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I may not have explained that the best, it's not the fact that it was prescribed by a doctor, but the fact that they needed it. For example, they may have had ADHD. The Ritalin was helping the ADHD. If it made any changes while he was developing it would probably be for the good seeing as it was a treatment for his ADHD.
 
Although ideally when the brain is developing you shouldn't take any mind altering substances, teenagers don't think about the long term. It's relatively harmless, but not completely harmless. It's also probably not as harmful as you think it is.

I smoke weed pretty regularly, I love the stuff, but it has caused me problems. Problems I've managed to overcome and which might not even be related to the weed. In my experience the thing weed can bring out most is anxiety or paranoia, but it usually just worsens them rather than actually causing them. I never would have smoked it as often as I do now when I was younger than 16. If he smokes it every now and then, perhaps once a month at the most, I honestly wouldn't worry about him. The best thing is to keep the honesty and trust between you and your son so you can keep an eye on what his drug use is like. Rather than trying to get him to stop smoking weed full stop, because that may not be possible and may just lead to him ignoring you and thinking weed is completely harmless so he can smoke it everyday without consequence, try and just explain that it's fine for him to smoke it every now and then but he shouldn't make a habit of it until he's a bit more mature (16-18+). Excessive weed smoking before the age of 16 has been shown to possibly lower IQ. The key word is excessive. And excessive weed smoking can have possible repercussions on the mental health of teenagers and fully grown adults.

The negative effects of weed vary a lot from person to person. I know some people who can smoke weed all day everyday and be absolutely fine, but for most people that's not the case.

Schools, teachers, parents etc. have taken the "you shouldn't smoke weed/do drugs at all" approach for decades and it doesn't work, but I do like the way you're going about this. In my opinion children under 16 shouldn't smoke weed or do drugs (including alcohol) at all. The best age bracket to smoke in my opinion would be 18-21, 21 being the best age because you've matured a lot by this age and most mental health issues which can be made worse by weed would have manifested themselves by this point.

Sorry I went a bit off topic. Blame my ADHD. I'll just briefly make sure I actually answer your questions.

What you think the ideal age is to start, if any:
18-21. The later and more mature, the better. But 18-21 is the age where smoking weed will be the most fun also.

What are the dangers at his age?
From heavy smoking? Lowered IQ, anxiety, paranoia, psychosis, worsening of latent mental illnesses which haven't quite manifested yet. Standard stuff.

From light smoking? Much much lower risk of all these things. Risk of maybe having a panic attack while stoned which could cause problems, but would most likely just put him off weed for a bit (happened with me).

Advice about effects on motivation, etc.
Most people I know who got stoned regularly at his age were lacking in motivation, but this doesn't mean they failed at life or got terrible grades. I've never seen occasional weed smoking impact somebody's motivation though. It's usually only they are high all the time. Or high when they should be studying, doing homework etc. If he is smoking it when he's a bit old, we'll say 16+, it would be fine for his motivation if he just kept it to the weekends after he'd done all his schoolwork. Getting high is a much more enjoyable experience if you do it after a week of hard work, or when you've got that satisfied feeling from finishing all the work you need to finish. My favourite time to get high is at the end of a working week (I work at a hospital so they're busy shifts). Or after a particularly long/busy/stressful day at work.

When I was still in College, it was best to abstain from weed during exam seasons and then just get high as fuck after my last exam to celebrate.

Sorry I've babbled a lot. Let us know how it goes, I'm sure your son will turn out fine but it's reasonable for you to be worried.
 
You'll have to find out (by asking) if he's had any follow up experiences or intends to. Being a teenager he's going to try all sorts of new things, but just because he smoked a joint doesn't mean he has "started" anything. For example, I smoked the odd poorly rolled spliff when I was 13/14, but didn't even get truly stoned till 15, and didn't start smoking regularly until 17. That being said, I would have liked to start smoking regularly a little later in life, but the point I'm getting to is there isn't realistically an ideal time for anything. Your boys own disposition and outlook on life will affect his motivation more than smoking a couple spliffs will.
Keeping open communication with your son, that's a wonderful and important thing . But mainly don't become overly anxious about the odd (and I mean very irregular) joint at this point. If it does become more regular (and ALOT more) maybe then it would be time to have a more serious chat with your son.

