It's extremely rare to encounter
actual homophobia in Melbourne. Guys in certain environments (at the pub, at the footy) will say poofta or whatever but that's not actually meant to hurt anyone. They just say that cause they're insecure and they want to "fit in". When it comes down to it, the vast majority of blokey men don't have any issue with what people do in their bedroom. I don't think I've ever met anyone that doesn't think gay people should be allowed to have sex with each other. The issue - I think - is: everyone is supposed to
like it.
Personally, I don't care if an 80 year old woman doesn't approve of homosexuality. I also don't care if she approves of me smoking weed or watching South Park. She's 80. Who fucking cares?
Lovecraft said:
I can't for the life of me understand why anyone has a problem with the fact that there are people who don't feel aligned with the gender that is associated with their biological sex and happens to feel better about being alive if they live as another gender. Even if they feel the need to go all the way with it surgically. Why does it matter to anyone?
The trans thing is the same but also different. I don't care if people want to say they're a woman when they were born a man. I'll even use their preferred pronouns, within reason. I don't care if they get surgery either, on an individual basis. I am - however - concerned about lying to people in order to not hurt their feelings. I'm conflicted about it. If a trans woman asks me if I think they're a woman, I will say no. I'm not going to be pressured into lying to people "for their own good" because I don't believe it does them any good. On the contrary, it harms them in the long run IMO. I apply this rule fundamentally. Truth is important to me.
The other thing I hear is that kids are somehow being indoctrinated to become trans by the media and teachers, which I think is absolute nonsense and can't happen
It is extremely dangerous to say this
can't happen. It would have been confusing for me if I grew up during the trans movement and my plate was already full.
I have a history of mental health issues. My wife has a history of mental health issues. I'm genuinely concerned about the mental welfare of my daughter and other people's children being raised in such a bizarre and confusing society.
Maybe the trans movement isn't crazy. Maybe there are women who have penises. We don't know everything about gender, so let's not pretend that we suddenly have all the answers. "Transphobic" people aren't really telling trans people what to think. It's the other way round.
I'm being told I have to accept things that I wasn't taught in school... that nobody was taught in school... because - all of a sudden - a very small group of people decided to change the way humanity perceives gender which is a
huge thing.
You can't realistically expect the entire world to suddenly jump on board. Honestly, I think the world has done an amazing job of accommodating the emergence of this particular ideology in the west.
I don't have to change my definition of man and woman to suit trans people.
Similarly, trans people don't have to change their definitions to suit me.
@~Winterborn~
@Snafu in the Void
Give me a break about this being a political conspiracy from republicans. Men are literally turning their penises inside out and demanding the world recognize them as women. The only (widespread) suspect thing happening here, politically, is the left forcing everyone to accept their reality... or else.
Throwing out gender (without an adequate explanation) after a billion of years of evolution is a hard sell.
I struggle to comprehend why people think this is a no-brainer.
To boil it down, the best explanation I can get for the trans thing is: he said he's a woman, so he's a woman now. We're all supposed to all just suddenly accept that and restructure something as fundamental as gender?
He is not a woman.
There isn't cis woman and trans woman.
There is woman and trans woman (man).