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GOOD sex, and Girls who just Lie there,
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ChickenScratch
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i wish she'd go back on birth control so i could just blow it inside of her and keep going. something about pulling out that makes me go all noodle dick.
certain times of the month, you can...
ChickenScratch
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yea, but there is something about the thought of even getting her pregnant right now that is completely a turn off, even if it's safe.
Busty St Clare
Ex-Bluelighter
Please tell me they didn't teach you that in sex ed.
Not only is it possible to get pregnant when you have your period, but since the opening of your cervix widens -- to let the unneeded build up of the uterine lining leave your body -- you can be at increased risk for pelvic infections and HIV.
i was talking to a guy about that last night. he was under the impression that a girl couldn't get pregnant if she was on her period. it's not super likely but definitely possible. the sperm can hang around for up to 5 days, so the woman could ovulate during that time. he's lucky he never learnt that the hard way!
"girls who just lie there" are the result of an oppressive, male dominated, sexually repressive world.
women hold the power of sex, women contain the raw sexual energies in this world, and women hold all the secrets of life.
men decided to ruin this about 8,000 years ago, and now sex sucks compared to what it was a few tens of thousands of years in the past.
women are the superior sexual half of the species, men are vastly inferior. to my bretheren out there: the sooner you recognize this, the sooner you will find yourself knee deep in pussy.
women hold the power of sex, women contain the raw sexual energies in this world, and women hold all the secrets of life.
men decided to ruin this about 8,000 years ago, and now sex sucks compared to what it was a few tens of thousands of years in the past.
women are the superior sexual half of the species, men are vastly inferior. to my bretheren out there: the sooner you recognize this, the sooner you will find yourself knee deep in pussy.
no - they didn't teach me that in sex-ed unfortunately. it's something i've only recently started learning.
yes. any woman, whether on birth control pills or not, experiences widening of the cervix during her period. she's just as likely to get PID and HIV while on birth control pills. in addition, ChickenScratch is married and monogamous and thus, i don't think he needs to worry about STIs with his wife.
actually, i recently posted a thread concerning Calendar and Symptoms-based contraception. clickie feel free to contribute. i was hoping for more discussion.
from what i've read, it's possible but very unlikely - especially, so if a woman is experiencing a regular 28-32 day cycle and an average 3-7 day period.
"making out" grosses me out
I have a problem with kissing. I hate kissing. I hate the thought of it. Mouths and other mouths grosses me out. Now, I know I have totally outed myself as being very strange. Does anyone else out there feel this way? Am I the only woman (the only person?) in the world that does not like to kiss lips?
I like to use my mouth and tongue during sex, but not on the guy's mouth. His tongue in my mouth? Gag. Gag. Gag. But I can't tell a sex partner "don't kiss me" because that fukks up the momentum. I have solved this for myself by getting directly into his pants and getting his cock in my mouth.
I have gotten pretty quick with it over the years. I'll undo that belt, that button and that zipper and pull his dick out in 2.2 seconds so I can put my head down into his crotch and start slobbering all over his knob. I mean, that's what I want; that's why I'm there. I'm not in love with him. I don't want to kiss him.
What do you think? Am I the only one? Who am I kidding... I must be the only one. I think a clean cock is delicious and I love to feel it pulsing against my tongue and the roof of my mouth as he cumms. It satisfies me to swallow his cum while he is cumming. That moan, those tense hip muscles, and then that burst of flavor and heat...Yes. Yes. Yes.
I don't want his face in my face or his tongue in my mouth but that seems to be the general way people begin sex. When I was a teenager I enjoyed making out but those days are decades in the past.....
I have a problem with kissing. I hate kissing. I hate the thought of it. Mouths and other mouths grosses me out. Now, I know I have totally outed myself as being very strange. Does anyone else out there feel this way? Am I the only woman (the only person?) in the world that does not like to kiss lips?
I like to use my mouth and tongue during sex, but not on the guy's mouth. His tongue in my mouth? Gag. Gag. Gag. But I can't tell a sex partner "don't kiss me" because that fukks up the momentum. I have solved this for myself by getting directly into his pants and getting his cock in my mouth.
I have gotten pretty quick with it over the years. I'll undo that belt, that button and that zipper and pull his dick out in 2.2 seconds so I can put my head down into his crotch and start slobbering all over his knob. I mean, that's what I want; that's why I'm there. I'm not in love with him. I don't want to kiss him.
