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Am I the only woman against marriage?

"a 35 year old female who isn't married, likes to hang out with friends and has nothing to tie her down (including kids) is rare. I have a motorcycle, a fast car, I bring boys home on a whim if I want, I play video games and prefer a restaurant to cooking. I live a 20 year old lifestyle except I'm more financially secure."

no shit their rare.. still looking for my sugar mamma like this..
 
Thanks everyone again for your responses. Nice to confirm that I'm not the only one!

As far as those of you who disagree with me, thanks for being civil about it. :)
 
I know a lot of women who are not interested in marriage... but that's something that changes throughout a person's life. I know a few couple's who have been living together for 10+ years and are against it, but my feeling is that if it doesn't matter to you, don't do it because it therefore doesn't matter-- if it does matter to you, do it because obviously it does matter. I don't think that marriage in itself has any kind of spiritual or universal value. I think it depends how the two people that enter into it think about it.

I'm not interested in getting married now, but that will probably change. I'm also not interested in having kids now, but that will probably change as well. I'm twenty-three years old and I want to have fun and figure out who I am and who I want to be before I get married. And I want to have a chance to do a lot of different things so that I can meet a lot of different people and have an idea of who I want to spend the rest of my life with. So if someone asked me to marry them now, I would say no (I have been asked once and said no, but that had nothing to do with marriage and everything to do with the man asking).

I don't feel any rush to get married. I don't want to have kids until I'm in my '30s. I have way too many issues and way too many things to do before I devote enormous amounts of my life to taking care of someone else. But I do want to have kids and get married some day. The ring, the wedding, the vows-- they have meaning to me. Not the marriage license.
 
GlassAss420 said:
"a 35 year old female who isn't married, likes to hang out with friends and has nothing to tie her down (including kids) is rare. I have a motorcycle, a fast car, I bring boys home on a whim if I want, I play video games and prefer a restaurant to cooking. I live a 20 year old lifestyle except I'm more financially secure."

no shit their rare.. still looking for my sugar mamma like this..
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You're spot on there Glassass, they're** very rare and IMO Lysis and and women like her are goddesses.

I'm yet to meet one but probably never will!
 
Goddesses come in all sorts of skins.:\

And we all have our own perspectives.

Does time shift perspective or does perspective shift time?
 
I was a serial monogamist. I wasn't against marriage but I felt that I had no need for it until I met my my now husband at 31 years old. I knew within 2 months I wanted to marry this man. Those leap of faith feelings had never come easily to me until I met him. It was bizarre but I felt so strongly about it. I tended to lead my relationships with my head not my heart. I continue to have no desire to have children. At almost 39 years old, that is not going to change.
 
Perpetual Indulgence said:
I was a serial monogamist. I wasn't against marriage but I felt that I had no need for it until I met my my now husband at 31 years old. I knew within 2 months I wanted to marry this man. Those leap of faith feelings had never come easily to me until I met him. It was bizarre but I felt so strongly about it. I tended to lead my relationships with my head not my heart. I continue to have no desire to have children. At almost 39 years old, that is not going to change.
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Just curious about the kids thing...have you never had the desire or have you thought about it? I keep going back and forth. Usually I stick to "no" when I'm subjected to someone's bratty kid. I can't STAND bratty kids, and let's face it, how many kids are not annoying brats? They drive me nuts, but people tell me if it was my own kid, it would be a different feeling. I also find that most people excuse the kid's bad behavior with "oh, they are genius level" or "oh, the teacher doesn't understand them, because they tested higher than x% of others." Yeah, right lady.

My ex had kids, and they had their good moments. They were brats (I believe) because both their mom and dad didn't really spend any time with them, and the kids were stupid because neither of them spent time on homework. The ex looked at their math homework, and the girl was not educated and was telling her sons how to do the math wrong. I was going to step in and help teach them math, but we broke up before that. I felt kinda bad for them. I would not be surprised if the youngest isn't arrested by 12 years old. The kid was just bad..bad bad bad. I won't be surprised if the kid is the next criminal.
 
