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Abused as a child? BL'ers have your say...

Were you abused as a child, and do you have a drug habit as an adult?

  • M: I was abused and have a drug habit

    Votes: 101 22.6%

  • M: I was not abused and have a drug habit

    Votes: 145 32.5%

  • M: I was abused and do not have a drug habit

    Votes: 15 3.4%

  • M: I was not abused and do not have a drug habit

    Votes: 59 13.2%

  • F: I was abused and have a drug habit

    Votes: 46 10.3%

  • F: I was not abused and have a drug habit

    Votes: 31 7.0%

  • F: I was abused and do not have a drug habit

    Votes: 16 3.6%

  • F: I was not abused and do not have a drug habit

    Votes: 33 7.4%
  • Total voters
    446
yeah i think that makes a lot of sense actually, but i would never bring it up with her. ever.
my grandfather was a fucking cunt who deserved a horrible death, & did. what goes around comes around.
when i was young i used to cry heaps 'cos mum didn't believe me about my grandfather & what he did, it tore me up inside

at age 13-14 i went off the rails totally, i started taking bickies (pills) smoking, drinking, smoking pot. mum had no idea what to do. i think that was a coping mechanism, 'cos around that time i started remembering what happened and it horrified me. and that eventually led to meth and here we are today, hooray.
 
i didnt even smoke a cigarette till I was 18.
I used to be anti drugs lol.
i remember thinging of the group of "cool" kids that smoked ciggs and joints down the bottom of the field.
"I don't know if they are dumb because they smoke weed, or smoke weed coz they are dumb, but either way it can't be good"
They used to make fun of me for being good at maths, wish I could've made fun of them for being good at sport, but they would've beaten me up, if only there was some way to intimidate with mathematics the same way they did with fitness lol. Your punch is no match for my powers of analytical geometry, take that!!!
 
i was anti-drugs too!!!
funny how things become so different.
where the fuck did it change? silly me.
hahaha were you a math nerd? dw i was a total english nerd.
like super nerd. but i hated everything else, i even did well in my final year scored in the top 10% .. even tho i was a raging addict. hmm i gues it helped me focus to a point & come up with great ideas.
 
you should've seen my tantrum when Chen got the maths cup in 4th form, she got 97% and I got 95%, but she had already learnt the topics years earlier in china (they're ahead over there) they were new to me! she had an unfair advantage! I should've got the maths cup! I demand another exam! with more of those worded questions this time! haha, ahhh.. chen was a lovely girl, but just... felt so wrong to not be first. Poor chen even tried to give me the cup that i could have it, but ugh it has chen engraved on it not chelsea, it isnt the same. Then I tryed to tell my form teacher I should be allowed to sit the 3rd form exam and if i get highest I should therfore get the cup if having already leart the topics before the others doesnt matter.

I wonder if drug use is supposed to be linked to childhood abuse, why mine didnt start till 4 years after when i was no longer being abused. like, is there suppossed to be some sort of trigger in ur life that reminds u when u were being abused and makes u want to take drugs
 
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Your mind tries to protect you - it's a powerful thing...
It shows you got a strong mind, there's people who would have killed themselves having gone thru what you went through...
Your mind pushes it to another place, which can be helpful at the time, but unless you choose to deal with what happened to you straight after it stopped etc, then it comes out when it's ready - when your mind thinks you can start to deal with it...
But I've found admitting what happened isn't the same as dealing with it.
Hence why even though I admitted it like almost 2 years ago, it took til this summer to deal with it...
Hence why alot of people who were abused in one way or another develop compulsive behaviour - drug addiction, eating disorders(obesity, anorexia, bulimia), compulsive lying(I have this too), alot of things - the list is endless...
 
o_o Almost 50% of the girls who answered in this poll were abused...

