically dependant on benzos and opiates.
 
i used to get punched up a bit by my dad and there was definite emotional hardship. Probably explains why I only have a codeine addiction and not something more deep.
 
Not only do I have a drug habit, but i've got many other problems that branch off the experiences I had when I was a child, predominantly Sado-masochism.
 
XxParadoxX said:
Wow, I thought there would be more females who WERE NOT abused WITH a drug habit... like me. I guess those are the minority in BL. It seems to be the norm if you are a guy. Anyone know why?
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Self destruction.

Little social support for sexually abused males.

Societies expectations of 'strength' in males.

The shame of admitting the someone once had power over you.

Don't want to feel pain.

Don't want to feel anger.

Fear of being alone forever

Those were some of my own reasons.....
 
nabollocks said:
I have been reading a lot of reports suggesting a link between abuse as a child, and drug use as an adult. There even seems to be adverts on TV these days telling us this information. :|

I am interested to see if there is any correlation amongst the BL community.


This is not scientific research. Just interesting to see what emerges.

Definition of Drug Habit:

A compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming substance (as heroin, nicotine, or alcohol) characterized by tolerance and by well-defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal; broadly : persistent compulsive use of a substance known by the user to be harmful.

I really do want to leave this up to the individual though...

Definition of Abuse:

Physical: Hitting, pushing, biting, punching, choking...
Emotional: cursing swearing, attacks on self-esteem, blaming, criticizing your thoughts feelings….
Psychological: Threatening, throwing, smashing, breaking things, punching walls, hiding things, sabotaging your car.
Sexual: any non-consenting sexual act or behavior

Note: Lets say anyone old enough to use BL is an adult.
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3 out of 4, emotional, physical, and psychological and yea i have drug habit, nothing serious, its always been weed with use of other drugs in the past but always experimented, never been constant
 
Man, I had some bad shit happen to me that i don't wanna go in2 too and I am hooked on opiates bigstyle, know how ya feel.
 
No abuse that I really recall, maybe a bit of mental/emotional.

I like drugs.

Good poll, and I feel for all you who went through abuse. All I can say without hopefully sounding to ignorant is BREAK THE CYCLE if/when you have children/families of your own.
 
^thats not ignorant - its sensible
if u dont feel u can produce children without abusing them cos abuse is all uve known, dont reproduce
seems like common sense to me - i dont know why my dad wanted kids
he was abused as a kid - never knew any diffrent
and he was the one who wanted them, not mum
fucked up situation if u ask me
 
ALL verbal abuse my whole life and watching my parents fight 24/7 and my brother running drug operations when i was like 8 in the house and getting in fights with my dad pulling guns on him throwing each other threw tables etc.. still goes on with my parents fighting till this day..... as for my brother he died this passed october of a heroin overdose....RIP BRO
 
I've never been abused, I had a very 'comfortable' childhood and wonderful wonderful parents. Physically my life was great but mentally I've just always struggled, I'm defnitely an addict, of drugs and otherwise.

I think the different responses to this poll show there are so many situations/reasons that lead to addictions, and child abuse is definitely a big one.
 
Another advert is being run on Aus TV at the moment which states that 1 in 4 girls are abused as a child!!?? This is terrible.
 
I was smacked and hit with the wooden spoon as a child when I was naughty, does that mean I was abused?

Had my mouth washed out with soap a few times when I swore as well.
 
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