What do you think? Am I the only one? Who am I kidding... I must be the only one. I think a clean cock is delicious and I love to feel it pulsing against my tongue and the roof of my mouth as he cumms. It satisfies me to swallow his cum while he is cumming. That moan, those tense hip muscles, and then that burst of flavor and heat...Yes. Yes. Yes.
I don't want his face in my face or his tongue in my mouth but that seems to be the general way people begin sex. When I was a teenager I enjoyed making out but those days are decades in the past.....
intrigued and don't necessarily disagree, but what the fuck are you talking about? elaborate please.
If that was the entire depth and breadth of human sexuality, I think I'd train to be a monk tomorrow. At least I'd learn some awesome kung fu.
The "starfish" exists in all cultures but I would be willing to bet good money they'd be far more common amongst societies that are ruled by religious dogma that seeks to make women feel ashamed or dirty for their sexuality.
So in western societies, what excuse do these girls have? Is it laziness, disinterest (where sex is a means to an end) or, for a myriad of possible reasons, they've experienced life in a way that has distanced them so much from their sexuality that they feel their "function" is to just lie there.
64tf
Bluelighter
An inactive lover is horrid thing, weather it be the male or female. There are plenty of guys that just lay there to. It takes conscious effort and action to be a good lover.
Both sides need to be as generous as possible.
Both sides need to be as generous as possible.
Monkeybizness
Bluelighter
Lol funny I don't like kissing strangers but I love smushing my SO . When I was single and would go out to the clubs with my friends I would get terrefied when I would catch my girlfriends in the corner slobbering all over a stranger! ewwwwwwwww its would creep me out so bad !!I have never made out at random with a stranger . I like to get to know the person a bit before I do .
My boyfriend on the other hand it took a while for him to get use to kissing his ex lover didn't like it at all .. Now after 3 year he's soften up.. I completly understand kissing strangers but after getting to know someone its a way of showing affection
Know thyself - reveal your mind
well here is one tip: if a woman is just "lying there," (damn i cringe just reading that, let alone writing it), she isnt comfortable, and you havent summoned up her sexual energy. Maybe she isnt honestly attracted to you? Maybe youre only thinking of yourself and leaving her out of the picture? Maybe she is only submitting to this eerie and odd ritual due to socialized pressures? Maybe you should calmly speak to her that its ok to stop there, and the two of you can continue another time when youre ready? You might be surprised how quickly that changes the mood - assuming she was actually impressed by you in the first place.
Maybe you are perhaps jacking yourself off with someone else's body, rather than having sex with them?
everyone has a drive for sex, men and women alike, and (biological) history supports the notion that women have stronger and more prolonged sex drives than men. when women attempt to satisfy that drive, and all they get is ... this guy ... i mean, who wouldnt starfish? Ugh, lets get this over with... oh wait, im supposed to convince him I enjoy this...
understand this experience is not about you, and it is not about your dick, and it certainly isnt about your 6.4 second long squirt of an orgasm. the goal is not for you to blow your load. the goal is to harmonize your sexual energies, and exchange these energies back and forth. you have your whole life to fuck - why rush to the end? if either of you isnt comfortable, feel each other out until you are. this may require you being comfortable with yourself first. this, in turn, may require rejecting all the bullshit mass media and corporate oligarchy has crammed into your mind about who you are and what youre supposed to be. once you know yourself, you can know another. once youve known another in such a comfortable state, you may find that such a state of harmony is hardly difficult to ease a total stranger into.
heres one powerful little bite sized food for thought: agriculture was developed around 12,000 years ago. the first nuclear families appeared around 5,000 years ago for most of the world, 8,000 in some places. thats a massive gap between sedentary cultures and the development of families. many paleo-anthropologists suggest this is due to the fact that womens' sex drives required that long to submit to male dominance. it took four to seven thousand years for families to form from a prior "unorganized" mass, who likely all fucked each other in one hedonistic yet spiritual orgy for hundreds of thousands of years. thats a bit of an exaggeration, but you get the point i hope: there wasnt a vagina that only had one dick to itself until quite recently in our phylogenetic record.
once men took control, civilization could result. then could come the most primitive forms of government. shortly thereafter, depletion of the Earth's natural resources, disease on a widespread scale, man made disasters such as swarms of locusts or diversion of rivers to floodplains or starvation from failed monoculture, and of course right on the heels of such developments: war, and the first standing armies. i might be slightly biased in civilization's disfavor, but im really not a fan of how cold its caused human sexuality to become.
