Roger&Me
Bluelighter
haha I'm really glad I don't have a facebook. Sounds like a fucking hassle.
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He deleted me off of facebook
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modern buddha
Bluelighter
He has some kind of girlfriend / fuckbuddy / fwb / whatever.
He doesn't want you knowing.
He doesn't want you knowing.
chr0niclove
Bluelighter
Well we were just friends and thats what we both wanted to be. Then I ended up falling for him and I tried to do some subtle hints but not even sure if he got them. I did the subtle hints at first just to see if he would pick up on it... Like he seemed into me but then all I felt like was that I was getting mixed signals. I mean for the relationship part but our friendship was going great.
Unbreakable
Bluelighter
Most men won't turn down some pootang that has a Neon Arror blinking to the box; with the signals your sending he should know what is up.... But instead of pursuing the Open pootang invitation he is laying down the line that he wants to be friends or friends with benifits but his not going to chase it.... Pretty much the best i can break it down and i would assume fellow bluelight dudes would agree with what I am saying here
Benefit
Bluelighter
There is absolutely no way anyone on this site can tell you why this person stopped talking to you. At the risk of stating the obvious, you should ask the person in question. Perhaps you should try poking him?
shahab6
Bluelighter
I see, that's probably the reason why…
I went out for a girl, and she really really liked me, and she wanted to go out again with me, and she was keep texting and messaging me.
but she lived too far away from me, and I wasn't attracted to her.
Instead of just telling her, I just deleted her, too show her, I'm not interested anymore,
I know it's a bad thing to do, but I didn't want to tell her straight up.
Anyway point is he's no longer interested, why his not interested we don't know.
also you have to remember, people only have time for certain amount of people to spend time with in a day.
Anyway don't think about it too much.
If you really want to know call his phone from a blocked number, tell him you're not upset but just curious and ask him why he decided to end the friendship by deleting you from Facebook...
also let us know what he says..
drugfukkdrockstar
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I guess at the end of thew day though, it's human nature to feel a sense of rejection when someone has removed you from the most simplest things such as facebook.
These days Facebook is a main driver within the social network, so for someone to remove you can be quite a shock. Especially if you have invested time into the person and their reasoning is unclear.
It's normal to feel an initial shock and and some kind of emotion, but anything beyond that isn't worth the energy.
As they say, its' just facebook and people have their reasons. But i know in your situation it's classed as a form of rejection.
I say forget about the dude and move forward.
And while the pics on this page make a good point, they're depressing. so don't look at them
These days Facebook is a main driver within the social network, so for someone to remove you can be quite a shock. Especially if you have invested time into the person and their reasoning is unclear.
It's normal to feel an initial shock and and some kind of emotion, but anything beyond that isn't worth the energy.
As they say, its' just facebook and people have their reasons. But i know in your situation it's classed as a form of rejection.
I say forget about the dude and move forward.
And while the pics on this page make a good point, they're depressing. so don't look at them
pofacedhoe
Bluelight Crew
is it not a possibility that he was in love with you and in order to get over the fact that nothing was going to happen and end the torture that he removed you from his life to move on. had you not considered that? seems quite plausible. the only people i cut contact with are the ones that are detrimental to my wellbeing and unrequited love is painfull and distracts from real opportunities.
chr0niclove
Bluelighter
I guess at the end of thew day though, it's human nature to feel a sense of rejection when someone has removed you from the most simplest things such as facebook.
These days Facebook is a main driver within the social network, so for someone to remove you can be quite a shock. Especially if you have invested time into the person and their reasoning is unclear.
It's normal to feel an initial shock and and some kind of emotion, but anything beyond that isn't worth the energy.
As they say, its' just facebook and people have their reasons. But i know in your situation it's classed as a form of rejection.
I say forget about the dude and move forward.