And also, I see your in qld, maybe have a chat about The difference between bush and hydroponic stuff. It makes a big difference.
 
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I think every regular toker here wishes that they'd started being regular a little bit later so you can definitely show your son that.
 
I have heard that marijuana can have a negative impact on developing brains. I wouldn't be comfortable with my children smoking until they were in college.
 
The impact of smoking pot at a young age is debatable with many mixed results... many of the negative results are from very excessive use. Negatives can include poor memory, lower intelligence, cognitive issues and the like.

However, when was the last time you exposed your child to mcdonalds? Its a serious drug that has NOT debatable results, up to and including death. At a fairly early age at that. It looks like you're not from the US, but in this country refined sugars are killing people left and right at an early age. Pot is just kinda making some people lazy but they're pretty much alright overall. Most people who try pot get tired of it sometime during the college years and continue to live as they would have lived as directed by education, society, parenting, and socioeconomic status... those people usually go on to die from other factors that we consider "safe" and expose our children to.

I dont smoke pot, at all. I dont enjoy it. However, if my teenage kid was found to have smoked, Id have a lot of considerations before I start claiming its the worst thing the kid is doing. Honor roll, active, and smoking some pot every few weekends? Id let it slide entirely. Id also continue to reinforce positive parenting, and plan for my kids future. Id be much more concerned if my child was 100% illegal drug free and sitting on the couch all day and failing courses.
 
Salutations again,

If the child values his way of life with caring parents still around then maybe he should be careful not to attract attention. This could mean not telling anyone and hence might defeat all desire to experiment cannabis as a reasult, eventually leading him to search for something else after a while though, etc., etc... Who knows what's going to happen, really? I wouldn't try to find justifications, don't even try to sort them out. Does he want to live in fear that strangers could intervein and take action against his will? USA and Canada endorse an anti-cannabic treaty which might allow that to happen under different forms, i believe, through regulations that apply locally ("shedule" classes are not the same, for example). But perhaps i should NOT have wrote my thoughts out loud.

Yet...

As an adult i'm a better person with cannabis than without, not necessarily what others expect but at least i'm myself. Dame Jeane affect individuals in a multitude of ways, it's up to adults to decide for themselves what's hurting them, nobody else can tell for sure unless they can read minds and stuff like that.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger sometimes, but a juvenile North-American person under the authority of an adult shouldn't be involved with cannabis in most locations or he could risk consequences that are out of proportions. Or maybe i'm just jibbering, what do you think people?

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Experience : Ive got 2 episode of a scary illness named depersonalization/derealization for a duration of 4 month each, each one from cannabis (not an abuse). Comorbidity include depression and anxiety (and not a light one - more like a constant state of incapacitating panic attack). Some people get dp/dr from cannabis as a lifelong condition (remember the movie "numb" with mathew perry, or read stories at the dpselfhelp website). In the case of a lifelong condition, life would be very hard (judging by all the months I was into it).

That's rare stuff, but it can happen. No one can say if you are predisposed to it or not. One can get it from various psychedelic, though. Not only cannabis.

Im not anti cannabis at all, I even continue to smoke, generally I have phases where I smoke excessively for 1 or 2 week then stop all for 6 months or even year(s). I use other drugs like salvia, methoxetamine, various cathinone.... But cannabis wasn't really the cause of the transition to harder drugs for me, the cause was more likely the need of new experiences and "attraction of the forbidden"... A parent can't really have any control on this...

Anyway there is no doubt your son is far too young to smoke cannabis... I don't have studies at hand but read many stuff stating marijuana can cause harm in a brain in a devellopment state... Mainly in hippocampus and amygdala formation if I remember correctly...
And if it begin to be an habit, school score can decrease and the way he's socialized can change ... His conversation would gravitate more around cannabis, would think too much about it, his brain will be wired in marijuana mode etc etc etc like all drugs abuse... (supposition from acquaintance who smoked too much - it doesn't have happened to me)

sry for my english Im french.
 
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sry for my english Im french.