getting ahead of myself i suppose... i have a tendency to rattle on when it comes to the ancients
when youre done having sex, do you think she is done? or do you think she realizes thats all she gets and other biological drives quickly take over? that exchange could easily be internal, and not even consciously recognized. what do you think would happen after you came, even if your female partner came, if another hard cock was right there ready to go? think shed say, "no thanks! ive had enough!"
i think if we could have a little contest - how many times can the average man cum in one session vs how many times could the average woman cum in one session - i think we boys would fail miserably vs our ladies. ancient anthropology would also support the idea that after any such "festivities," women may just end up with each other after their men are sufficiently "drained."
how many bisexual women do you know? no, i dont mean girls that like attention from their hounding jockstraps in some popcollar stuffed bar, but i mean women who are legitimately bisexual. Ask them how many times their female partners make them cum and how many times they make their partner cum, vs their experiences with men on the same manner. Re-evaluate who you think contains more sexual energy after having this discussion with many. Oh look, we got a sex forum right here!
here is some interesting reading, im really just using my typical barbaric speech to sum up a shit ton of feminist literature, paleolithic anthropological research, and ancient spiritual arts:
Mary Jane Sherfey - The Nature and Evolution of Female Sexuality
Simone de Beauvoir - The Second Sex (and also All Said and Done)
Marilyn Frye - The Politics of Reality
Emma Goldman - Anarchism and Other Essays (anything she writes is gold, but mostly concerning politics. still - there is a strong connection to the struggle against patriarchal domination)
Hsi Lai - The Sexual Teachings of the White Tigress
Daniel P. Reid - The Tao of Health, Sex, and Longevity
Aldous Huxley - Island (more of a "food for thought" piece of fiction)
... pretty much any informational piece of Neolithic and Paleolithic cultures will also show strong tendencies towards Matriarchal cultures. Biology supports this as well, why do you think male sperm are so well equipped to fight off other men's sperm? How would millions of years of evolution in a monogamous, male dominated world evolve a trait such as that? An untamed female sex drive is nearly impossible to completely sate, and requires multiple male partners. Funny how we men these days are so quick to admonish one another for our many conquests, and immediately cast disdain on any woman who would dare speak openly of a similar sexual liberty.
In fact, up until about 100 BC/BCE, even the western Steppe cultures such as the Scythians or Sarmatians held women in what could be perceived as "higher" places than men, though you could state they strove for equality (balance). Women would often sleep with every man of the tribe before choosing a husband. Women would be required to slay an enemy before obtaining the right to procreate. Women would
Hell, even Akhenaten's heresies were strongly wrapped in seeking balance between masculine and feminine energies, as was quite an usurpation in an extremely patriarchal culture.
i can tell you one thing: if God had made me a woman, id be long dead by now, at the hands of my terrified male oppressors.
well here is one tip: if a woman is just "lying there," (damn i cringe just reading that, let alone writing it), she isnt comfortable, and you havent summoned up her sexual energy. Maybe she isnt honestly attracted to you? Maybe youre only thinking of yourself and leaving her out of the picture? Maybe she is only submitting to this eerie and odd ritual due to socialized pressures? Maybe you should calmly speak to her that its ok to stop there, and the two of you can continue another time when youre ready? You might be surprised how quickly that changes the mood - assuming she was actually impressed by you in the first place.
Maybe you are perhaps jacking yourself off with someone else's body, rather than having sex with them?
everyone has a drive for sex, men and women alike, and (biological) history supports the notion that women have stronger and more prolonged sex drives than men. when women attempt to satisfy that drive, and all they get is ... this guy ... i mean, who wouldnt starfish? Ugh, lets get this over with... oh wait, im supposed to convince him I enjoy this...
understand this experience is not about you, and it is not about your dick, and it certainly isnt about your 6.4 second long squirt of an orgasm. the goal is not for you to blow your load. the goal is to harmonize your sexual energies, and exchange these energies back and forth. you have your whole life to fuck - why rush to the end? if either of you isnt comfortable, feel each other out until you are. this may require you being comfortable with yourself first. this, in turn, may require rejecting all the bullshit mass media and corporate oligarchy has crammed into your mind about who you are and what youre supposed to be. once you know yourself, you can know another. once youve known another in such a comfortable state, you may find that such a state of harmony is hardly difficult to ease a total stranger into.
heres one powerful little bite sized food for thought: agriculture was developed around 12,000 years ago. the first nuclear families appeared around 5,000 years ago for most of the world, 8,000 in some places. thats a massive gap between sedentary cultures and the development of families. many paleo-anthropologists suggest this is due to the fact that womens' sex drives required that long to submit to male dominance. it took four to seven thousand years for families to form from a prior "unorganized" mass, who likely all fucked each other in one hedonistic yet spiritual orgy for hundreds of thousands of years. thats a bit of an exaggeration, but you get the point i hope: there wasnt a vagina that only had one dick to itself until quite recently in our phylogenetic record.
