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A question for men in a serious realationship.

Oats

Oats

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Do you watch porn, or look at naked women in magazines or on the internet?
I've been in a relationship for 9 months and my boyfriend and i have sex often. But he still looks at naked picture or seductive type pictures.
It makes me feel like i'm not enough for him.
Can a guy in a relationship please explain this to me. If you're having sex often and you're in a relationship why do men still look at porn?
 
Heterosexual men always check out porn. They may pretend not to but they do.
There's not much you can do about it. That's the way they're made.
If you try and stop it, you will just make him nervous and he'll be more inclined to do it when you are not looking.
You might try looking too, and perhaps point out the implants, the hairlessness and general schlockiness of it all.
 
nearly all men do this. either accept it or ignore it, but criticizing/scrutinizing is not in either of your best interests.
 
I do. It's mostly because watching porn makes it easier for me to ejaculate while I'm masturbating. If I'm just stuck with my own mind I can take 20-30 minutes if I'm not really in the mood. With porn I can get it down to 5 if I'm in a bit of a rush. You're not enough for your boyfriend when he starts going to strip clubs and hooking up with girls, not when he masturbates to pictures of them. That's my opinion.
 
Oats said:
Do you watch porn, or look at naked women in magazines or on the internet?
I've been in a relationship for 9 months and my boyfriend and i have sex often. But he still looks at naked picture or seductive type pictures.
It makes me feel like i'm not enough for him.
Can a guy in a relationship please explain this to me. If you're having sex often and you're in a relationship why do men still look at porn?
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Basically every guy does it and its nothing personal.

As long as your the one he sleeps with, who cares about porn. Maybe learn to enjoy it with him.
 
augustaB said:
Heterosexual men always check out porn. They may pretend not to but they do.
There's not much you can do about it. That's the way they're made.
If you try and stop it, you will just make him nervous and he'll be more inclined to do it when you are not looking.
You might try looking too, and perhaps point out the implants, the hairlessness and general schlockiness of it all.
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This.

My girlfriend looks at porn nearly as often as I do and we have sex nearly every day. It's pretty normal for men to look at porn...in a relationship or not.
 
Because that is the only escape for him. If you had to choose between him watching porno or actually trying to get other chicks what would it be? As long as its not like out of hand every 2 hours I gotta spank it habit, id let it go. Theres a difference between loving someone and being attracted to someone.
 
LOL. In an ideal world they wouldn't, but I think this is a losing battle. The female version of this is lusting after rockstars/actors/athletes, etc. despite of having a BF. Though this is more innocent it might make a guy feel the same way. But its really just fantasy and nothing worth worrying too much about.
 
saw this answer to the same question elsewhere on the internet. i don't think it could be put any better:

"When guys are younger, their primary focus is on visual stimulation, mostly because they haven't experienced the deep satisfaction a mature relationship brings. In addition, there's the forbidden nature of sex and pornography allows men to see something that's usually hidden.
In a relationship, those things are no longer taboo but are, in fact, PART of the relationship and the drive to view pornography and erotica diminishes.
While there are those who still watch it, it's rare for someone who's in a loving and caring relationship to do so and even if they do, it's rare.
In short, young men watch porn because it's forbidden, men in relationships don't because they don't need to.
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Is she gone?
Fuck yeah, all guys watch porn. Ain't no pussy like new pussy."
 
on another note, a lot of guys watch porn but are so smooth about it nobody would ever know. Ive never been interrupted in the process before so Im sure theres others who are real James Bond-like about it as well
 
I have been with my wife for 7 years, we have sex a few times a week. I still look at porn and wack off almost every other morning. She knows this and accepts it, if she wants to get up at 5:30 and have sex instead of me doing that on once in a while she is more than welcome lol =D

She actually got a book made containing sexy pictures of her, I use that once in a while but porn is like reading a book, you can’t read the same book every day over and over, you need to space them out.
 
"Normalacy" is define by the society in which you live. Before the camera was invented, i think it's safe to assume that boys were masturbating to paintings or other portrayals of sexual acts. But pornography as we know it today didn't come around until the 'moving picture'....and i don't know where i'm going with this...haha.
 
My wife loves that porn is available. However, she never watches it. The reason she loves porn is because it keeps me from hounding her for sex hourly. There have been times when we had sex both of us climax, and I ask her to continue. She actually tells me "can't you go and take care of yourself I am finished alread/tired. I can respect that so I go and get my second nut by masturbating while watching porn. After that I go and cuddle up on the couch with her until we are ready to move on either with our day or to bed for the night.

Bottom Line: don't take it personal!!! I can't say for sure if his viewing pornography is something you should be upset about because I do not know all the circumstances about your relationship, but it is probably harmless.
 
shimazu said:
Because that is the only escape for him. If you had to choose between him watching porno or actually trying to get other chicks what would it be? As long as its not like out of hand every 2 hours I gotta spank it habit, id let it go. Theres a difference between loving someone and being attracted to someone.
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True that... there were only two times in my life that I can remember when I wasn't checking out porn on a pretty regular basis; the first time was when I was seventeen and my first girlfriend broke my heart, sending me into the worst case of depression I've ever experienced. The second time was when I was two-timing my girlfriend (not something I'm proud of)... but yeah, there was always someone sucking my dick so I never made it to the computer, but I'm sure I still wanted to look at porn. lol
 
My boyfriend and I have been dating two years and we both look at porn. Porn is fun. Why not?
 
Oats, it means nothing. Its a distraction, its procrastination. If you took all the hours that all the guys on the net looked at porn, and combined all that time, we could cure world hunger. Its a fantasy life like watching/playing Cal-of-Duty. Nothing more. Dont worll about it.
You can have some fun wiht it as well. for eg. tell him you want to see some new moves. If he's been watching, he must haved learned something.

Good luck
 
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