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24 years old and thinking i've lost out.

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tennant90

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Hey BL. I'm here to get something off my mind.
I feel like I'm coming to an important and exciting time in my life at the moment and I feel like I'm missing that special someone to experiance it with. I have longed for a special sort of affection for years but never found it. Well, I do but its always in the wrong places/wrong time of my life etc. I know you don't need someone to make life better but it would be real awesome to take someone with me on the journey I am on atm.

Anyways, I'm 24 and have never been in a longterm relationship. I find this a bit daunting. I'm actually a pretty sound guy. I have good prospects in life and manage ok. Still, I guess the girls I have dated in the past have been flings but everytime I want to take it somewhere they fly away before I get the chance. Damn flocking birds!!!

I'm not here to get a sympathy vote. I just need some perspective and BL is best for that.
 
That's okay. You're only 24. I know so many people in their 30s who aren't in a long term relationship. No one is going to tell you "you have to be married by age X". That's ridiculous.

You'll find someone eventually, don't rush it though.
 
Yeah, I am a bit choosy when it comes to girls. I probably only find someone who I really click with every couple of years. I'm very social and meet a fair few people too. What I have noticed is that I can fall for someone and think they are so amazing etc. Only to find someone later just as desirable. It's a weird game to play and all of us are forced players, such is life.

Sexncandy - I too find them difficult to comprehend but maybe its because I've never experianced it. Then again, other couples don't really make any of it seem worth it.

I know eventually it will happen and forcing anything won't make it happen any quicker.
 
Exactly, forcing it won't make it happen any quicker.

It's fine to be choosy. Although it does kind of depend how choosy. Some people maybe live at home with their parents, don't work, aren't in school, are unhealthy, etc. and they are expecting a partner who is fit, successful, popular, cooks, cleans, etc. You've got to be a bit realistic. People aren't perfect and, if you have ridiculously high standards like that, those type of people are quite rare. I'm not saying that's what you expect, just comparing. If it's choosy, you just don't click with people, that makes sense. I find very few people who I connect with for a relationship or friends even.

When you find out later that someone is not quite as perfect as you originally thought, it's just lust at the beginning. Then you get to know them, for who they really are, and they may still be cool but just not the same. Perfectly normal.
 
I wouldn't stress on it. I'm 25 and i've never had a girlfriend.. i've slept around a lot with different women but ive never had anything consistent. I understand that it gets tiring after a while.. but that's life. Up until recently i've just been far to independent and restless to stay in one place longer then 5 months so that's also contributed to my situation.
 
Yeah, haha, the whole "I want that good looking stunning successful woman" when you pour no work into it. No its not that with me at all. Chemistry and having things in common is way more desirable.
I'm not shy with women. some can take my breath away and the heart flutters at the sight of em but thats normal.

Tbf I'm starting college for a year before university in September so that's pretty much a dumping ground for likeminded people.

Probably wise to take it slow if I meet someone though. Sometimes I think if I take it slow she may loose interest so I jump in bed pretty early on within getting to know the person. That maybe where I'm going wrong.
 
you gotta put yourself out there, if you see a girl that attracts you in a specific way, go up to her and talk to her--- What I do is just flirt. One person I used to be in a relationship was my pharmacist, I could tell maybe she was attracted to me, and so I just looked into her eyes one day while filling a nice bottle of adderall and said; "you know I think you are the most georgeous girl i've seen in I dunno how long, can I take you out and buy you dinner?" she turned all red and said , "im not really supposed to date ... " i cut her off "let me just get your number" ... she says quietly "there's a line, I have your number in the computer I'll call you" and hands me my pills.

That night she called, we had wine and made pasta together and fucked each others brains out.

when you are 25 thats the kind of shit you are supposed to be doing
 
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