once men took control, civilization could result. then could come the most primitive forms of government. shortly thereafter, depletion of the Earth's natural resources, disease on a widespread scale, man made disasters such as swarms of locusts or diversion of rivers to floodplains or starvation from failed monoculture, and of course right on the heels of such developments: war, and the first standing armies. i might be slightly biased in civilization's disfavor, but im really not a fan of how cold its caused human sexuality to become.
getting ahead of myself i suppose... i have a tendency to rattle on when it comes to the ancients
when youre done having sex, do you think she is done? or do you think she realizes thats all she gets and other biological drives quickly take over? that exchange could easily be internal, and not even consciously recognized. what do you think would happen after you came, even if your female partner came, if another hard cock was right there ready to go? think shed say, "no thanks! ive had enough!"
i think if we could have a little contest - how many times can the average man cum in one session vs how many times could the average woman cum in one session - i think we boys would fail miserably vs our ladies. ancient anthropology would also support the idea that after any such "festivities," women may just end up with each other after their men are sufficiently "drained."
how many bisexual women do you know? no, i dont mean girls that like attention from their hounding jockstraps in some popcollar stuffed bar, but i mean women who are legitimately bisexual. Ask them how many times their female partners make them cum and how many times they make their partner cum, vs their experiences with men on the same manner. Re-evaluate who you think contains more sexual energy after having this discussion with many. Oh look, we got a sex forum right here!
You are the master of your own universe. Why would you want to summon doom upon yourself? Change your words to: "i havent enjoyed kissing anyone as of yet." your whole life will change from such self determination. it works in every aspect of life. the other day, a coworker exclaimed to me, "its so hard to eat healthy!" and I replied to her, "correction: its very easy to eat unhealthy!"
here is some interesting reading, im really just using my typical barbaric speech to sum up a shit ton of feminist literature, paleolithic anthropological research, and ancient spiritual arts:
Mary Jane Sherfey - The Nature and Evolution of Female Sexuality
Simone de Beauvoir - The Second Sex (and also All Said and Done)
Marilyn Frye - The Politics of Reality
Emma Goldman - Anarchism and Other Essays (anything she writes is gold, but mostly concerning politics. still - there is a strong connection to the struggle against patriarchal domination)
Hsi Lai - The Sexual Teachings of the White Tigress
Daniel P. Reid - The Tao of Health, Sex, and Longevity
Aldous Huxley - Island (more of a "food for thought" piece of fiction)
... pretty much any informational piece of Neolithic and Paleolithic cultures will also show strong tendencies towards Matriarchal cultures. Biology supports this as well, why do you think male sperm are so well equipped to fight off other men's sperm? How would millions of years of evolution in a monogamous, male dominated world evolve a trait such as that? An untamed female sex drive is nearly impossible to completely sate, and requires multiple male partners. Funny how we men these days are so quick to admonish one another for our many conquests, and immediately cast disdain on any woman who would dare speak openly of a similar sexual liberty.
In fact, up until about 100 BC/BCE, even the western Steppe cultures such as the Scythians or Sarmatians held women in what could be perceived as "higher" places than men, though you could state they strove for equality (balance). Women would often sleep with every man of the tribe before choosing a husband. Women would be required to slay an enemy before obtaining the right to procreate. Women would
Hell, even Akhenaten's heresies were strongly wrapped in seeking balance between masculine and feminine energies, as was quite an usurpation in an extremely patriarchal culture.
i can tell you one thing: if God had made me a woman, id be long dead by now, at the hands of my terrified male oppressors.
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Busty St Clare
Ex-Bluelighter
I love when patients ask me what percentage of success/risk exists. I have to explain that even if it is 95% if you happen to be that other 5% then it is 100% probable. I'll be happy if you tell me there is zero chance of falling pregnant during a womens period, but as Chrissie mentioned earlier, sperm is pretty persistent in hanging around a womens nether region. I added a post in your thread about my experience of the rhythm method.
Pelvic infections are not reliant upon the partner straying.
Yes....
...."pressuring"....never fails.....
Yeah, but there was fat chance that was gonna work....
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....i'll show myself out
Jamshyd
Bluelight Crew
... Dude, you obviously have never been to Japan.
God how I love provoking this guy