I've never been abused when i was a child, and i have not a drug habit (because i don't drink alcohol, i don't smoke tobacco, the only thing that i do is weed everyday, and i can stop when i want (can be a little bit harder if i'm sad or stressed, but it's quite rare...), i use psychedelics too, but it's quite rare)...

They used to make fun of me for being good at maths, wish I could've made fun of them for being good at sport, but they would've beaten me up, if only there was some way to intimidate with mathematics the same way they did with fitness lol. Your punch is no match for my powers of analytical geometry, take that!!!
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Approximately same here... It used to happen at middle school and at high school, i thought that they did that because they were feeling superior to me because of their muscles, or maybe i didn't had the good head...

Consumption of alcohol, tobacco, or weed with those mens didn't changed anything at all, they continued to laugh at me when i was "partying" with them...

These school years are finished now, i'm in college since last year, and all i can say is that to know nobody in a new school for someone like me is like a new breath, a new way to go to school...

Finally, it isn't related to my drug use, but i think that it had influence on the difficulty i have to socialize easily...
 
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Well I went to black school and turns out black people are scared of goths, or at least the ones at my school were, so when the goth phase came about I was pleasently surprized for all the teasing to be hushed down. like I heard one person say something to another, then another one would whisper at them to shut up or I'ld put a hex on them, lol.
 
im part-maori and im not at all scared of goths ;)
i must b unique
but yea bullying and isolation at school contributes to drug abuse IMO too - esp if u get it from the teachers too
no one wanted to b my friend except the other weirdos, who were a lot younger than me and drug users.....well i started off with friends my age but they 'grew up' and i stayed young for my age
also i was undiagnosed ADHD so the teachers thought i was lazy, disruptive and were driven mad by my disorganisation and forgetfulness....and the way i talked all thru class and doodled all thru my school books
i felt bad about myself so i turned to drugs that boosted my self-esteem and made me concentrate, ie. meth
 
i was slapped around and called names. while i mostly kicked my methamphetamine habit, ive recently started to like cocaine a lot 8)

drugs that i have abused: alcohol (almost every day at least 5+ drinks), weed, meth/amphetamines, benzos, mdma
 
a few post ago some one said that they werent abused as a child but dont have a drug habbit, some one said to me that things like addictions etc can be passed down in our dna strands or molecular cells from generations way back ... dont quote me on that tho cuz im not sure, exactly interesting theory though
 
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oh yeah and i was abused physically and mentally as a child and i ended up getting with a violent man who i stayed with for 8yrs, then it took 2 yrs to leave and during this time i began my love affair with opiates im not addicted to heroin nowdays that ended 6yrs ago when i became pregnant to my now hubby, i just eat panadine forte like lollys *sigh* but that is not because i dont want to be, i have 2 young children and my responsibility lies there, i dont want to be one of those fucked up drug mums.. thats sad and something kids shouldnt have to deal with ...but may be when im really old in my 80's i'll probably develop a habit again and live out my days in bliss lol
 
aye indeed pill thrill i know what u mean i stayed with my ex dickhead for 8 bloody years coping his verbal emotional and physical abuse.. its like i became accustomed to it and belived it... and i think i got with a man like that because i was abused Verb, phys, emotionally as a child so im guessing my brain was conditioned to that sort of treatment
 
elz said:
oh yeah and i was abused physically and mentally as a child and i ended up getting with a violent man who i stayed with for 8yrs, then it took 2 yrs to leave and during this time i began my love affair with opiates im not addicted to heroin nowdays that ended 6yrs ago when i became pregnant to my now hubby, i just eat panadine forte like lollys *sigh* but that is not because i dont want to be, i have 2 young children and my responsibility lies there, i dont want to be one of those fucked up drug mums.. thats sad and something kids shouldnt have to deal with ...but may be when im really old in my 80's i'll probably develop a habit again and live out my days in bliss lol
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Do you extract the paracetamol? (500mgs paracetamol in each pill)
You can die from even a tiny bit too much paracetamol, and it aint pretty.
Sorry for lecture, I just wanted to check.
 