And while the pics on this page make a good point, they're depressing. so don't look at them
Thank you and yeah I feel stupid to be like he deleted me off facebook. Like I know it's just facebook and I never even care to go on it but this situation was different. All I can say is I'm not hurt over this and I'm just going to leave it be. Of course I do want to see him just to say fuck you but oh well I won't. It's just he's the only guy who has done this to me and I mean it would of been cool for him just to give me a reason why instead of being lame and just deleting me like a pussy.
often, in cases like this, we just want an answer and we're never going to get one. i think you need to make peace with the fact that you may never find out what happened here and move on.
if he doesn't want to remain in contact with you and this is how he went about it, why on earth would you want to be friends with him?
alasdair
if he doesn't want to remain in contact with you and this is how he went about it, why on earth would you want to be friends with him?
alasdair
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Lysis
Bluelighter
Just curious -- can't you just PM him through FB and ask?
addictivepersona
Bluelight Crew
Lysis, had you read everything that the OP said (8)) you'd see that she did message him through there but doesn't want to appear clingy or something and send him another message. (Lysis, FTR, don't mean to come off as offensive: I'm just paraphrasing what the OP replied to numerous others throughout the thread, about reading "everything [she] said.")
OP, it's Facebook. If FB isn't the issue, then move. on. I had a very tough time moving on when my friends (all of them. Not just one.) dumped me like a sack of bricks (mainly due to addiction), so trust me: The sooner you move on, the quicker you can get on with your life. Your life is better without him.
OP, it's Facebook. If FB isn't the issue, then move. on. I had a very tough time moving on when my friends (all of them. Not just one.) dumped me like a sack of bricks (mainly due to addiction), so trust me: The sooner you move on, the quicker you can get on with your life. Your life is better without him.
chr0niclove
Bluelighter
I'm talking about the first message. I didn't mean the whole thread. I had to say that because obviously everyone was just posting without reading something. They looked at the thread title and just assumed it was about a facebook deletion. So thanks. And yeah I'm just going to move on. I'm not going to waste anymore time on this because it's not worth it.
Thanks, I know it appears now that we weren't actually that good of friends. And when I look at it now it doesn't matter anymore so I'm just going to forget about it.
maybe its been said..
Is possible that it was accidental? Just a thought.. another possibility may be what kind of relationship you had.. was it based on doing drugs? I only ask because of the nature of this site. Sometimes when people are trying to make changes they need to avoid people. If its about drugs there is a point when people don't want their friends to know they are trying because they may get resistance if/when they decide to use again.. just somethings to consider if you haven't already..
Is possible that it was accidental? Just a thought.. another possibility may be what kind of relationship you had.. was it based on doing drugs? I only ask because of the nature of this site. Sometimes when people are trying to make changes they need to avoid people. If its about drugs there is a point when people don't want their friends to know they are trying because they may get resistance if/when they decide to use again.. just somethings to consider if you haven't already..
chr0niclove
Bluelighter
No it wasn't accidental I'm sure and he never replied to my message. And the friendship wasn't based off of drugs. We did smoke each other out or have some psychedelics but it wasn't like the only thing we did. And I know he didn't quit drugs at all. A lot of his close friends use worse than him and he is still in contact with them.
chr0niclove
Bluelighter
Lol I know this whole thread is like wtf but that's how this situation feels to me. And yeah I heard Jakk Frost before he's pretty good and actually has more to offer in his lyrics than some of these philly rappers.
RareForm
Bluelight Crew
CoffeeDrinker
Bluelighter
I say forget about the dude and move forward.
And while the pics on this page make a good point, they're depressing. so don't look at them
I say the pics on the page are pretty key to this whole thing here.
Look into those kid's eyes! I'm sure they'd love to do mushrooms just like the rest of us, but they'll probably hallucinate a giant vulture or something and run off into the desert never to be seen again. Think about that the next time you trip...
Rejection sucks, sorry about that OP.
![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
Here's some lyrics from Bob Dylan to cheer you up:
"...I've been meek, and hard like an oak
I've seen pretty people disappear like smoke
friends will ariiiise, then disappear
If you want me, honey baby I'll be here..."
yeah Listen to that whole song. It might be perfect for this little snippet of life.
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chr0niclove
Bluelighter
Good for you.
I say the pics on the page are pretty key to this whole thing here.
Look into those kid's eyes! I'm sure they'd love to do mushrooms just like the rest of us, but they'll probably hallucinate a giant vulture or something and run off into the desert never to be seen again. Think about that the next time you trip...
Rejection sucks, sorry about that OP.
Here's some lyrics from Bob Dylan to cheer you up:
"...I've been meek, and hard like an oak
I've seen pretty people disappear like smoke
friends will ariiiise, then disappear
If you want me, honey baby I'll be here..."
yeah Listen to that whole song. It might be perfect for this little snippet of life.
Thank you both and to the second poster I will check out that song.