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Okay, this is is coming from a 23 yr old female with plenty of "experience" lol... My suggestion, talk to her. She might even be thinking the same thing. And if so, well, have you seen the movie Me You and Everyone We Know? You should check it out.

but really, it's not like you've cheated on her, and you should make that very clear to her. But do explain that she is the love of your life (if she is) but you are just afraid that because you're 19 years old, you still have urges to play around. I'm guessing she might too, just be honest with her, honesty does really go far. Anyway, good luck!
 
I met my current fiance 6 years ago when I was 18. We dated for about a month at the very beginning of University, and I realized I REALLY liked her, so what did I do?
The smart thing- I broke up with her immediately. We stayed friends for 5 years while I did my thing (mostly lots of drugs and sex - like any good college age kid should experience) and then when I was graduating we kinda got back together and then got super serious and are now really happy.

Just remember you are only 19, your body wants to inseminate as many women as possible as quickly as possible right now.
So do it. Well, wear a condom, but you know what I mean.
 
muvolution said:
Just remember you are only 19, your body wants to inseminate as many women as possible as quickly as possible right now.
So do it. Well, wear a condom, but you know what I mean.
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hahaha - sage advice right there :p

though you're lucky - by breaking up with her, you risked some other dude snapping her up during that time. which could well happen to the OP if he decides to walk.

I vote either talk to her or let the relationship run its course. I would be very amazed if two 19 year-olds had done enough soul searching in this life to be 'sure' they were with their ideal mate (aside from the fact humans are not innately monogamous)
 
^ I agree, I do consider myself a very lucky guy.

But seriously, who else is going to snap her up when I'm obviously the best guy in the world?

We went our separate ways knowing that we may or may not end up together again. It either happened for a "reason" or because we really are right for each other.

Spread your seed far and wide, young grasshopper.
 
if you've got a nice girl, i can't understand why you would want to cheat on her. if i had a nice girl, no way would i cheat on her. my advice to you would be if you carry on cheating with other women, you will lose this girl. is that what you want.
 
StrutterGear said:
. I love her but I wana fuck other women.
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You are 19 years old. Of course you want to fuck other women. I am a female and not a tad disturbed by this statement. The man's typical quandry: how to gets lots of ass on the side without thinking of yourself as a total dick because you are cheating on a woman that you love and that loves you. You'll find a way around it - most men do. Or you can man up and tell your chick you would like to "date" other women. If you do not feel you owe her the truth, what do you feel you owe her? Let me tell you something I have learned from experience: I can get ass any night of the week. Now, love? That is a whole 'nother story. Love is ecstasy - it is the BEST THING EVER. Love is worth hanging on to. But again, you are 19! So I can see your dilemma, I really can. But if you love her, do the right thing.
 
I think you're looking at it all wrong. No matter what age you are I think you always need to look at a relationship from the perspective of the NOW, or a more short-term perspective (especially because most of relationship only work in the short-term). I don't really understand those who can think of things in the long-term or lifelong sense and not go crazy. I've only ever being able to look at it in the short-term and that way nothing is really a problem, though when you're really in love it's natural to want things to last and expect it will always stay that way because that's how you feel then.

But if you're still 19, of course thinking you'll have to settle down for life and never have any more variety would make you freak out, and as that probably won't be the case you shouldn't really worry about it but just enjoy it for what it is now. Feeling the need to see others while panicking at the thought of the other person doing the same is also completely normal. After all it's not something that would hurt you the same way.

Also, males freaking out so much at the idea of longterm commitment is kind of silly from my point of view, as females in most cases will lose interest before that ever happens and are just as likely, or even more, to break off more serious relationships first. We just don't worry as much about it initially but have no problem ending a relationship when that that desire first strikes us. Males are a bit more forward-thinking, I feel, which is also probably why they worry about it more. They don't like the idea of getting tied down too long or getting emotionally involved and getting hurt. But it's all in your attitude towards it.
 
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