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old rollers--wish I could find them !

not2old

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Hi all--- My wife and I have just started rolling again after a hiatus of 6 years. I am 60 years old and my wife is 58. When I was in my late 40s I became a techo DJ and used to hang out with a group of friends (including other DJs) and we would have house parties at each others houses. They were mostly in their mid 20s to early 30s. I always felt a little out of place being much older than they were. Now that I started again, I find myself in the same situation, except now its worse. My new "friends" are in their 20s and 30s, but now I'm 60 and really feel uncomfortable and out of place, not because I feel different, but because I look different (older). I understand the situation.. its the way our society works.. we are kind of age segregated and thats just the way it is.

One of the things I like best about the rolling experience is doing it with others. I know I can do it at home with just my wife... we have done that and it is fun, but I miss the community experience. I would love to have a group of like-minded friends who are in their 40s or older... I'm sure that there are other older people in my area who roll, but I have no idea how to find them. Any suggestions ??? :)
 
My boyfriend's mom keeps asking me the same question.

We introduced her to rolling maybe a couple years back? Anyway, she had only ever rolled with us, and then we decided to invite all our roll family over with her. She said it was fun, but she also seemed super insecure and sensitive to the fact that she was nearly 40 years older than everyone (she's 61). Nobody else cared, but ever since she's been asking where to find "old rollers."

It's hard for her to ask around since her husband is an established business-owner, so she's constantly asking me to either ask dealers if they sell to older folks or asking my friends if their parents also roll. No luck so far! Anyway I was watching TV the other day and a commercial for a website for seniors came on. It was advertising being able to find people your age with similar interests. Immediately, I thought of my boyfriend's mom..but I don't know how smart it is to advertise online for roll buddies.

Nowadays I usually tell my boyfriend's mom (who has decided to stop rolling with us altogether but clearly still wants to...just with more people her age I guess) that she should just suck it up and give in to what ecstasy has to offer, regardless of your age. Besides, the longer you wait the older you'll be, and you'll have more regrets than if you'd just done what you wanted (and not been so insecure of who you are).

IDK, maybe if it were me I could understand where you're coming from. Kinda like it's easier said than done.

Best of luck to you, though. If anyone has some good suggestions I'm also interested in hearing....for my boyfriend's mom's sake!

plur!
 
Thanks scubagirl ! Good to hear of someone in a similar situation. I take it you are a diver ? Me too !
 
Yes, I'm advanced =P One of the best decisions I've ever made!

And edit to my previous post, his mom also wants desperately to attend massives/raves and also wanted to know of any venues that catered more to "old rollers." Yeah... =(

I also have to say, I appreciate the experiences we did have with her and wouldn't trade those for any parties I could have with people just my age/just my friends. Her different outlook on it and just the crazy/beautiful life stories she had to share with us were so amazing. Again, wouldn't trade it! So just know that although your insecurities are there, some of us younger users really appreciate having you around!
 
Wow...I can't imagine how hard it must be to find people to roll with that are your age. I'm 31 and I have trouble finding people my age. Most of my friends stopped awhile ago. I understand your frustration. It can be depressing.
 
I'm exactly the same and said so in this thread here

not2old, I feel your pain. I went out to a Steve Lawler night at a club in Edinburgh a few weeks back and it was a brilliant night, but it was seriously tainted by how out of it I felt ( age wise :) ). Now I'm 50, and have managed to escape this feeling until recently. There were always a few of us in a crowd all rolling ranging from 25 years old to 50 (me), so it was safety in numbers I guess, I felt fine and couldn't give a shit. Now that I struggle for rolling buddies, I feel very exposed and just plain old. I can't pretend anymore.

My wife doesn't roll. She had a bad experience once through some dodgy pipz and is convinced all MDMA is the devil's own now. So I can't even roll with her. As my friends have given up along the way, I now find myself rolling alone in a group. And I hate that. It's very much a social thing for me too and I need new rollin' buddies.

Read the above thread though if you haven't already, and you'll see we are not alone in being alone. Sad innit? We need to organise a rollin' oldie's night me thinks :) There is a small problem of this being a global community though.

Bearlove, you're right, festivals is probably the best way to meet fellow older rollers. Zimmer frames and mud don't go well though ;)
 
What about those of us in the Sates? Friends that don`t have time to roll, and not
having a quality connect because your not in the scene I guess is part of growing older. This is why I try to buy quantity of any quality I come across because I know one day I will be too damn old to have X connects.
 
Thanks all for your replies. Misery loves company eh ;) ? Good to know that there are others out there and its also good to know that us oldsters arent frowned upon by the youngsters !

As for my heart.... I think there are a few more years on the old ticker.. I'm in pretty good shape, or so it seems.
 
Check out the burner scene.

Its a lot of people from every kind of group, it ranges from children to old heads...

My first burn event was one of the greatest weekends of my life.
 
I met A LOT of older rollers at coachella this past year and it was awesome. Ive never had deeper conversations ever while rolling until i met these people and they ranged from 40-55.
 
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