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For an ESOL-speaker, you're good enough at typing in English that I really wouldn't've been able to tell that French was your language without your disclaimer at the end.
 
Hello there!

Count me in: Quebec/Canada...

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Here's my perspective from both sides:

On one hand, 13 is too young to start using drugs--ANY drugs. Your brain is still developing and you don't have the mental/emotional maturity to understand the possible consequences. What this man did could get him in legal trouble if you were to involve authorities. You should NEVER give drugs to a child or encourage them to start using. Drugs are an adult activity like sex, drinking, gambling, etc. While pot is pretty harmless from a health perspective, the legal ramifications are not so harmless. The decision to use illegal drugs should only be made by an adult.

On the other hand, there are many things that are far worse health-wise than marijuana. Alcohol, for instance. If your son is educated about the risks and is prepared to take responsibility for whatever may happen down the line (arrest, social stigma, etc), it could turn out okay. Just make sure he knows that there IS a difference between weed and harder drugs like MDMA and coke.
 
I started smoking weed when I was 21. 13 does seem a bit young for someone to start. I imagine that had I started sooner, it would have been for all the wrong reasons. For one thing, I didn't have all the pressures and responsibilities I do now when I was 13 so drugs weren't a high priority on my list of interests. It was only after my grandpa lost his life to Alzheimer's a few years ago that I ever gave it thought.
When I smoke weed, I'm not doing it to get super stoned; I do it simply to take the edge off. Contrary to popular myth, the best time of day to smoke isn't necessarily 4:20! I usually light up just before bed to help me sleep better.
The anarchist in me is saying, "Just let the kid smoke!" At the same time, my karma is saying, "Puff puffing just for the sake of puff puffing is no way to live your life."
Thinking back, I'm glad I waited until I was 21 before I started. Instead just wanting to get stoned, I was inspired to actually learn something about cannabis and its medical uses.
It just so happens that I have severe ADHD, and I find that the Tetrahydrocannabinol in weed helps me focus better; apparently, there is medical research backing this little theory of mine! I can't speak for people without ADHD though; most of my friends who smoke end up faded whereas I was alright. So unless your son has ADHD, I'm not sure it would help with studying!
 
I don't think it really needs highlighted? I'm sure drinking a bottle of benzene is more dangerous health-wise than taking heroin but that doesn't suddenly make the concern about heroin any less (unless I've read that wrong, I'm in school so I didn't have time to read over all the new posts).
 
Salutations,

Correct me if i'm wrong, i seriously begin to think this thread's actual goal isn't what it seems as it could very well happen to be about who's best fit as a parent (knowing the boy's male raw model fault: e.g. giving "pot" to a young child).

So ,who's all this really about and what for exactly?? Some mother revenge?...

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Uh oh. Just hope he isn't one of the ones who gets addicted. I started at 15, it's 10 years later now and I can't quite seem to stop! But I moderate my use now, and I can deal with the side effects - as a mature, responsible adult with a strong mind I am learning to handle it now and use weed to my advantage. When I was 15, I definitely could NOT handle that shit. It's a powerful psychedelic drug that is highly conductive to overuse, I don't see it helping any teenager out there and I definitely feel that I should not have started so young, and suffered a delayed social development because of it. Most definitely.

I'd say it's probably out of your hands, cannabis is basically a fact of life. It grows all over the place everywhere, and once people try it and like it, you just can't keep them away from it.
 
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So if you have a 13 year old genius child in college, is it OK for them to smoke cannabis? Serious question.


If my child's proven his genius by getting accepted to university at 13 and decides with all that brain power he wants to smoke him some weed, so be it. If that fucker gets anything less than A's he's grounded, though, no frat parties for a month.
 
I don't think it really needs highlighted? I'm sure drinking a bottle of benzene is more dangerous health-wise than taking heroin but that doesn't suddenly make the concern about heroin any less (unless I've read that wrong, I'm in school so I didn't have time to read over all the new posts).

True, but people don't go around drinking benzene like it's harmless. Alcohol is a socially-accepted drug with many health risks that often go overlooked. Many parents would rather their kids drink booze than smoke weed, which is counter-intuitive from a health perspective. That's why I made the comparison.
 
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