drug_wench said:
im part-maori and im not at all scared of goths ;)
i must b unique
but yea bullying and isolation at school contributes to drug abuse IMO too - esp if u get it from the teachers too
no one wanted to b my friend except the other weirdos, who were a lot younger than me and drug users.....well i started off with friends my age but they 'grew up' and i stayed young for my age
also i was undiagnosed ADHD so the teachers thought i was lazy, disruptive and were driven mad by my disorganisation and forgetfulness....and the way i talked all thru class and doodled all thru my school books
i felt bad about myself so i turned to drugs that boosted my self-esteem and made me concentrate, ie. meth
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Im in the UK, but am amphetamine addicted (base) I've been without it for about 8 weeks, but slipped on new years night. None since though.
Although in my forties, your post strikes a chord with me.
Thanks for the validation, as it means alot,
I always felt a weirdo, but know I'm as normal as the next man (whatever normal is)
:)
 
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Libby said:
my friends dad would always look at her and say inappropriate things and her mum never stopped it, she said her mum was jelous coz my friend got the attention when she was just getting old and feeling bad and so didnt show any sympathy if my friend tried to complain to her about it, was quite nasty to her because of it my friend told me.

so if in ur case its ur grandfather instead of dad, then it makes sense that he might've used to abuse ur mum and ur mum is jelous of the attention..

i was just thinking, if drug abuse is linked to abuse in childhood, i wonder why my brother and sister dont do drugs. they didnt come out un-scathed however, there was something wrong about the way my family used food im sure because i've been diagnosed with anorexia, and my sister has been with bulimia, and my brother is obese and i dont just mean fat i mean obese, turns sideways to get through doorways.
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I can see how abuse is a potential predisposing factor to addiction and compulsion, not necessarily just drugs.
Abuse is a form of addiction in the perpetrator. It may be unconscious out of their awareness, but never the less, still an addiction.
 
3dmusic said:
Do you extract the paracetamol? (500mgs paracetamol in each pill)
You can die from even a tiny bit too much paracetamol, and it aint pretty.
Sorry for lecture, I just wanted to check.
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no 3d i dont extract but i dont abuse them either i ake two for pain 3x pd some times i may take 2, four or five x pd i actually have a bad back, but for the most part i think its my own way of still having some sort of an affair with opiates.. this being said i did try extracting 1st time the other day with 6 tabs i guess it was all right, took my back aches away and i felt fairly groovy sort of like elevated but what i was hoping for was that nice noddy stone that can happen if taken in the right amount and because i have been taking the above mention regime for the past year i guess my tolerance is fairly high maybe next time i get my script i might do 12 and see how i go with that .. thanks for the concern anyways:)
 
Wow I sincerely hope that people who have not been sexually abused chose to stay away from this thread because the percentages are shocking.

When I was 6 I was sexually abused by my adopted brother, he was an asshole in the fullest degree long since then he was imprisoned for check fraud or something worthless like that.

I am very dependant on weed and I smoke 2+ grams a day, and I really like E aswell which I take regularly, I don't think that my drug use is directly related to the abuse as I feel very in control, but that just may not be the case.


I can't even express how much I admire some of the people in this thread, to be OK after all the things you guys/girls were subjected to is nothing short of amazing. You're way stronger then me I would loose it.
 
I voted that I was abused as a child and have a drug habit-

EVEN THOUGH.. I am sober from alcohol at this time it has been my poison throughout my early twenties and I got to some very low and dangerous places with it. I also was a crackhead before I turned to alcohol.

But... 48 days sober from alcohol today! :)
 
i had some horrible teachers in grade school that placed me in isolation, ridiculed me in front of other students, and told me repeatedly that i would never amount to anything.

i encompass their intelligence now.
 
*bump*
I came across this old thread and thought it might be useful and/or relevant to some of our TDSers <3
 
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