I knew as early as 18-19 years old that I had no interest in being a mother. I understand how much time, money, and effort goes into parenting and that is as appealing as having cancer. I believe I would be a fantastic mother but having pets alters our lives enough. Oddly, I ended up working in pediatric ophthalmology and enjoy it immensely. I like watching the progression of a human being that I have very little to do with (except preventing blindness). I am not one of those women who want to hold nor watch your kid even if they are my niece or nephew. I find it taxing and fake. Now pay me my salary and I will do it with a smile.

I have often said I bet of you hooked me up to an EEG, you would see the same brain waves with me holding a kid or a watermelon.
 
Lysis said:
a 35 year old female who isn't married, likes to hang out with friends and has nothing to tie her down (including kids) is rare. I have a motorcycle, a fast car, I bring boys home on a whim if I want, I play video games and prefer a restaurant to cooking. I live a 20 year old lifestyle except I'm more financially secure.
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Where do I sign up?
 
Lysis, you sound absolutely amazing. I don't mean to be a creeper, but from what you said here I look up to you. However, I am with the man of my dreams, and I absolutely want to marry him. I want to be where you are in 10 years, with the man I love by my side, playing dead rising with me until late at night, bringing home exotic partners, riding on the back of my <3 husbands Ducatti. I think you can have a free lifestyle with the right person, and marriage doesn't mean being tied down. I have the right person, who I care about dearly and is open to certain aspects of sexual exploration. I didnt believe in love before i met him, thinking it was some evolutionary, biochemical trait, and total bullshit. Then I met him, and I knew it was real. I don't want a pretentious white wedding, a huge block party that neither of our families were invited to would be just fine. The only problem is him pushing me to have a kid. I've made it clear that if anything "happens" to my birth control pills, and I end up pregnant, we won't be keeping the baby. He just gets all quiet and sulky, saying "one day". I would prefer a watermelon to a child, but couldn't imagine shoving either out of my... You get the idea. I cry getting a shot. I couldn't handle giving birth. Or the headaches that come from raising a kid. I cant even stand sitting near a crying baby on a plane or in a restaurant, and I WILL tell something to mothers who pretend like they can their kid screaming. I'm quite happy with 2 dogs, a cat, and a few wilting houseplants I always forget to water.
 
Mistress Poppy, lol we have the same opinion when it comes to kids. I know I couldn't handle childbirth. If I got pregnant, I'd get an abortion. Of course, I will do everything I can to prevent that from happening. Kids being obnoxious in public make me say some horrible things lol.
 
I don't agree with marriage, I think it's a religious and materialistic thing...well, from the shit I've seen, anyways..
I don't need a big fat ring on my finger and a document proclaiming that a certain man in my life is my "husband" to be with the one I love and know that he loves me back. And I especially don't need to receive divorce papers saying that I gotta pay up and then split all of our possessions in half when he realizes that he doesn't love me anymore. I mean, I could get a prenup, but fuck it. I've seen so many ugly marriages and so much bullshit, hate, and anger to make me want to never be married. It's not necessary to me..
 
^^ Very true, but I would take the big fat diamond fo' sho'. ;) Maybe I can convince someone to give me diamonds but leave out the marriage part. lol
 
Super-Positively support It.

I super-positively support anti-marriage. marriage is just a legal form, it doesn't mean the real love, marriage is just like the responsibility and duty, but responsibility and duty are extremely different with love. love someone doesn't mean to restrict or manipulate them.
I don't like the idea that changin' my last name to let the other last name to take over, it makes me feel like I'm a property not a human, only the properties are named after a person.
If the marriage systems in the whole wide world become more complete and fair and less orient to males, maybe I won't oppose it.
 
^ Yeah, call me a feminist or whatever, but changing last names bothers me, too.
 
ever since i was a kid, i knew i never wanted to have kids. i'd like to have my tubes tied. as for marriage, i can't see it ever really happening for me. i don't think i would go for the marrying kind. and i can't see myself doing it.
 
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